Getting a date for prom

[kkfkfg]

I'm a senior in high school and I've never had a girl friend. I always get nervous when talking to girls, especially good looking ones. There's this one girl in one of my ap classes who I know is single, but I don't really know her. Its the end of the year and the teacher is pretty much letting us study on our own for the ap exam so everyone just talks to each other. The problem is everyone has their own little clique and no one I know is friends with her. I don't want to be a creep and just walk over to her randomly. I don't know what to do and I am running out of time.

I know I will need to start talking to her, but I get nervous when meeting someone knew. I know I need to grow some balls and just do it, haha. However, I don't know how I can get the confidence to just do it.

[Underground_Network]

I'm just like you, and I honestly don't know if I can say anything truly helpful.

All I can see is I'm 15 and I've never had a girlfriend and its mainly because of my shyness and my nervousness around girls. But lately I've discovered that talking to attractive girls isn't that hard; I mean, when it comes to talking to someone I really don't know whatsoever, its tough, real tough; but when it comes to a girl who's in one of my classes, no matter how attractive [or unattractive] she is, I find it pretty easy [for the most part] to talk to her.

I think what you need to do is just start talking to her. Just say anything ("hi" should work) and just try and get a conversation started. If you've never talked to her before and you've waited all the way until now to start, its going to be tough, but nothing is impossible. You have to try and get passed your nerves and tack on some confidence. Its tough; building enough confidence to become just slightly less shy than I used to be has taken me nearly three years, so I know its not an easy task.

Nothing we can say will truly make it easier, you just have to try and work up the confidence to talk to her. As you said, time is not on your side, so the next time you see her, just say hi. Compliment her or comment on something she's wearing, something you know she likes, etc. Some girls I've discovered realize you're nervous around them and will kind of help you out when you're trying to think of something to talk about. If she at least "sort of likes you" I think she'd definitely want to talk to you (i.e. if you started off a conversation awkwardly, she wouldn't look at you strangely and walk away). If you can talk to her no problem, you definitely might have a shot at taking her to prom... But the first step is just working up the confidence to talk to her...

So good luck with that. ;)

[kkfkfg]

Thanks for the reply.

I'd also like to add that she is a junior and its a senior prom so that should help when i decide to ask her.

I just think it would be really awkward to walk up to someone who is surrounded by her friends and start a conversation.

[Underground_Network]

Its tough. Its very tough; especially for guys like you and me who are often nervous wrecks around girls we find attractive (or around most girls in general). The easiest time to approach her would probably be when she's alone, as opposed to when she's surrounded by her friends. Are there any instances when she'd be by herself and you could approach her without her friends being "in the way"?

[kkfkfg]

No she walks in with her friends and leaves with her friends.

[Underground_Network]

What about during the class itself?

[kkfkfg]

She sits with her friends...

[Underground_Network]

Well then, I guess you have to go up to her when she's with her friends. If you really want to get to know her, you have to be able to talk to her around her friends anyway. If she's never away from her friends, then it sucks that you can't talk to her when she's alone, but you can still start to get to know her. All you have to do is say "hi." And maybe in the process you could end up being friends with the majority of, if not all of her friends.

[kkfkfg]

It would feel so awkward though, I don't want to look like an idiot.

[Underground_Network]

Eh, sometimes we have to look like an idiot when we're trying to impress a girl. Even when we do, some girls find it funny [in a good way] when a guy ends up looking like an idiot in an effort to impress them.

You've just got to try and talk to her, or you're going to get nowhere. If you decide not to, you decide not to. Its your choice.

[kkfkfg]

It would also suck if she said no and I had to sit in that class for the rest of the year.

[AutumnDae]

Yes, but there isn't that much time left in the year. Live a little. If she says no, she says no. If she says yes, that's awesome!

And as for some advice, when she walks in the class, if you are already there, just say 'Hey, how are you?' and go from there. Conversation will flow, or maybe you two could study together. You are taking the same class as her.

[Underground_Network]

That's something that just happens though. I know that if I asked out my current crush and she said no it would be strange (and possibly even painful) to walk by her in the halls everyday, but its a chance you have to take. That and asking her out to the prom shouldn't be the first thing you do. You should spend at least a little bit of time getting to know her. Just saying hi isn't as risky as going up to her and having the first words out of your lips being "Do you want to go to prom with me?"

Say hi, see what she's like, see if she's interested in you, etc. If she seems alright (and seems alright with you), then ask her out to the prom. If not, then either find someone else or figure something else out. My school has a junior and senior prom (I'm a sophomore), and I know that next year if nothing else pans out there are two girls I could ask who would definitely say yes (well, if they were single, which they both are right now), as they're quite friendly with me.

Do you have ANY friends that are girls? And well, if you don't, and this girl doesn't work out, you can always ask out a guy? :/ I don't really know, but I do know quite a few guys that have gone to prom by themselves and have had fun with a date...

That and one of my cousins sucked around girls when he was in high school so he went with my sister (which was strange, but everyone was staring at him like 'wow, how did he get a date with a girl that hot?', so, for all intents and purposes, it worked out well for him... And now he's married to one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen. He went from shy, anti-social geek who couldn't land a prom date to successful person (I don't know what to call his occupation, he basically makes Amtrak's computers work) and he has a very beautiful wife...