I didn't want to fight...is that bad?

[BehindBlueEyes]

I'm not gonna go into detail, but I stood up to this person that's been giving me a hard time in school, and after the principal talked to us (Mostly him, though. I got off easy), he came up and said he wanted to fight me. I told him I didn't want to not because I was afraid, but because I knew that I would get into even more trouble with the office, and I didn't want that, so I just said "I'm not going to hit you.". He shoved me, then I just kept walking.

Should I have hit back? I feel like I did the cowardly thing, and I know that once I get back to school they're going to be saying I chickened out...what should I do? Or what should I have done?

[Hyper]

What you think is right..

For me that would've been hitting him...

For you it might've been walking away

But since your asking yourself the question.. Your either doubting yourself due to anxiety.. Or you did it wrong for yourself

[Rutherford The Brave]

Really, to be honest we cannot exactly tell you what is right. I can though tell you that in that situation, I would've said "please don't shove me" walked away and told a teacher/administrator. Bullying is a serious issues, and usually you shouldnt retalate to a bully, that just leads to more issues.

[Reality]

You don't want to fight. You don't have to. You did what you felt was the best thing, so you went along with it.

If it was me, myself, I'd fight back. I wouldn't care if I can get away with it or not. But that's just me and my male pride, maybe.

You should really try to ignore them that are going to say how you chicken'd out, too, and just hang with your friends. If the bullying persists, just tell someone you really can rely on. Doesn't have to be a teacher or something, just anyone.

[byee]

You did the right thing.

It's about judgement. Getting into a fight would have created problems, you assessed the consequences and decided it wasn't worth it. That's not cowardice, it's maturity (and good sound judgement).

Rep +. Welcome.

[INFERNO]

What is the point of you fighting? In order to not be perceived as a coward? Myself, I choose people with brains, ethics and morals. All of which you have displayed. If the other kids cannot see that, then explain to them why you don't want to fight and ask them why they want to. Does it prove you're "a man"? No. It proves you'd rather use your fists, which is not a gentlemanly thing.

[BuryYourFlame]

there was no cowardice in what you did. it was the logical, and smart choice. not many people would have made this decision, well done.

[Triceratops]

Various people will have different opinions on this. I think you made the smart choice, and the choice that benefits you the most.

It may take more guts to walk away from violence than it is to get involved in it. So well done to you!

If you get hassle from your peers at school, it's best to just rise above and act like you don't care. You know you made the best choice.

[TigerLily]

I don't think you were in any way being cowardly in this situation. To walk away from a, most probably, immature and pointless confrontation keeping your dignity intact takes a lot of guts, and I commend you for that. Obviously other people's opinions may differ, but you did what you felt best for you, and that's the important thing. Well done, you should be proud of yourself :)

[Beautiful Obsession]

it takes a man to walk away from fights. what you did wasnt cowardly, people willl respect you more for wwalkin away:) x

[Reality]

it takes a man to walk away from fights. what you did wasnt cowardly, people willl respect you more for wwalkin away:) x
You know the attitude in most high schools and secondary schools. They dig for the good bit of drama from a fight, so trust me, they don't respect you more for walking away from a fight.