I Dont Love Him.

[NightFighter]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months now but i've known him since August last year.

Since we got together he's been acting outrageously towards me. He would ruin whole weekends being in a mood over the slightest dumbest thing, he runs away from me in pretty dangerous areas when we go walking, gets upset whenever i make a light hearted joke, he would bail on plans with me if i hadnt texted him confirming the plans just before they happen even if he has no money to text back. Theres so many dumb crap he puts me through and afterwards makes out that im the bad one, that i have the problem.

I want to end it with him but i know itll destroy him. I mean really destroy him but he makes me sick everytime i look at him. I cant talk to him anymore. Hes promised me he's changed but i think its too late. I want to forgive and forget but i cant. I never can. Hes hurt me far too much, far too often and far to close to the beginning of the relationship.

I dont know what to do. Theres so many reasons not to end it with him right now e.g exams are coming up and he needs to beb in the right state of mind to do them, his family and mine are close and itll be really awkward if i dump him.
But i dont love him.

Maybe i do. Maybe stress has been getting to me lately. I want to be alone right now. I sound so stupid.

How can i end it with him? Im stuck.
What should i do?

:(

[Truth]

How can you end it with him? Dump him.
What should you do? What you think is right.

[NightFighter]

Its not that simple.
Hes truely madly in love with me. It would totally destroy him.
Im not even sure if i dont like him. I talked to someone about it and they said that it might be because of all the extra pressure im under. Im not sure if thats right. This should probably have been a blog. Ahwell.
Im really confused.

[ErykaInspire.]

If he was truly madly in love with you, he wouldn't put you through all of that crap.
You need a guy that can treat you with the respect you deserve.
It seems to me that you know what you want, and he's not it.
You should just tell him "look.. i think we should take a break. I need to clear my head, but I don't want to ruing our friendship. I'm willing to make this work, but i need time alone for a bit."
If you don't feel comfortable with that, try something along those lines.
Reassure him that you still want a relationship, and let him know (if you do want to get together again) that you just need time.
If he's worth it, he'll try to be positive about it. Give him some space though, don't FORCE friendship on him, let him make up his own mind.
Best of luck! if you need anything, i'm here.

[RaeNose]

Breaks don't work. We've (bf and I) tried. You either break up or you don't. Example: Ross and Rachel on FRIENDS.

I know what you're going through, there are points in my relationship where Sam sickens me; however, after a few days or so, I think about everything and I know that I want to be with him.
This, however, does not seem to be the case with you.
If you've made up your mind that you don't want to be with him, then you don't have to. You don't have to make up excuses. He may need you, but if he's going through something mentally or emotionally, he may also need professional help.
You obviously care about him, or else you would've dumped him a long time ago.
Just, be careful, we don't want him becoming some overly obsessed stalker who ends up hurting you more than her already has.

[ashleighhxbby]

if he really loved you he'd already have changed..for good. I think that if it makes you sick to look at him, you need to end it. It isnt worth the hurt on your part. He'll move on and find someone that feels the same. End it before it gets worse, it can only go downhill from here.

good luck(:

~Ash

[BuryYourFlame]

i think you need to talk to him first, before you make any big changes to your lives. let him know the things that he is doing wrong, tell him that you are thinking of breaking up with him, hopefully that will put things in perspective for him...

[sabotaged111]

hey, I'm Connor, firstly i noticed we're both from scotland! :D

But anyway, to the matter at hand.
I had the same situation with my gf, she was uptight and shit and she started to make me sick, after a 3 month relationship. She was getting more in love with me as i slowly began to hate her. She has had history of attempted suicide and the sort so i knew it wouldnt be great if i dumped her, but i knew i had to go threw with it because i was lying to myself aswell as being unfair to her.

So, i dumped her and she... fell down a huge pit of depression.

She didn't take it too well, she cut all her wrist multiple times. I also was told by her best friend that she tried to commit suicide by jumping in front of a car(which is a very stupid form of suicide, well actually all suicide is stupid but yeah, this is more stupid.) I tried to help her out of depression but she wouldn't take my help. So what I am trying to say to you is that you have to fight threw it all. You have to go for it and yeah i know, it's gonna be tough, but it's really unfair for both you and him.

*EDIT: OHH, forgot to say that she is now better and has found a new boyfriend!*

I'm sorry i cant give any great advice, i thought that an expierience of mine might help even just a little bit.

Goodluck, i hope everything goes well.
Connor.

[sam i am]

i say dump him u deserve better and u shouldn't be going through that

[RaeNose]

She shouldn't just break up with him without letting him know what he's doing wrong. He may not even realize that what he's doing is hurting her. I'm thinking that she needs to talk to him first, now that I've had time to consider all of the aspects of the situation.
Although, if you can't talk to him about it, then you're having communication issues, and that's one of the many signs of a struggling relationship. Like, when someone's drowning: when they're struggling to keep themselves at the surface (or keeping the relationship functioning properly), they can't express their feelings in a constructive manner, because they're a bit preoccupied with drowning.