Cancer ... I need help please :(

[HelloWorld123456]

Look it goes like this .. i dont really know where to put this but i think it is in here ... Look i am getting quite mad for one serious fact ...

It is quite hard for me to talk about it .. so i tought here is the best place .. i cant talk about it because i feel very jammed .. cant talk .. and also need to just cry .. i am afraid of dying very soon .. of cancer .. it goes like this ..

my dad had one (but he go cured) then i was concieved .. his cousin got one and is dying .. his aunt has one and is dying too .. my moms uncle had one (and got almost cured) .. there are 3 other people in my family that have caner records .. and i think 2 that have tumor records ... i am very afraid to look up google about cancer .. because i am very afraid of what i might find .. i have never gone to hospital to visit family relatives with this problem because i find it really hard of seeing of what i might get one day since my family a number of these records :( .. really afraid of go up and talk it out too .. i think this is the first time i said of what i am scared .. i cant talk it out with my parents because i get scraed and just say .. it is nothing .. i just block myself .. and get really afraid of talking it out with someone face to face ... :(

i am very afraid of getting one since i was concieved after my father had one .. which i believe that would increase my risks of getting one .. the act is i am just scared .. i dont want to die early .. do you think caner is genetic ? please help i cant live with the tought on my mind that i have great risks of getting cancer in my life .. and die of young age .. i am really scared please help ..

i couldnt google cancer since as i said really afraid of what i might find but i think you can help me best ... please help :(:(:(:(:(:( i am shaking with fear

i didnt think i would ever post this :( .. i feel very frightened when i get sick and go to the doctor ... assuming that he would find an abnormal behaviour in my body ... please help please help

please just dont read thiss and go to another post or thead please reply ... every help is appreciated ... :( .. just dont turn the page i really appreciate your help ... please if you read it do not turn your back to me please

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Wow... that sounds like a lot that your struggling with. I have had several people in my family who have gotten cancer too...it's all around me really...and I have been afraid too that I may get it someday. I don't know if it can be passed on genetically or not...If it can be passed on genetically then there is a great possibility that I could get cancer too. I am always afraid when I go to the doctor that someday something just may not be right. To be honest with you I don't think I would make it through cancer if I got it...because I just am not that strong of a person...everyone always says I am strong but I don't feel strong at all...I have been through a lot...I have watched several people die from cancer...I understand how worried you are because I am worried myself...and lately it just seems to keep hitting closer and closer to home...I think you and I share a common fear...the fear of the unknown...I have not been able to google cancer much myself...I had to do it for a project this year but I just could not bring myself to do it... but here's a thought for the both of us...would maybe learning about cancer relax our fears a bit if we knew what it really was and what the warning signs are...it's just an idea but maybe it would relax your mind a bit...give you peace to know what it is all about...but I would like to say this too..if you do google it...look at legitamite websites...and if you do look at the signs and you go oh I have a lot of these try not to diagnose yourself...if you are concerned that you may have it then go to the doctor..it's better to find out when it's early....and not later...because most often if it is found early it can be treated. If you ever want to talk to me personally about cancer...or if you just need someone to listen...I am here for ya...just PM me. I know how tough it is to watch people go through cancer...I have been there too many times myself...

[byee]

This is a lot, I'm sorry for you. Let me try to make some sense of this as best I can. Let me know if you need more.

There are many different types of cancer, it's not just one disease. So, it really depends on what type of cancer your relatives have. And, to make matters more complicated, each person's cancer (even if it's the same type of cancer) is a bit different. So, although hearing that some family members have it is understandably scary, I think you have to try to not generalize too much. Cancer is (unfortunately) prevalent, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's terminal (results in death), nor does it mean you are destined to get it, either.

Dealing with the emotions of cancer are difficult, and there's no easy answer to how to address the many frightening feelings one gets one they find out a loved one has it. You have to do what's comfortable for you and what works for you, you have to cope with it as best as you can. But, I'd recommend you try to put it into perspective. The word 'cancer' is terrifying, but it doesn't mean certain death. Have hope, and remember that the person(s) afflicted are still who they've always been to you, and that you should try to enjoy them and what they offer as much as you can, even if the surroundings are uncomfortable.

Take care of yourself, do things in moderation, and live your life to it's fullest, donlt do those things known to lead to cancer (like smoking). None of us know what the future holds, all we can do is make the most of what we've got, and take reasonable precautions.

[HelloWorld123456]

My biggest question is .. Is cancer genetic ??

[nick]

Sorry to read your post, life can be very tough.

The truth, as you probably are aware, is that there are genetic risks in some cancers, it does have a tendency to run in families. However the fact that you father had cancer when you were conceived I think is probably irrelevant, I haven't heard of that increasing the risk at all.

Having said that, it doesnt mean that eveyone in your family is going to get cancer, or that people with no family history are safe from cancers. There are all sorts of things you can do to reduce the risk, and by implication there are things you can do to increase the risk. For example chosing not to smoke, eating plenty of fibre in your diet and being very careful with exposure to strong sunlight will greatly reduce the risks of lung cancer, bowel cancer and skin cancer.

So go with Sam's last sentence above, enjoy life, take care of your body and try not to worry about things that you cant control.

[HelloWorld123456]

yeah but since it is genetic .. i mean maj father first had it .. got cured then i got concieved .. i am 100% sure that maj dna has register some of it in me ..

i think that does increase the risk ..

[nick]

Its still only a risk factor, a statistical thing, not a certainty or even a probability. Stay cool

[byee]

yeah but since it is genetic .. i mean maj father first had it .. got cured then i got concieved .. i am 100% sure that maj dna has register some of it in me ..

i think that does increase the risk ..

It depends on what type of cancer it is, some are more genetic than others, and evenso, there's never a 1:1 correlation, it's not like it's a sure thing that you have to get it b/c he had it.

All you can do is avoid the obvious risk factors (like smoking), eat well, get exercise, keep the stress low, and enjoy your life. Regardless of what runs in your family, there's still much that cannot be predicted. Making yourself frantic will not prevent it, anyway.

[random-chibi]

It's like I learned in science class. You have an increased risk of getting cancer if you inherited a mutated gene, however if you take good care of yourself you're not as likely to get it. However, it's very possible for you not to have inherited a mutated gene and your genes could possibly mutate on their own in time. This is why it is important, not just for you, but for everyone, to take care of themselves.

Because we never know what may happen. However, it's normal for you to be worried about it, but try not to let it affect your everyday activities. My mother has MS (though thankfully she doesn't have it too bad), I am afraid of getting it too one day. But I just don't let it bug me and I try to live my life the way I want to live it.

Be thankful for your good health, and just try to stay healthy for the rest of your life!

[cool person]

Depending on the kind of cancer, you might have a slightly higher suceptability for cancer. However cancer is still fairly rare especially amongst young people. It sounds like the realyproblem here is anciety. If you are good about getting screened regularly like doctors advise, your chances if dieing of cancer, even if you do get it is greatly decreased.