Scoring Points w/girl

[PaulS]

What should I do to score some points with a girl in some of my classes? What do girls look for/ at most?

[Oblivion]

Moved to Relationships and Dating

[PaulS]

I've never been good with the ladies, and I was wondering what girls really look for/at with a guy, just for a friend. And, any tips on getting cell phone numbers from them?

[Jean Poutine]

Be yourself.

[Oblivion]

Please don't make the same thread twice. Merged.

[The Joker]

Just be nice to girls, talk to them, just get to know them and then you can pop the question.

[Viral Death]

Just be yourself! Be nice and kind to them and ask them questions on what they like or do and when you feal ready ask the question

[devilsheep]

Don't talk to them too much. If they don't really seem interested in talking to you then forget it. Dont be annoying

[Jean Poutine]

Something I posted on another forum :

I'm 18 and never dated. However, perhaps for my misadventures you can learn. I tend to be pretty threatening to girls, I think. I'm generally cold and distant. I'm the kind of guy stuck in his bubble. And girls hate that. I think what girls want is someone forthcoming and self-confident (like I knew what they want, but give me a break here). I'm self-confident to the point of being an egostical maniac so that's not the problem. However, I'm not forthcoming at all (not due to a lack of self-confidence, but simply because of my brain wiring).

Brian Gilmartin did expose in a few books his theories about "love-shy" men. It's true that men that are not forthcoming are usually doomed to solitude. Such are our mating rituals, although perhaps that's changing. Gilmartin's theory was that overly shy men did not stand a chance to find a mate because of the way love rituals (including dating) are shaped, because he thought that it was men that must take the initiative. And shy men have a problem with that. Whether he's right or not is debatable, but I have only seen a girl asking a guy out once in my life. Usually it's the other way around. With my limited life skills I deduce that Gilmartin is right until proven wrong. He does take a few sweeping generalisations that are untrue but the base argument seems sound enough.

Anyway, my initiative problem vanishes on the internets. I have absolutely no problems communicating in writing. Sometimes girls do play video games (yes, status verified like in paypal) and I have quite a bunch of them that are now my friends. I asked them one day (mostly for giggles) if they'd say yes if I asked them out IRL and they all did. That doesn't prove much (other than they seemed to enjoy my company) but maybe if I were a little more approaching and approachable I would find someone. That goes to say how something can seem hard while it's pretty simple in reality.

That does lead me to share two tips for those dudes who are in the same boat as I am. I should work on that too.

1) be forthcoming
2a) be yourself, even if you think yourself is not good enough
2b) be self-confident

Eventually you'll find. I think.

[RaeNose]

Awww. ^That was so cute. :)^
Anyway, considering I'm a girl... and the only one answering this question, I think I should know.
1. Compliments are the greatest gift you can give.
2. Confidence is important; however, don't be an egotistical ass.
3. If you can dance, that definitely gains some bonus points.
4. Don't fight against being "whipped". If you get offended by that term and act like a baby about it... well to quote 3Oh!3, "I'ma hit you from the back and make you holler 'til you pass out." ;) JK. It's just stupid.
5. Being "cute" and "beautiful" is always better than being "hot": it shows that you're not simply thinking about outward appearance; the first two have to do with character, along with appearance.
6. Be a good friend.
7. If you can dance, play guitar, sing, do anything musical, that definitely gains points. ...I'm still waiting for someone to write a song about me. I doubt it'll ever happen, but whatever. My bf can dance. :)
8. Show respect for them and their bodies. Remember that girls are human, too. We would like to not be treated like pieces of meat, thank you.

That's all I've got thus far. Hope I've helped. :)

[Jean Poutine]

Awww. ^That was so cute. :)^
If you saw my face you wouldn't think that anymore.


3. If you can dance, that definitely gains some bonus points.
Since you're a girl, I was listening to a radio show where the leading theory was that by seeing a man being able to harness their kinetic energy (like in dancing), girls instantly made a link between being good at dancing and being good in bed and this is why if you can imitate John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever then it's sweet sailing from there.

What do you think?


6. Be a good friend.

It was my hypothesis that girls did not want nice guys until their late twenties. Surprise, I've learned something.

[RaeNose]

Hey, if you saw me, you'd think I was ten... but whatever. Appearances only count until you talk to someone. I'm not saying that they don't count, but they count until you can get to know the person.

John Travolta makes me laugh. Ballroom dance is better. I am a dancer, so I knew how to do jazz, lyrical, etc. However, I've never done partner dancing, so Sam actually taught me. Although, that actually sounds logical. Dance has a tendency to become incredibly sensual along with most forms of artistic expression. Of course, humans have a tendency to become incredibly sensual beings, so whatever. ;)

Most girls want a nice guy; however, when a guy seems dangerous... it's very hard to resist. It's like when a guy wants a nice girl who respects herself, yet he can't help look at the perfectly-formed, tanned, scantily-clad cheerleader who happens to have the flexibility of a stripper. It's the same philosophy: we want what will never be ours, unless fate decides to have a cruel sense of humor. You know what I mean.

By the way, I like your sig. It made me laugh. :)

[Jean Poutine]

When there's warmdown/water breaks when I train Judo, I usually bust out my best impression of John Travolta while waiting. I don't know why, I just do it and it makes me laugh.

It does not work.

I thought about taking up dancing, like waltz or something like that. I don't because I think it'd be incredibly awkward to go there without a partner to practice with and just try to stumble across someone.

[RaeNose]

His mom made him and his little brother do it. Definitely gave him a leg up in the competition... eww. That sounded unintentionally dirty. My bad. Anyway, I'm pretty sure there are places where you go and they force you into partnership, like when I learned German Folkdancing. Jon and I had some great times making fun of our German teacher. lol. Couples dancing is just so much fun. I love it to death; in my opinion, it's better than freak dancing, because it's not just sex on the dance floor. You get a whole relationship built with the person: it requires trust, and can get incredibly steamy if you know how to dance right.

What doesn't work?

[Jean Poutine]

Impersonating John Travolta in a judogi does not help to score with the chicks.

Since I don't have anyone to learn dancing with me, does Judo help with chicks too? I mean, sweeping shins and throwing people is an art.

[RaeNose]

... hmmm. It helped Gage... I think. lol. It definitely helps you stay fit. :)

And not, John Travolta's dance moves are very outdated. lol