Is this abuse ? =( Please help me

[BuZzY]

I had posted that i had oral with a guy (I was more pleased to be blowjobbed rather than give one to a guy) (i never swallowed any cum or thing or ever had anal .. ) .. and from that experience i learnt that i was just exerementing .. and that there was nothing serious .. i was hetro curious .. I also have not been feeling sexually attracted to boys since then .. only to girls

This is my problem ... I feel really abused .. this is what happened .. =( ... When we were having oral, i told him .... stop or youll make me cum in your mouth .. i dont want to ! .. I tried to pull my dick away before the orgasm but he pulled it back and didnt let me take it away .. he continued to suck me .. and then i came in his mouth :( and he swallowed it :eek::eek: I mean hey that was mine ! I told him not to continue to blowjob me! and didnt stop ! I tried multiple times to pull it away but he hold it firm and didnt let me go! .. and when i came ! HE SWOLLOWED IT ! I mean i couldnt hold it in ! But i told him many times to stop and leave me cum outside because i didnt want him to have my cum inside him ! It way my "property" !!:(

Is this abuse ?:( because i have been over a month asking this question to myself .. and i think here is the only place i can say it out loud THAT I FEEL ABUSED A LOT!!!! A LOT ! IS THIS ABUSE ! I fell very also grossed out that he has my sperm in him ! AND ALSO Feel really abused :(

[HelloWorld123456]

Oh man .. I dont really know .. I mean you were having fun .. during sex .. but you could have been abused when you told him to stop and he continued .. and he put your dick in his mouth by force .. and drank your cumk while you told him not to ... I dont really know because these two issues .. are very contrasting ..


You were having fun during oral .. but then ... You told him to stop and he made you cum in his mouth by force .... I think beautiful silence ... or requin or gumleaf might give you the best answer ..

[byee]

"Stop" means stop, "No" means no. I'm not sure if the technical term of abuse means anything here, you requested that someone cease *whatever* they were doing and they didn't, they intentionally ignored you, and that is definitely not OK. So, as a result, you feel violated. People feel violated when someone says or does something against their will.

You had a bad expereince (whatever you want to call it), so you have some really bad feelings about it. It takes time to get over those feelings, be extra nice to yourself, and learn from the experience: When you do things with someone else, they have needs and feelings, too, and it's always best to make sure yours are in synch with theirs.

[nick]

Its an unusual case and difficult to comment. I think anytime anyone is engaged in any form of sexual activity with another person they have a right to say stop. In the uk if you were having sex with a girl and she said stop and you didnt that would be classed as rape I believe, even though she let you in in the first place. So on that basis it must be assault if you said stop but he wouldnt let you pull away.

Try not to feel to bad about the cum inside him, it will have left his system by now anyway. I'm sorry you had this experience, I guess you'll be very careful about who you experiment with next time.

[BuZzY]

I SHOUTED STOP STOP STOP MANY TIMES !!! HE CONTINUED !!

I didnt say no please stop ! I SHOUTED IT A LOT OF TIMES! And i wouldnt call those "needs" .. i mean he was gettig what he wanted ! I dont believe he "needed" my cum ! That is just plainly sick to swallowing a cum of onther person when HE (I) is horrified and is just shouting STOP like 10 times ! And is trying to get away from it !
Oh please help ! I dont know how i am feeling .. i feel very .. dirty ??!?!? .. Like a weight that is just pushing on me ! And i cant throw it away or weigh it ! it is just too plainly heavy ! I AM REALLY SAD .. AND DUNNO HOW I AM FEELING I AM FEELING WRONG SAD !! LIKE NEED TO CRY BUT CANT ! I AM FEELING ABUSED ! I TOLD HIM TO STOP SO MANY TIMES HE CONTINUED ! HE MADE ME CUM IN HIS MOUTH BY FORCE!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH !!!! I JUST NEED TO SHOUT I AM ANGRY TOO AND ALSO SAD

I FEEL BAD

PLEASE HELP ME :(:(:(:(

[mchboy1]

I would say that it could be counted as abuse. You should calm down though. It was just harmless curiosity and you should just talk to him about it. And the thing with ur cum being inside him - it's already digested. You make millions of new sperm everyday so it's not a loss. Tell an adult though if you feel this seriously about it.

[nick]

Buzzy, we hear what you're saying. But however hard it is, you've got to try to put this behind you. Looking back you will obviously feel you shouldnt have got involved at all, but you cant change that now. You shouldn't feel dirty. You started something, then decided it wasnt right for you, thats fair enough. Beyond that things got out of control and thats not your fault. So try not to blame yourself.

Sorry you feel so bad about it. Dont know what more to say to be helpful. pm me or find me in the chatroom anytime if you think I can help more.

[Eddie22]

I don't know I would call it abuse. But you really have to trust the guy before letting him suck on your dick. Espically if you don't want to ejaculate. You have to trust the guy to stop when you want to stop. If I were you, I would be careful around that guy.

[LUCKY555]

you definatly have a right to feel violated. but as abuse...i dont know....but i really dont know much about the law...i agree i think you need to talk to him and see why he didnt stop... but you did let him suck you so i dont know.

[INFERNO]

Yes, I would call this abuse. You gave consent before but then you wished for him to stop, demanded it and tried to remove yourself from it, however, he forced it against your will. However, you have to put this behind you and acknowledge it was not your fault, it was beyond your control.

