Unfair match? HELP!!

[lesher]

Try to place yourself in this position:
- You're a normal, with almost (remember, almost) no special things in yourself
- You're having crush with someone which is more better than you in almost every aspect
- And somehow, your crush decides to become your bf/gf after you talk about your feeling to her/him

Now, this is my question:
->Do you think such match is possible?
->If it does exist, are you feeling sorry for that "better" person because she/he got you, a person with no special thing in yourself?

This is my condition right now... I'm just feeling sorry for her if she really becomes my girlfriend in the future... I think she deserves a better person, but I can't stop thinking about her >_<. What should I do???

[HelloWorld123456]

Man look if she wants let her get you .. if you really love her be her bf .. but if you dont and doubt that she may leave you because your not special your wrong .. if she got you , you surely have something special for her :)

[Zephyr]

There must be something extraordinary that she likes about you if she decided to date you hun, so I wouldn't worry about it. You may even ask her what it is that she likes about you.

[INFERNO]

A type of match like that certainly is possible. It's not about whose more normal, whose better at what, whose worse at what. It's about whether or not you like the girl and whether the girl likes you. If yes and yes to both, then you two can go together. When you go to find someone for a relationship, it's the differences that matter, the similarities matter also but the differences are what stand out.

You also have to consider, does she think she's better than you or not? You seem to think that about her but what does she think? But, as I said, if the two of you wish to be together, then go for it.

[lesher]

Well, I wrote "And somehow, your crush decides to become your bf/gf after you talk about your feeling to her/him" before.

But what about if this part disappear? Even if it existed, I bet it'll need a lot of work, courage, etc2x

[INFERNO]

Well, I wrote "And somehow, your crush decides to become your bf/gf after you talk about your feeling to her/him" before.

But what about if this part disappear? Even if it existed, I bet it'll need a lot of work, courage, etc2x

I addressed that part in my first answer when I mentioned you liking her and her liking you.

If this part disappears, then it's possible you two can still like each other, however, without one or both of the parties verbally communicating, you're basing your judgments (rather biased ones) off of whatever their body language may be when they are around you. This can be rather ambiguous because their body language can indeed indicate they like you or you like them, however, it may not be enough for a relationship. So, without verbally communicating, there is a higher chance for more shyness between you two, more ambiguity and a higher chance of the relationship not occurring if neither party doesn't step up to the plate, so to speak.

It will take courage and confidence to go up and express your emotions towards her. Ideally, you watch her body language before hand and if she seems to indicate she's interested, you can gradually ease in and talk to her. I wouldn't run up, grab the girl by the arms and go "I LOVE YOU!!!!" but rather you find an appropriate time, place and have a rough idea of what to say. Also, knowing what she likes is important as well as her personality and behavior as that can be used to indicate what to say, how to say it and when to say it. Overall, my method is use their emotions to base my judgments of what to do, and use their emotions against them more or less as a hook so they will be less likely to leave. It takes lots of practice and have to be very good at reading people, as well as manipulation, although it's not the only way to do it. It's my way, and I'm sure others will disagree with it.

[lesher]

I'm quite skilled at reading people minds when I'm not focused (strange huh). But when I'm focused to someone, I'm really2 bad at reading his/her mind...

Anymore idea everyone? Thx btw INFERNO, quite helpful I should say

[INFERNO]

I'm quite skilled at reading people minds when I'm not focused (strange huh). But when I'm focused to someone, I'm really2 bad at reading his/her mind...

Anymore idea everyone? Thx btw INFERNO, quite helpful I should say

Reading their mind implies you're psychic and no offense to you, but I think psychics are hogwash. You may be able to read their emotions, their intentions, etc..., however, it's not definitive, it's formulating estimations, hopefully accurate ones. In doing so, you need to be objective. Part of this is easier for me, both in experience but also in being numb 24/7, with the exceptions of anger whenever I'm annoyed. You cannot have your emotions cloud your way of reading or profiling someone. It's going to obscure it and you're very likely to mess up, use very inaccurate estimations and it's going to lead nowhere good.

When I profile someone, I look at the fine body movements, I pay attention to the words they use, how they say them, their emotions, their facial expressions, gestures, the speed of speech, etc... . Let's say the person I want is a girl who sits down and puts her purse down. I look at how she put the purse down, how she sat, where she sat in relation to others, etc... . You'll screw up in the beginning and no matter how experienced you are, you'll screw up even then.

[lesher]

And yet again, I've got another new word on my brain dictionary, "hogwash". Mind describing that word? I'm kinda lazy to search that word on google... :)

Objectivity is essential and emotional shouldn't get in the way, I got it!

[INFERNO]

And yet again, I've got another new word on my brain dictionary, "hogwash". Mind describing that word? I'm kinda lazy to search that word on google... :)

Objectivity is essential and emotional shouldn't get in the way, I got it!

Hogwash is a slightly older word meaning nonsense or bullshit.

Try practicing profiling random people. Everytime I go somewhere in public I always do it, it helps me refine my skills over and over. You also don't want to give the impression that you're braindead or a creep watching their body, so maintain eye contact as much as possible. The face is something that tends to reveal their emotions and good to use if their words contradict it. Also, watch their eyes, I tend to stare right into their eyes for a bit but not for the entire time as many people get uneasy when people do that.

[lesher]

Yeah, "eyes reflect person's mind"
That's what you mean, right?

Hmm, if I try that in public, I'm afraid I'm going to be labeled as "weirdo" or something like that... Or do you mean places like school, class, something that's still familiar?

This is going off-topic :P

Well, wish me luck on my attempt approaching her!

[INFERNO]

Yeah, "eyes reflect person's mind"
That's what you mean, right?

Hmm, if I try that in public, I'm afraid I'm going to be labeled as "weirdo" or something like that... Or do you mean places like school, class, something that's still familiar?

This is going off-topic :P

Well, wish me luck on my attempt approaching her!

I do the profiling of people wherever possible to whomever, ideally done to strangers. Eyes and face can reflect a person's mind as well as their body language. Subtle differences in movement people may notice but tend to give little thought to. Those subtle things you may want to notice but at the same time, remove irrelevant things and take consideration of the environment. For example, a girl you wish to meet is all bright and cheerful. If it's at a party versus at school, her behavior may be different, and you should note the environment.

[Beautiful Obsession]

if you like each other, then theres a match? obviously she likes you etc. Soo. x

[pcd31]

If a girl that's better than me liked me and I liked her then there's no reason to not be with her.

[lesher]

Hmm... After snooping some info, I've just known that she's a Christian... Too bad she's a Christian...

I'm an atheist after all... And I also had bitter experience about Christianity, I think I have to forget about her

[INFERNO]

Hmm... After snooping some info, I've just known that she's a Christian... Too bad she's a Christian...

I'm an atheist after all... And I also had bitter experience about Christianity, I think I have to forget about her

So? I'm a firm atheist yet I've gone out with Christian girls and have had to deal with the preachy and forceful types of Christians also. Don't go by a stereotype or judge a book by its cover. If she knows you're an atheist and doesn't mind, then why should you mind? If you really like her, then this one little thing shouldn't be a problem. Then again, if she rejects you on the basis of your atheism, then that's a different story.

[lesher]

Hmm... I'm just afraid of something in the future if I'm really get married with her... I can't really explain though :(