not sure what to do

[phish]

Last spring my brother was caught(age 17 at time) smoking pot and stealing caugh med from CVS. He did community service for the meds and 2 weekends in jail for the pot. Now he is 18, I went in his room today to get my ipod that he barrowed, in there was a pill sitting on the table it says NPR104 70MG on it, I have googled it and that is for ages 6-12 I know he is on something legally but not this. It is for "ADHD" does anyone know anything about it? So he is on pot,NPR104,and caugh meds great here is another thing he is flunking out of 12th grade because he does not go to school he did not go to school all last week. My mother said he could not have friends over he did. He thinks he is a adult I have news for him he is NOT he brings friends over like it is his house then dirtys the house. I don't know what to do, he is ruining his life what can I do? If I recall I heard a news story on NPR a wile back about collage kids using "ADD" and "ADHD" meds is this right?

I am stuck in a moral rut what can I do?

[WEO]

yeah, people(who have got nothing wrong with them) use ADD/ADHD meds to get high off it.

[byee]

Hiya Phish.

I think you need to tell your folks. It's not about the pill you found, it's about the larger issue of his not functioning effectively that's most worrisome. So, you're suspicious of this pill, as well as some of the other things he's doing, it's part of a bigger picture of his bad judgement and not being responsible.

Talking with your folks isn't snitching, it's bringing additonal info to their attention, so they As the parents can address all his issues in a (hopefully) more effective way.

[phish]

Done they tell me it is not my business, well at least my father does, but my mother will not do anything. Oh yeah and he is not making friends with the right crowed.


Can you tell me, is it common for someone in his age to have one REALLY close friend that is at my house half the time and with him most of the time? I ask because I don't know anyone my age. This one kid I am talking about is a good guy, that and his new job is all he has going for him.

[Koman]

He is 18, he is an adult and he is in charge of what goes into his body.

[INFERNO]

Last spring my brother was caught(age 17 at time) smoking pot and stealing caugh med from CVS. He did community service for the meds and 2 weekends in jail for the pot. Now he is 18, I went in his room today to get my ipod that he barrowed, in there was a pill sitting on the table it says NPR104 70MG on it, I have googled it and that is for ages 6-12 I know he is on something legally but not this. It is for "ADHD" does anyone know anything about it? So he is on pot,NPR104,and caugh meds great here is another thing he is flunking out of 12th grade because he does not go to school he did not go to school all last week. My mother said he could not have friends over he did. He thinks he is a adult I have news for him he is NOT he brings friends over like it is his house then dirtys the house. I don't know what to do, he is ruining his life what can I do? If I recall I heard a news story on NPR a wile back about collage kids using "ADD" and "ADHD" meds is this right?

I am stuck in a moral rut what can I do?

Unfortunately, if he is 18, he legally is an adult regardless of how he acts. This doesn't make it right for him to take drugs however. I haven't heard that news story before, I'll look it up later and see.

If you wish to do something, then start by informing the parents if they don't already know. Next, there's no good going to come out of you getting angry at him. The use of drugs, flunking out of school, etc... is an indication that there is a much larger problem that needs to be identified. Without identifying it, you cannot treat it. IAMSAM mentioned his lack of good judgement and responsibility, well these can be part of an even larger picture, which could be the overall problem he is facing.

Typically, younger people have more friends, however, that does not mean all younger people do. The best thing to do is to note the various behaviors and acts he does, bring them to the attention of your parents, and hopefully, have a doctor examine him.

[phish]

Unfortunately, if he is 18, he legally is an adult regardless of how he acts. This doesn't make it right for him to take drugs however. I haven't heard that news story before, I'll look it up later and see.

If you wish to do something, then start by informing the parents if they don't already know. Next, there's no good going to come out of you getting angry at him. The use of drugs, flunking out of school, etc... is an indication that there is a much larger problem that needs to be identified. Without identifying it, you cannot treat it. IAMSAM mentioned his lack of good judgement and responsibility, well these can be part of an even larger picture, which could be the overall problem he is facing.

Typically, younger people have more friends, however, that does not mean all younger people do. The best thing to do is to note the various behaviors and acts he does, bring them to the attention of your parents, and hopefully, have a doctor examine him.




Well the only thing he will understand is force, I know this for a fact. The judge made him go to a therapist for a few months, nothing good came out of it, because he will not talk about anything, if the judge knew him he would not have said that.

[byee]

Done they tell me it is not my business, well at least my father does, but my mother will not do anything. Oh yeah and he is not making friends with the right crowed.


Can you tell me, is it common for someone in his age to have one REALLY close friend that is at my house half the time and with him most of the time? I ask because I don't know anyone my age. This one kid I am talking about is a good guy, that and his new job is all he has going for him.

If you've told your folks, then there's not much else you can do. It is their responsibility to intervene here, and their response indicates either an unwillingness or inability to do so effectively. Not surprisingly, when the adults/parents do nothing, the bad stuff continues. And, the fact that he's 18 and legally and 'Adult', doesn't change the fact that 1) he's showing really bad judgement, and 2) He's living at home, and presumably, under your folks rules. It would be best if they could intervene here (or get him to someone who can) to prevent a further deterioration in his judgement.

It's really hard, phish, to live in a situation and be surrounded by bad judgement (brither), as well as parental impotence. All you can do is make the attempt to share your concerns with both your folks and your bro, and then leave it alone.

To answer your other q, I think it's OK for him to have one friend (or many friends), the actual number isn't important, it's the quality of the friendship that matters. In his case, the more positive relationships he has, the better, and the fewer negative ones, the better.

[phish]

To answer your other q, I think it's OK for him to have one friend (or many friends), the actual number isn't important, it's the quality of the friendship that matters. In his case, the more positive relationships he has, the better, and the fewer negative ones, the better.[/QUOTE]

He has lots of friends just this one he is with 24/7 I will call him up and say I want to talk to my brother he is always there.