[BuZzY]

I am not feeling allright at all .. and i cant look foward ... i just look back ! I am not feeling lright with myself! I am feeling bad sick and i dont know how :(:( and about the sucking about which some of them said .. i was just curious about it .. I DID NOTWANT TO CUM INSIDE HIM ! NEVER EVER ! I Feel badd :(

Please help me :(

[Gumleaf]

if you can't get over this yourself and move on from this bad experience, i think you are going to have to tell someone about it to get further help. if you really feel you were abused then you might benefit from some sort of counselling to talk about it. maybe you should see a school counsellor if you have one? but really, if its bothering you so much and causing so much pain for you, you need to talk about it with someone.

[BuZzY]

i know i ve got to talk with someone but who ? i mean i was just curious .. and experimenting .. they will think i am gay ... and the school counseller sucks .. kids who go to talk to him ... say that they told their partens that they went to talk to him .. i mean i discovered i wasnt gay or bi sexual by that expereince .. because i know i was just fooling around .. but also i feel a lot abused

what should i do .. i feel i am sinking in this problem :(:(:(:(:(

[Truth]

Tell your parents, a teacher, your councilor, etc. They won't tell any kids, trust me.

[Zephyr]

Teen Sexuality -----> Abuse

[Donkey]

BuZzY, I am so sorry about what has happened here. I can only imagine how hard it is for you at the moment, getting over abuse this personal of a level. Obviously the deed is done now, and you can't reverse it but you have to remember that it was not your fault. You were the victim here.

I think you should talk to someone. A trusted adult like a counsellor, psychiatrist, your teacher or maybe your parents. The latter may not apply depending on your social situation with your parents. Also remember that I'm always here for you to talk to. If you want someone to listen to you, I'll always be there to do that. I'll always give you advice if you need it too. I'm here for you. When the abuse is of a personal level, I feel it may be hard to talk about it to someone you have known for a long time. For this reason, maybe getting a (new?) counsellor who you have obviously not met before to talk to every so often and tell them about this. Talking over the internet is good for advice and such, but talking in real life will help a lot more in a way of making you feel better. If you tell someone about what has happened, it will feel like a weight off your shoulders. It will make the situation seem much easier to deal with and such.

Now, I want you to remember the following things man:

This was NOT your fault. Do not blame yourself.
We're all here for you.
You should not feel bad about this. If someone has abused you, it's obviously them who has the problem.
Don't bottle it up. It's always best to let things out, otherwise you'll keep on thinking about them and the thoughts will get more and more vivid.


I wish you the best of luck in everything that you're doing here, and I hope that you can maybe talk this over with your friend and get it sorted out? That may seem hard too, but when you get into these things, it's much easier.

All the best.

[Requin]

Sorry this is a bit late. Consider this as an 'In conclusion' thing; as everyone else has pretty much got it and given some fucking awesome advice.

So:
If you can accept it, you will need to try, its happened, I'm sorry and its cruel but its true. You must look forward, its hard not to look back.
So becuase of this I think you need help with this, as stephen said, a counselor at school or a physciatrist.
IF your school counselor, and I quote 'sucks'. Then try and see a physciatrist, they are very good and can help you a lot, ask someone on here who has been to one. And you'll see.

So I really really hope that you do get to see one. Please do, and as Jon said, we are all here for you. :)

[HelloWorld123456]

How should i start to tyalk this problem with my parents ??? THEYLL THINK I AM GAY ... 99% .. ill be kicked out of the house ... thats for sure .... I am not gay... was just curios ... the worst thing i was abused :(:(:( I FEEL TERRIBLE .. i need something to get over this .. and cant find it ... :( ...

About the psychatrist .. i dont know any ... I have money ... but my credit card has a limit since i am only 15 ... Dont think i can withdraw money to pay one .... i want to keep this to myself .. but open up too .. cause i feel that i am going to explode :(

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My friend told me to right how he felt and what he used to think when she got abuse .. she told you also to talk with your parents .. it is the best choice

[Truth]

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[nick]

If your parents hate you for being gay, get new ones. Parents are supposed to love you, if they don't it's their loss. DO NOT WORRY! Being gay is not a bad thing. Being BI is not a bad thing. It's not our place to judge anyone. =] And, if you were curious, you can tell them that.
I think that we're all trying to be helpful in a diffficult case, but some of you are not being entirely realistic. You have to ask yourselves (other posters, not you BuZzy) whether you would be able to go to your parents and say you'd been involved in a mutual blow job session with a friend. Thats not a conversation I could easily face with my parents.

So BuZzy, you have a problem there. Keeping it to yourself and bottling it up is clearly not doing you any good, you need to talk to someone. I'm fairly sure if you were in the UK you would be able to go and talk to your doctor if that was any easier and they could refer you on for confidential counselling. Don't know how that would work where you are. You need to find someone, somehow that you can unload too.

pm me and I'll give you my msn if you'd like to talk more, but i think you need a professional really. good luck mate.

[ErykaInspire.]

Well, I can't really say anything to the Swallow part, because I'm a swallower.
BUT, i can give word to the "Stop" and the "abuse" part.

My (now ex) boyfriend and I used to walk to school through the woods. We'd fool around and get into it (but i refused to have vaginal sex with him)
about 2days before our 1month, we were fooling around and he got carried away. I pulled away and said stop several times but he kept saying "noo, it's okay, it's okay"
he didn't penetrate me, thankfully. But he did scar me for life.
Yes, it is abuse because you said stop. But you also set yourself up for it. if you don't like to cum in someones mouth.... don't get a blowjob. simple as that(:

[Reality]

You sound like you were technically raped.
That's deffinitely abuse.