Grr... (Pwz respond if you feel like it) 0.o

[Underground_Network]

Today I fucked up. At least in my eyes. I've gone through three "crushes" this year (one was a girl who I've been obsessed with for several years now, but she did something she can never take back...), and I'm pretty sure this third one is "the one." But yeah, I tend to kind of cycle through crushes, so who knows... But yes, to get to the point, I've never had the guts to talk to any of my past crushes (to the extent that I never even said "hi" to most of them, but I knew about them through my friends or through other methods 0.o), but I think I finally have the guts to go up to this girl I currently fancy.

But yeah, to my story... Today after school I was at my friend's locker with a couple of our other friends (and his girlfriend) when my crush walked up to her locker which wasn't too far away. I saw her and I really, really wanted to approach her, but A) my friends were being dumbasses and I knew if I approached her then and there they might butt in on my conversation and fuck with me [thus not letting me have a real conversation with her] and B) I'm not sure I honestly had it in me to leave my friends and go up to her...

But yeah, so I didn't talk to her when I had the PERFECT opportunity to today and I'm just not sure I'll ever have it in me to go up to a girl I like. I really like this girl for some reason, even though I know nothing about her. Other than what she looks like and how she dresses (which are kinda the same thing lol) I don't know anything about her personality. I have a friend who knows her, but he doesn't even know that I know that he knows her (if that makes any sense), so if I really wanted to "know" her I could ask him about her; but I kinda just want to say hi and get to know her. If I like her for who she is, maybe I could make something out of it; if not, its still a boost for my confidence if I can work up the courage to talk to a girl as beautiful as her.

But yeah, I don't know whether I'm even asking for advice here... Maybe I could just some confidence boosting... If that would even help. I honestly don't know. This thread has turned into more of a rant than I wanted it to; but whatever. 0.o

Anyways.. Thanks for reading I guess. 0.o

Pwz respond, if not for my sake, for the muffinz's sake. :cry2:

[AllThatIsLeft]

Courage darling. Girls loveeee confidence, and if you just get in there, everything should be okay. =]]

[Underground_Network]

What bugs me Paula, is that I can talk to almost anyone nowadays, something I used to be unable to do, but I just can't talk to girls I like (not necessarily all girls I find physically attractive, just girls I LIKE). That and there are some people I just can't talk to also, because they see me as the old me and they just won't "let" the new me "come out" so to speak. 0.o

[Mzor203]

I hate to say this to you Adam... but... Only you can go up to her and say 'hi'. None of us can do that for you.

Don't get me wrong. I am waaaaay worse than you in the way that I can't talk to ANYONE, male, female, young, old, unless I know them a bit. So I know how it feels. And I know how it feels to be told to 'just do it.' I hate it when people tell me because they don't know how it feels, but unfortunately is the truth, whether you or I want it be. You just have to make up your mind to go and do it, approach her, open your mouth, and say 'hi.'

Good luck, Adam. :)

[Underground_Network]

I know. I've grown to understand that Rex. Its just, I feel better with things when I have some experience with them... And most of the girls I've gotten to know throughout this school year have gone up to me or have multiple mutual friends with me... I mean, if I HAD to talk to her or she HAD to talk to me, I could probably start things right there, but seeing as we have no classes together and I don't see her outside of school, the chances of a situation where she was kind of forced to talk to me occurring are almost nil....

[kangaskan240]

is she a library fan? try to get her in there if she is.

[lesher]

Try both direct or indirect approach!

Like AllThatIsLeft said, girl loves confidence (don't be too overconfident until you do stupid things in front of her, okay?).
When I ask my friend (female) she says that she wants to be told "Will you be my girlfriend?" or something like that in front of her, not by phone. She demands courage for the guy who dare to approach her.

But on one side, I'm just like you Underground_Network, I'm also a shy person >_<

[jack straw]

Try both direct or indirect approach!

Like AllThatIsLeft said, girl loves confidence (don't be too overconfident until you do stupid things in front of her, okay?).
When I ask my friend (female) she says that she wants to be told "Will you be my girlfriend?" or something like that in front of her, not by phone. She demands courage for the guy who dare to approach her.

But on one side, I'm just like you Underground_Network, I'm also a shy person >_<

I feel the same way; I heard on the news about the increasing number of actually married people getting divorced through myspace/facebook or one of those sites. I told my friend (female) that I had a question for her, and to meet me after school- it's just so impersonal to ask over the phone or internet. But that took so long to build up the courage to do, I thought I would never ask her!





What bugs me Paula, is that I can talk to almost anyone nowadays, something I used to be unable to do, but I just can't talk to girls I like (not necessarily all girls I find physically attractive, just girls I LIKE). That and there are some people I just can't talk to also, because they see me as the old me and they just won't "let" the new me "come out" so to speak. 0.o


That just might be my biggest problem; most people only see one side of me, and they dont give me a chance to really talk to them. I can talk to anybody, anywhere on nearly any topic unless i'm talking to a girl I LIKE or it's just going to be me talking (Such as public speeking, which I cant stand!)

[Underground_Network]

I had a chance today, sort of. I saw her on her way to her locker at the end of the day, but then when I got to where her locker was she wasn't there... I'll try again tomorrow, but this is a really stressful week (I have a lot of tests) and well, I don't know. There's something different about me in multiple ways. One thing is good (I'm more social and I'm a nicer/easier to get along with guy), but the other is bad (I'm not going to explain it, as its kind of impossible to explain tbh, but basically I have these urges and these thoughts, and I used to have them, but now that I've changed socially I'm actually close to acting on some of these urges...)

[lesher]

I thought I would never ask her!
Ask her what...? I'm curious... :)

I can talk to anybody, anywhere on nearly any topic unless i'm talking to a girl I LIKE
Dude, I feel the same here, I don't know what to say to her, but I want to get know her better.... (I think I should make a new topic)

but basically I have these urges and these thoughts, and I used to have them, but now that I've changed socially I'm actually close to acting on some of these urges...
Sorry, I really don't get it... :confused:

[jack straw]

Ask her what...? I'm curious... :)

Ask her what? well, I was crazy in love with her (Still am) and wanted to know if she would go out with me. Well, as long ago that was, and she dumped me over a year ago, I still remember almost every moment with her. especially some of the more interesting moments ( check some of these out for example: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?p=499159#post499159" )



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