The Life of a Gay Man

[Maverick]

I've been struggling a lot with my life lately mostly trying to figure out who I am as a person and what exactly I want to do for the next 50 years. When I finally accepted I was gay last year, and came out to my parents and my sister a few months ago, I thought that would solve everything and make it all clearer and I can go on with my life without that burden holding me back.

But now that I've done all of that, almost everyday I ask myself, where do I go from here? I honestly have no answer or even an idea of an answer to that question. Accepting I was gay made things even more confusing.

When you are heterosexual, you have some models to how you can live your life and one of the biggest things that center around that are having kids. Eventually relationships and marriages go through stages like all the ones before them, and kids are into the picture. Society has set up all these stepping stones where everyone can follow the same patterns and live almost a pre-set typical life like a robot.

When you are gay though all of that is different. There really isn't a typical way to live or structures that facilitate that lifestyle. Its all entirely up to me what I want to do. One of my biggest fears is that I'm never going to figure out what I want to do and I'll never find happiness... then one day I'll look back at my one and only life and it will be one big disappointment.

[Θάνατος]

Ant hang in there you are not the only person struggling with what you want to be or do when you get older. I struggle with day to day decisions. I wonder how the fuck am I supposed to know what I will or want to be doing in 10 years.

You are going through the same shit every teenager is but life is harder because you are gay and America is still not too tolerant with gay people.

I am here for you Ant.

Damn it I was going to not post anymore and now I have to stay here and help you out.

[nick]

I don't have any answers for you, but I'm glad that you shared that with us. One of my biggest worries as a bi is about family life. I want to be a family man & have kids, but is that possible without living a lie?

Hope it works out well for you and you find hapiness.

[tbboltz92]

just because your gay does not mean that you have to live aradicaly different life. live your life like anybody else would.

the only diferance is that you want to be with another guy.
I know how you feel about the society thing. if you want to try and follow what society says says your life should be then good luck to ya. Just please live your life how you want. fuck everybody else. If you want to have a child you can adopt, and there's always the thing where you give your sperm to a woman and she carries your baby. Don't worry about what other people think.

[redcar]

Let's have a musical interlude with this...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrVlBrooxcM

I have thought about this question before, and then gave it a bit more thought tonight and come to the same conclusion. Every day, just live it without having a regret or even if you have a regret vow never to make the same mistake again. Have fun. But just try not to have any regrets on a daily basis then when you stat looking back it will be good, and no disappointment. :D

Take every opportunity given. Travel. Go out on nights out when people are going out. Break the rules. Roadtrip. Never take life too seriously.

It will all work out, well thats what I am hoping anyway. :)