By myself...

[BehindBlueEyes]

For pretty much my entire teen life, I've been alone. I've always been scared of talking to kids, so I just never did. I was always the kid that sat by himself at lunch, always the one that nobody knew. That's just...who I was. It's still who I am.

All I do all day is sit at my computer, surf the internet, and listen to music. That is literally all I do besides who to school. I have some people on MSN that I can talk to, but I'm so damned awkward IRL that I just end up looking stupid when I try to say stuff to them. I joined the school band in 9th grade because I knew a few of them and they were all extremely nice, but that just made it even worse, because I lost contact with the very few close friends I had, and the ones I was friends with in band I never talk to anymore because I'm afraid.

Used to I could kind of rely on my family, but I feel estranged from them now. Nothing traumatic has happened in my life, I just...don't know what to say to them. I just close my door, turn my music up as loud as I can, and I only leave to eat, take a shower, and go to school. I have next to zero human contact, and when people try to talk to me, I never know what to say to them. I just...can't think of anything! It kills me.

There was a time when I felt like I had really fallen into a good group, and my conversations were really flowing with them, but when I joined band in 9th grade, I didn't have any classes with them, so now I'm by myself again. It's just a disgusting feeling...I don't know what to do about it. I'm tired of being alone, but every time I try not to, I just end up mumbling "Yeah..." and looking weird.

Has anybody here have any advice? I don't know if I'm going to be able to stand being by myself much longer. I think I'm gonna go crazy soon if I don't change something.

[byee]

Get out there! Turn the computer off, get outside! You're stuck in a rut, you've developed some habits that are deteriorating into a lifestyle. In much the same way that has happened, you can reverse course. But, you have to put effort in, and it might not feel comfortable at first.

Join groups, clubs, things you like and put you into contact with other humans. You said you like band, join a few, and stick with them. Go to every event, meeting, occaision, force yourself to participate. Those social skills you once have will slowly return, they're just atrophied. And, the best way to address atrophy is exercise.

[Strength]

For pretty much my entire teen life, I've been alone. I've always been scared of talking to kids, so I just never did. I was always the kid that sat by himself at lunch, always the one that nobody knew. That's just...who I was. It's still who I am.

All I do all day is sit at my computer, surf the internet, and listen to music. That is literally all I do besides who to school. I have some people on MSN that I can talk to, but I'm so damned awkward IRL that I just end up looking stupid when I try to say stuff to them. I joined the school band in 9th grade because I knew a few of them and they were all extremely nice, but that just made it even worse, because I lost contact with the very few close friends I had, and the ones I was friends with in band I never talk to anymore because I'm afraid.

Used to I could kind of rely on my family, but I feel estranged from them now. Nothing traumatic has happened in my life, I just...don't know what to say to them. I just close my door, turn my music up as loud as I can, and I only leave to eat, take a shower, and go to school. I have next to zero human contact, and when people try to talk to me, I never know what to say to them. I just...can't think of anything! It kills me.

There was a time when I felt like I had really fallen into a good group, and my conversations were really flowing with them, but when I joined band in 9th grade, I didn't have any classes with them, so now I'm by myself again. It's just a disgusting feeling...I don't know what to do about it. I'm tired of being alone, but every time I try not to, I just end up mumbling "Yeah..." and looking weird.

Has anybody here have any advice? I don't know if I'm going to be able to stand being by myself much longer. I think I'm gonna go crazy soon if I don't change something.

I'm in the same boat as you mate. With the exception I have one or 2 really good friends.

[Stark]

I'm in the exact situation buddy.

[CestDan]

I recommend you this:

First of all: Change you mind!!!! Take away those ideas about being a shy person. The first thing you can do is having ideas of "confidence" You are a self-confidence person and you can do, create and be anything you want to be.

Do you want to have more fiends??? Well, so, act as you really want to get them. Tur your computer off, go out home and walk around your neighborhood and say hello to every one. I know, perhaps it sounds kind of crazy or difficult, but it is not!!!

The essential feeling to go on and to do everything you want is... Happiness!!!! You must feel happiness, feel it and enjoy every moment of your youth. I mean, we are teenagers, we are young and we can do everything we want to do.

All of this you are passing, I think, every one has passed it in some time of our life, but you can resolve it in a easy way and it is this one. You must be lived the life as happy as you can.

Remember: You are the only one who can control your own life, so start living it as joyful as you can!!!!!

Hope this would help you!!!

You are an important person.

[L]

well... i dont really have any advice to help you (sorry) but your story reminds me of someone i know, im im going to try to talk to him from now on.

all i can say is, take it slowly. you cant expect to develop a skill in a day. when your talking to people, instead of answering "yeah..." answer with a question relating to what the person said, to keep them talking.

hey, i guess i do have some advice :rolleyes:
hope it helps