how do people do it?

[yoyoyo12]

ive always wondered how people manage relationships and get laid?!

i am awesome with girls, flirting, making out, joking, everything!
at parties i always hook up...
so why cant i manage relationships?!

why why why?!

i feel like i can talk to girls about important things... to nearly every girl i talk to we have life chats and long deep conversations about nearly ANYTHING.. but it never gets far enough for us to have sex... no sex no sex no sex!

ive only had sex one time! ugh! i feel like a looooseerrrr even though im 16.... turning 17.... why can so many other kids get laid constantly?
they get girlfriends constantly!


i never do! im always just the guy that the girls think is hot and we just talk about shit. never more...
and the girls that i CAN fuck.. who literally ask for it.... are not popular and no body likes them and ughh i feel like if i did them id look desperate, and the girls id want to fuck would require me to actually work realllyyy hard for it... which is hard because people in my school care more about who i talk to than ME!!!!


jeeez id fuck some girls just becuz I think theyr hot.... everybody else is the ones who care!



i dont know if ANY of that made sense but i needed to vent... maybe somebody sees issues with my game.... cuz i cant figure it out? im always what the girl WANTS me to be... always.. so why the FUCKKKKKK cant i FUCKKKK?!

[pcd31]

It seems like you talk too much and the girls begin to consider you a close friend.

[nick]

.... and the girls id want to fuck would require me to actually work realllyyy hard for it...
That's a bit of a give away. You have to decide whether you want to be a boy-slag who sleeps with all the girl-slags, or whether you want to be a nice boy that waits for a nice girl.

The snippet I've quoted above suggests that your attitude to sex is not what any nice girl would respond to. Decide what you want and then adopt the appropriate strategy. But if is all about just getting laid and not caring for the girl then I'm not on your side.

[IAMWILL]

Wow buddy, calm down... Now, I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm laying some stuff down right now.

You are NOT all that. It's not like guys just get to have sex with girls, like you can just talk to a girl at a party and expect to have sex with her. You have to EARN it, there are no easy ways to just get a girl to have sex with you. I think you're forgetting here that GIRLS HAVE FEELINGS TOO. They aren't just dolls or sex toys, they are people too. And they don't just give sex either. Your getting way to cocky here. Besides, why would you want to have sex with just some random girl you think is hot. You don't need to has sex to acheive whatever non existent thing you are tying to acheive, no one should care how many girls you've had sex with, and you shouldn't either. Thirdly, you shouldn't be having sex with people you can't keep a stable relationship with, let alone respect them.

Simply, you can't expect a stable relationship if all you want is sex.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Stop trying to fuck a girl, stop trying to talk to girls to fuck them.
Girls are very smart, and we can always see through your intentions, if you want to get to know them for sex, they wont give it to you.

Focus on something else, it doesn't matter how charming you are, if you only meet girls for sex the only girls you will get are the ones that are desperate for sex.

Nice guys dont always finish last.

[yoyoyo12]

i THINK FullSwell has something going definitely!
im not sure WHAT I WANT... i want to fuck.. but just recently i found this girl that i like A LOT.. i dont know what hit me... all i think about is her... and everygirl i dont want likes me.. and this girl i cant seem to GET! we always talk.. she texts first.. she told me she likes me... BUT BUT BUT.... shes soooo different in PERSON! ugh its hard to understand her.. i really dont wanna get into it..


so now i dont know how to get to the point where wed get intimate AT ALL! im so good at parties and all that! just not in relationships.. which is kind of whats bothering me... and its mostly because i feel like im not gonna be good in bed so everychance i get to do it... i dont take.. i feel like im losing chances and one day imma regret not tkaing them.. and i think this girl has had it more than i have.. so since everygirl gets the impression that im a player and that i fuck all the time.. the truth is i DONT! and i donno how to get them to see that im not like that! its not my fault girls r attracted to that kinda guy... so im that kinda guy cuz i like girls a LOT. so idk where im going with this but hopefully u make some sense of it?

and yeh i know u think thats cocky.. but thats not what i want u to get out of this.. u wudnt understand. ITS EXACTLY. how it is.. now im not gonna get into how i look or w/e cuz im over the whole "ohh she thinks im hot :)" phase... its kinda normal now.. but like thats besides the point.. i REALLLLYYYY dont know what i want... thats the problem DEFINITELY.

