Came out to My Sister

[The Batman]

No more than 10 minutes ago I was on the phone with my sister and she asked me if I was gay, I just said yea because i felt like if i didn't say it i probably never would. She took it great she said that it doesn't change a thing and that she still loves me no matter what. The problem is I don't know what to feel. Right now, I'm happy, depressed, and a angry about it. It's like I'm feeling everything at once. She's the first person in my family that I told and I feel like I shouldn't have done it, but then again i feel as if I did the right thing. There's only one thing that I would do in a situation like this and I'm not going back to that. What am I suppose to do?

Edit: And now my mom and my brother know.

[byee]

Thomas, I'll assume I'm still welcome to respond to your posts. Tell me otherwise.

I think you should seperate your feelings that result from disclosing this very personal thing about yourself, from the simple fact that your sister figured this out for herself, and she wasn't so much seeking clarification, but rather confirmation. It's an important distinction b/c your vulnerability is much less with confirmation of something she's essentially figured out. She sounds very wise and very accepting, maybe you should feel grateful? I think it might help a lot to have someone like that in your life at this time.

Maybe you should talk with her about the ramifications of her knowing, as well as how you'd like her to proceed with sharing (or not sharing) this info about you to others. Not only will it help you feel more in control and less vulnerable, but you can source her support that way and feel a sense of closeness that will help you get thru a lot of the feelings that you might be having right now.

[The Batman]

The thing about it is that she has told my brother, who has now told my mom. My brother is pretty much avoiding it(thankfully) and my mom called and said that she loves me. I'm pretty happy about it now though.

[Skeln]

Yeah, I can understand your feelings when you first told your sister.

When we have secrets like that, we tend to want to keep them secret from others until we're ready, and just the fact that your sister had guessed you were gay made you feel uncomfortable because you thought you had kept your secret hidden from others. This makes us all uncomfortable, because it hints that they might know other secrets that we wish to keep hidden.

As for feeling like you did the right thing, maybe it's because you didn't lie and now you know you have support from your sister who you now know can help you through a tough time.

Well...I'm a little late on this post though seeing as how you feel better about it now, but yeah sounds like you've got an accepting family and you're lucky for that. Hope things go well for you.

[Sceneboy612]

Oh my god, congradulations. That must have been so hard for you to do.

[The Batman]

I get confused about it. One minute I'm happy the next i'm nervous as hell.

[Oblivion]

Congratz Thomas. Hopefully it will just go up hill from here.
I'm glad your family is supporting you.

[The Batman]

My mom is telling everyone now I get she's trying to help but it's something i rather do myself.

[Θάνατος]

Congrats, Thomas I know how you feel when I came out last year my step mom told everyone it really sucked. I had to tell people that I didn't even want to know.

[Zephyr]

That's great that you came out hun!

You may feel sad, anxious or angry because that little secret of yours is now up for scrutiny from your loved ones, but it sounds like they're all taking it very well so far and being supportive, which is a blessing!

Just tell everybody that you would like to come out on your own rather than it spreading like a wildfire amongst everybody, that way you feel like it isn't taking a complete plunge, but slowly easing into it.

Again, awesome!