Private School!!!

[DarkWingedAngel]

Well as some people may know I have this major bully problem. Well the other day I had a breakdown in class over it. This problem has been going on for like my life. So my mom sujested i go to a private school in Oakville(not the town i live in).

So im asking you guys... would a private school be better or should i just change to a different school in my city?

[INFERNO]

A private school may result in less, the same or more bullying. It depends not only on the school but how you are, how you act, whether you can withstand bullying (if you cant withstand a bit of it, it is likely to continue), etc... .

Private schools generally have smaller classes, which statistically means less bullying, although that's not a guaruntee.

If you run away from the problem, then how can you expect to fix it? Try to figure out why you are bullied, try to remove as many weaknesses as possible. If you run away crying from one school to the next, whatever personality and behavior you exhibited before is likely to stay with you at the next school unless you can step in, assess it and possibly change it.

[ShatteredWings]

^^THAT is really insensitive. It's NOT her fault that there are assholes who want to harrass people for no reason.

Is the same private school we discussed a few weeks ago?
ha, you in a skirt five days a week. Think ya can live through that one? lol. But sersioully though, some private schools are worse than public schools
Maybe you can look into a different highschool in the area to transfer to. Unforutnatly, i think there's no way to get away totally from those people even when they're out of school for ages.. they come back. UGH

[INFERNO]

;497289']^^THAT is really insensitive. It's NOT her fault that there are assholes who want to harrass people for no reason.

Is the same private school we discussed a few weeks ago?
ha, you in a skirt five days a week. Think ya can live through that one? lol. But sersioully though, some private schools are worse than public schools
Maybe you can look into a different highschool in the area to transfer to. Unforutnatly, i think there's no way to get away totally from those people even when they're out of school for ages.. they come back. UGH

Unfortunately, it's reality, it may be insensitive but I'm not going to butter it up and lie just to make some random person feel good. If you want the bullying to stop, you need to think why is it starting in the first place. Chances are, there is something specific about you that made you get bullied rather than someone else in the same class, age, gender, grade, etc... . Call it insensitive if you want, I call it growing skin and reality.

But, if you want to run off to some other school, and if you get bullied there, what are you going to do then? Run to some other school? If you keep running from the problems, you're not solving them. But, it's your life, if you wish to run away from each bullying problem, that's your choice.

As for your small font, are you implying I'm a bully? If so, fine display of your immaturity.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok buddy i would like to say they make fun of me for NO reason I repeat NO reason
they just like to harrass me and try to kill me

[INFERNO]

ok buddy i would like to say they make fun of me for NO reason I repeat NO reason
they just like to harrass me and try to kill me

Why do they like to harass you? Do you react in a certain way that they find humourous? If there was no reason for them to bully you, then why don't they bully others, why not bully the entire grade? If someone tries to kill you or harass you, there's a reason for it. You may not know the reason or be unable to figure it out, however, that does not mean there is no reason.

[DarkWingedAngel]

Why do they like to harass you? Do you react in a certain way that they find humourous? If there was no reason for them to bully you, then why don't they bully others, why not bully the entire grade? If someone tries to kill you or harass you, there's a reason for it. You may not know the reason or be unable to figure it out, however, that does not mean there is no reason.
i mean NO reason at all
they just think it's funny to harass someone that's smaller
they think it's funny to scare me away

[INFERNO]

i mean NO reason at all
they just think it's funny to harass someone that's smaller
they think it's funny to scare me away

Read what you wrote. You gave two reasons.

[ebony15]

Wow. in what way were you bullied?

[INFERNO]

Wow. in what way were you bullied?

Who are you asking?

[ebony15]

:) the first guy..

[AutumnDae]

I have to say, there is probably going to be bullies no matter where you go. I know a few people who go to private schools, and I have asked them if there are pretty strict cliques and any bullying going on before, and one said "No, not really. When I went to public school (She went to public until 9th grade) everyone was obsessed with clothes and hair. Now, since we all wear the exact same thing and we can only have our hair a few ways, its not that big of an issue. But people still find things to tease one another about. It's always going to happen." And the other (Her school has a little bit more relaxed 'uniform'. It is khaki pants and a polo shirt.) said "If you aren't looking perfect, you're going to get bullied. If you are smaller than someone, you get bullied. If you say a wrong answer, you can feel people staring at you."

So, I think anywhere you go you will find bullying happening. Some schools, its less of an issue. Private schools seem to either have a lot of it going on, or not much at all. Public schools vary too.

But, I understand why you want to change schools. You want to get away from it, and hopefully it won't continue. I would suggest maybe looking into another public school before the private school. Not only will you not have to pay (Private schools can get quite expensive as far as I know....) the classes will probably be a bit bigger, and you will be able to find a group of people who you get along with.

[Antares]

Well, I would say a private school would be a good thing to try out.
The main thing I have against private schools is that they tend to not learn...the real social skills needed for...basic common sense and survival really...however you have been to a public school and I think you have learned some valuable things.

So I would say yes. I won't promise that it will be all that better but, I think your situation will improve because its a fresh start.

If you do decide to try the private school route, make sure you...start off on the right foot. Try to appeal to people and be your self, and don't change. That way you will be able to make true friends.

So yea, fresh start, good :)

[zdallasz]

maby u should it might be better and i hope you feel better

[asdhaklsjdh]

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[ebony15]

haha.. anybody experienced being Bullied because you're in a Private school.and you were bullied by those from Public? ...

[Reality]

Actually, private schools are more or less the same way socially as public schools. My friend knows a kid that goes to an expensive private school in this city, that is bullied and even beaten up because he is a Goth - which is a rarity at that school. So, yes, they're very much tight cliques in private schools, and grammar schools, too.

No one is bullied for no reason. Even if it's something as stupid as being smaller (or taller in my case >_>), it's still a reason. If it's because of your height, then it varies. But if it's something like a ruined reputation, then changing school's will get rid of your problem.

Moving school because of bullying should be your very last resort, though. Are you sure you've tried to fix it, and you're not simply running away?

[ackmedsgirl666]

desi maybe ur mom is right
a new school( private school) is a CHANCE to start over
nobody knows u and u can walk the halls without being harassed
trust me it was the same at my new school i mean when i started at OUR school and i met friends like you
but desi
take it into consideration
maybe u should just give it a try!!