I'm Surrounded by Lies!

[Skeln]

Ok, well I'll try my best to exlain this.

A few months ago, I asked my friend (Friend 1, he's a guy) his sexuality because I was just curious. His answer was "I'm straight".

Now, just a few hours ago a second friend told me that my friend (Friend 1) asked her ex-boyfriend a question. He asked him if he was bi because he said that one of his friends was bi. Well the guy told him that he was straight, and he asked who my friend's friend was. My friend made him promise not to tell, and appearantly he said that he was bi.

Well, the friend who told me this story between her ex-boyfriend and my friend isn't a good friend, not as good as my other friend who, according to her, admitted that he was bi. Of course, she could have always mis-heard her boyfriend, but I'm not really sure if she heard the conversation herself or if her ex-boyfriend told her. Either way, she could have misheard, but I know she's not lying. She has no reason or motive to lie.

So anyways, I'm not really sure who to believe. My other friend, although he's a better friend, I wouldn't trust as much as the one who said that he was bi. I could care less if he's bi or not, but I'm kind of pissed at the fact that he could have lied to me, and he knows how much I hate lying and I told him that I have nothing against bis or gays.

So really, I'm not sure how to handle this. I also have suspicion to believe that he is bi even before my friend told me about my other friend saying that he was bi. Even when he first told me that he was straight I had suspicion based on what he told me he does with some of his other friends.

So the thing is, I just want to find out if he lied or not, and I doubt I can just drop the subject because lying irritates me so much, but yeah I wont hold it against him I just want to find out if he lied. But the problem is, how am I supposed to figure out if he lied or not? I don't want to just upfront ask him, because if I did then either way I'm going to tell him why I was curious, seeing as how I don't like to hide things or lie when people ask about it and I don't want to get him mad at the other guy because of the possibility that he didn't keep his promise and blabbed that my friend said he way bi

Any advice? I'll cinsider all advice, so don't be afraid to submit your suggestions, even if it's only to ask my friend upfront.

[Sapphire]

Why don't you just ask him and if he asks say that you had just been wondering. It's not a lie and it doesn't land anyone right in it.

I don't see why it matters tbh. Whether he's bisexual or straight isn't a huge thing and he won't have changed as a person because of it.
He just sounds like he isn't ready for lots of people to know which explains why he's only told one person whom he made promise not to tell.

[Skeln]

Well, yeah I could do that I guess.

Once again I could care less of his sexuality, but I'm just the type of person who can't stand the fact that they could have been lied to, and yeah I just really want to ge this over with. I hate my view on lying...it makes things so complicated.

I also understand that he might not be ready, which is also a reason why I just don't want to confront him about it and mke him have to worry about me not telling anyone if he is bi. I'll admit, this isn't a terrile situation for me but I just kind of want to get to the bottem of this. I'm trying to drop the subject but it's hard because I don't like not knowing if someone lied and I have suspicion that they did lie.

[Sapphire]

Well, without talking with him directly how can you possibly know if he's lied or not?
And even if he did insist that he's straight, would you honestly believe him?

[Skeln]

Well, yeah if he did then I would believe him. I'm not really sure what I was thinking when I wrote this thread, but yeah basically I just don't want to walk right up to him and ask if he's bi, it was more of a thing I wanted to slowly work through to figure out.

Now for the recent updates on the school gossip today.
Now I'm sure that he's bi, because I talked to the guy who supposedly my friend asked out, and yeah he confirmed what my friend told me Yesterday, and not only that but now appearantly my friend has asked out 5 guys now, and I talked to another one and he said that my friend asked him if he was bi, and yeah just the same way as he had before. (Hope that's not too hard to follow).

Yeah I'm just ranting...I guess the whole thing came as a shock at first but yeah I'm over it now. Just was something I wasn't expecting, so yeah I have no more worries. Could someone just like lock this thread? Thanks.

[yrina]

You are not surrounded lies. If you trust your friends, be open to the issue. It is right to ask the involved person rather to guess or ask others. If your friend is a bi and she can't confess it to you, then respect it. She might not also ready for that fact.