Fathers

[HappyChewy]

Me again
I live with my dad and dont have any contact with my mother.
I want to start the pill coz of period related reasons but i dont no how to ask dad as hes a boy and its kinda embrassing
I would go by myself but i think hes going to have to found out sooner or later..
any comments ladies?
thanks alot

[byee]

I'm not girl, but I don't think that matters here.

First, I'm assuming it was a doc that recommended you taking the Pill, right? If not, it changes the question (if not the awkardness) a bit.

Then, I think it's most important to remember that eventhough your dad is a guy (obviously) he's also (and maybe even more importantly) your parent, your caretaker, and an adult. So, in this case, he'll do whatever is medically necessary to make things right with you, even 'girl stuff'. It goes with the job description.

Tell him that you're having a menstrual problem (he knows what that means, afterall), and you need to see your doctor. Or if you have, tell him the doctor's recommendation about the Pill.

As long as he's aware of the medical reason for it (not the sexual one) he should react better to it. I would highly advise against doing this all on your own, not only because it shows a lack of trust, but more importantly, if he does find out he'll assume you're on it for sex reasons.

[TigerLily]

I don't live with my mother either, nor do I have/want any contact with her.. so I guess I can sorta relate here.
Like Sam said, try not to worry about the 'embarrassment'.. your dad will just want you to be healthy and happy more than anything... as long as you say the pill is for medical rather than sexual reasons then it shouldn't be so awkward.
Btw, I see how that sorta stuff can be embarrassing, but its not all that bad really... for me anyways, my dad has no problem buying pads, tampons etc...
Hope this helps :)

[Stark]

Like the other answers above stated, you're better off telling your father the truth about it. Because if you go behind his back to do it, and he finds out, he'll assume you're having sex, even though it was just a medical reason, and you wanted to save embarrassment, and if you try to tell him that, he might think you're lying to him, and that will be even more awkward and embarrassing, so just tell him that you are going to start taking the pill, but that it's for a medical reason, and you might even be better off telling him your symptoms, because then he will have more reason to believe you, and he probably will ask anyway. I hope this has helped.

[Specter]

I understand it can be embarrassing to talk to guys about these things but I’m sure you’ll be just fine, explain to him why you need it. I’m a guy and my girl friend talks to me about this kind of stuff all the time. Trust me I think he’ll be more understanding then you think. ;)

[dstnyisurs]

I live with just my dad too. =p
Do you have an aunt or an adult friend? If you want to go on the pill on a doctors recommendation, then you can have the doctor tell your father about the reasons and such. But if this is of your own accord, I would talk to him at a time when he's not stressed out or about to go to work or watching the game or something. Say that you're not sexually active, but because your period is really bugging you, you would like to go on the pill. Most medical insurance covers the pill, and if you're not insured then Planned Parenthood can give you a discounted copay on it if needed. Tell your dad you know it's embarrasing for both of you, but you can't have your period interfering with schoolwork (he'll like that you're responsible about school!) or your everyday life. Make sure he knows what the pill will do to help your periods. He'll probably need to make a gyno appointment, but if he's uncomfortable with it, if he writes a letter giving an aunt or a friends mom permission to be a medical caretaker, then she can make all your appointments and sign all your forms and he won't have to do a thing!
Hope I helped. =)

[MickB]

you should just tell your dad, I told mine and he took it very well, he started asking questions and really went into detail asking me how much i have sex how where and when. it was pretty fun to tell you the truth. now i am so open about EVERYTHING with my dad if you know what i mean.

[Gumleaf]

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