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Anything
April 20th, 2009, 01:59 PM
First of all this is mostly venting I guess. Sorry if it's too long. Please don't reply if you haven't read the whole thing. This thread is also intended for responses from girls but anyone can give their thoughts :).

I have a problem. I was born with CMT which is a type of muscular atrophy.( to get a better understanding of it click http://www.mda.org/disease/cmt.html). Basically, it's a condition that effects me physically so when people see me they notice my legs and forearms are skinnier than normal. I have been using a wheelchair for school and other public places since I was 13. It also effects my hands so I can't spread them out strait of grip things very well. I won't type out every single detail because it will take too long so please click the link above. Although I use a wheelchair in public, Im still very mobile and independent so i don't use one in my house, I walk on my knees, and i can transfer into the chairs at restaurants and do not need anybody to assist me in any daily living activity. It have no effect on me mentally what so ever

I'm posting this here because of how it has effected me physically, emotionally, and sexually. I'm a 17 yr old senior at high school and lately I've been depressed about the whole thing. I have never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl outside of family. I feel like girls would not want to be with me because why would they when there's somebody else out there who doesn't have these problems. I have pretty bad anxiety around girls so I have problems with approaching people and keeping conversations going. Basically I feel like I will never have an intimate relationship because I feel like if I did I wouldn't be able to satisfy her because of the way my hands are. Even though i have no other issues in that area.

So whenever I see guys around my age with hot girlfriends I get depressed. So this is just about my condition and how it relates to girl problems. All I want is just for a pretty girl to like me as more than just a friend. I feel like I will die a virgin. So i guess the question is..would a girl be with a guy even if he has a physical disability?

PS: If you have any other questions about my disability feel free to pm me :)

AllThatIsLeft
April 20th, 2009, 02:13 PM
In this world there is someone for everyone, there will come a time when you will meet a girl interested in you. and chances are that she will like you for who you are, patience is a gift.

and if you are patient one day that girl will come.

my advise would be to work on your social skills, they will help alot.
and i'm sorry if i can't answer this better.

Anything
April 22nd, 2009, 06:54 PM
Thanks for the advice.

I know i have to work on my social skills a lot. It's just difficult because I feel like nobody takes me seriously. I feel like when I do talk to a girl she just goes along and just tries to be nice knowing that she's already not interested. The problem is when I do get to a point of friendship and frequent conversation I have a hard time realizing whether she wants to be friends or is interested in something more. the problem is girls sugar coat things for me because they don't want to hurt my feelings. I don't know, it's hard to explain.

lesher
April 23rd, 2009, 02:39 AM
!!! That must be very hard on you... Altough I don't have your disease, I can feel your despair and loneliness...

I wish you will meet that "someone"! Just never give up and pass chance when you see them :) !! Good luck!