Before dating...

[lesher]

1st : What do you say when you're about to make someone to become you boyfriend/girlfriend? :)

2nd : Do you stop masturbating after having a bf/gf? Or just do it like usual? Which is better? (seriously, this is just about masturbation, not about having sex together)

PS:I've added 2 new question

3rd : What would you do if your girl/boyfriend take you to his/her religion places (church, temple, etc), but you're an atheist (or at least different releigion)?

4th : What do you think about marrying someone with different religion (especially when you're an atheist)?

These questions are stuck on my mind, and I'm absolutely confused about this..

[Affliction]

hmm well ive never asked someone out but they have asked me and i masturbate like i would normally do it hasnt changed really

[jjmcray]

1) I just simply ask them, "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?"

2) After I asked out my first gf, I did stop masturbating for a while. It was almost involuntary. I just no longer felt like I needed to look at porn and stuff to "get off," when I had it in real life... I also had a feeling that if I stopped masturbating it would give me a sense of loyalty, and I would be "clean" in a way, as in, not perverted, or something. If that even makes sense.

3) I have been questioning Christianity and God and etc and their existence ever since I was little. My girlfriend had taken me to her church before, and we even attended her aunt's wedding there. I did not show any sign of discomfort or anything... I just went with it. It wasn't that bad.

4) I think it's fine as long as both people are OK with it. It would be a hassle, but it would be possible to practice different religions under the same roof. Or perhaps one could convince the other to convert to the other religion, and then you wouldn't have a problem deciding which religion your children would be.

[Lady_Chaos]

1) The one time I asked the guy I told him I liked him a while before and he said he returned the feeling so we just started going out.

2) I didn't stop =P And we even talk about it sometimes...

3) My bf doesn't go to church and he's an atheist, just like I am, so it doesn't really matter. My earlier bf did go to church and I went with him once, but I never changed my views.

4) I don't think I would marry someone of a different religion because I am an Atheist, and I don't like hearing about "God" or anything, it bores me and makes me mad because I disagree with it.

[kangaskan240]

i wouldn't mind at all if i married someone that was a different religion, not one bit.

[Gumleaf]

i'll answer the religious questions. in the early stages of a relationship i think its a good idea to respect your bf/gf's religious choice. if they invite you to attend with them, i don't see any problem with that. if you just attend with them, you aren't obliged to accept their beliefs and whatever goes with it. when the relationship becomes more serious and you talk about marriage, then this topic becomes much more important. you should talk to your partner about this first because it could cause some tension down the track, especially if your religious opinions differ.

[ebony15]

sometimes the difficulty about having different religions is when your kids will be confused and stuff ...like for example Catholic or Protestant.. they have different beliefs and stuff.. but usually the case, you have to turn into a cath if your husband/wife is Cath, or what whatever your religion is to avoid conflicts. anyways.

[lesher]

Yeah, I always keep questioning about "our" kid's religion if we were to marry with someone different religion... Maybe "our" kids need to choose their own religion, perhaps?

1) I just simply ask them, "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?"
Wow, you're brave... You asked that question out of nowhere to that girl?

[ebony15]

Yeah, I always keep questioning about "our" kid's religion if we were to marry with someone different religion... Maybe "our" kids need to choose their own religion, perhaps?

Yes, :) there are friends of mine-->there parents are catholic but they are Protestant. But sometimes your Parents can force you to go with them and make you believe what they believe in..

But for me, you have a free will ... to choose what you choose to believe in.:)

[jjmcray]

Wow, you're brave... You asked that question out of nowhere to that girl?

I didn't know you meant like WAY before you ask out someone. I thought you meant just how to actually pop the question.

As for before you start dating and stuff, you just have to become friends with her, get to know her better, find out what she likes and doesn't like, listen to what she says, and remember it. Girls like it when you remember stuff they say. It means you care what they say.

[lesher]

Ahh, it's hard to know her since she tends to hang out in the crowd or with her friends... I'm too damn shy >_<

[lesher]

Ahh, it's hard to know her since she tends to hang out in the crowd or with her friends... I'm too damn shy >_<

[jjmcray]

Ahh, it's hard to know her since she tends to hang out in the crowd or with her friends... I'm too damn shy >_<

I know exactly what you feel like man I was just like that as of like half a year ago.

The only thing I can tell you is just forget about everything, your shyness, your fear of messing up or getting rejected or whatever, take a deep breath, and just go in for the kill. Go talk to her, get to know her.