Please use the edit feature instead of double posting, thanks. ~Autumn

[AllThatIsLeft]

you dont want to do the work.

ugh its hard to understand her.. i really dont wanna get into it..

You want it easy, you want a girl to like you, and then fuck you.

it doesn't work that way.

You are a player, but you are not a good one.

I recommend you TRY to understand a girl, i recommend you CONSIDER a girl's feelings.
because it's crystal clear that you want to use them. And girls dont just give up sex because they like you.

Like Will said you got to EARN it.
and your cocky attitude doesn't do anything for you.
The girl is not the problem, the problem is that you are not willing to try hard enough.
Girls dont want guys that are not willing to do the whole job.

[IAMWILL]

Once again, you can't expect a relationship if all you want is sex. It's not life. It might create it, but you're sixteen. Calm. Down.

[yoyoyo12]

nooo looooook you have no idea where i stand right now.
with most girls i talk to, they add me on facebook for some reason, probably cuz i see them at skool or w.e... i msg them see whats upp blah blah blah we talk CASUALLY.. i NEVER EVER EVER jusst talk about sexual shit
i talk about the most random things that go on.. like we have convos that last hours
anyway... so the next step i usually just get her number... we start txting.. which is more convenient cuz we always have the phones on us... so we talk on that blah blah blah
next we start seeing eachother more in person...
we hangout blah blah blah
the girl starts liking me... blah blah blah
i lose interest pretty much and then stop trying to have conversations anymore.. then idk why THEY start getting more sexual with winks and suggestions and mentioning getting drunk and shit
i never go for it though cuz i lose interest... and then idk... i just never get anything at the end... like i know what u think i do.. but i dont.. thats TOTALLY amateur.. trust me.



but now to the girl i like...

see again it started the SAME WAY she added me on fb... all that good stuff.. now were in the phase where we hang out more and all that
shes already told me this "so i kinda like you... a lot?" in one of her texts.. but she confuses me in PERSON becuz she cant FACE ME! she has to be with friends :( i feel like shes scared of me or something.. idk what i did to her.. but i feel like shit cuz i actually CARE about this one... and trust me i know that girls have feelings.. i used to use that to my advantage before.... now i just feel bad if i do that


btw. i didnt re-read that so if something doesnt make sense tell me
none of this stuff is re-read btw

[nick]

OK well first off a lot of what you imagine in your mind is probably not true, so stay cool.

Now all guys, unless they're somehow disabled or some kind of monastic catholic freak, are horny and want to get laid. Thats normal. However, on the whole we manage it through masturbation and fantasy and don't expect every girl to jump into bed with us to relieve our pent up hormonal pressures.

I'm a bit confused by your last paragraph. You seem to be saying you have a reputation for sleeping around, and how can you get the girls to understand you're not like that, and then in the next sentence say that girls are attacted to that sort of guy. Sorry if i've misunderstood.

If you want to make progress with the non-slutty girls you seriously need to lose your reputation for sleeping around if you have one. Then you need to start seeing the girls as people and try to decide whose personatlity appeals to you and build a relationship.
You need to start seeing the girls as people and not as sex objects.

Sorry if you think I'm being hard on you there, really trying to give you some helpful adivce.

[Specter]

ive always wondered how people manage relationships and get laid?!

far enough for us to have sex... no sex no sex no sex!

ive only had sex one time! ugh! i feel like a looooseerrrr even though im 16.... turning 17....

and the girls that i CAN fuck.. who literally ask for it.... are not popular and no body likes them.

To be completely honest your not mature enough to be having sex, Your looking at girls like there some kind of item you use once and then get rid of. Man my girl friend and I love each other every time I look at her my heart melts, I’d do anything for her.

You really don’t understand the true seriousness of sex. You even said you could have sex with some girls but there not popular. Man-O-man you really need to get your mind in the right direction.

Try dating girls for the soul purpose of meeting someone you like not necessarily someone you wanna “Bang”

Not to mention are you ready for a kid because each time you have sex your running that risk, not only that your also putting your self at risk for STD’s which are extremely possible in high schools these days.

Good Luck! :cool: