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[Roxy_]

My friend told me that she just found out that she is going to hav a baby. But she has not told her parents yet. And she is only 14. She asked me if i would tell her parents with her. How should i go about this???:confused::confused:

[Truth]

My friend told me that she just found out that she is going to hav a baby. But she has not told her parents yet. And she is only 14. She asked me if i would tell her parents with her. How should i go about this???:confused::confused: You tell them. There's nothing that can help them be less mad, or pissed, or disgusted. You just tell them, nothin else to it. =l

[Roxy_]

thanx . . . . . . i think

[jack straw]

My friend told me that she just found out that she is going to hav a baby. But she has not told her parents yet. And she is only 14. She asked me if i would tell her parents with her. How should i go about this???:confused::confused:

Ok. well, since she is only 14 :eek: her parents might not be very happy. I would suggest that she does tell her parents with somebody, it might make it a little easier on her, and her parents are less likely to go completly insane. I would first be 100,000,000% sure that she is pregnant because if it turns out that she's not, and you told her parents that she's having sex at 14, that could create alot of VERY ackward tension between everybody.


wow. 14???????? geezz, when I was 14 I only had my first kiss, and was happy with that... Pregnant? that has got to be a shock for her and her boyfriend.

[Roxy_]

Well she has got a 'stomach' and she took like 7 test.
And they all said that she was pegnant.

[HelloWorld123456]

oh man .. if i were you id would stay kind of out of it ... :/ .. i d help her .. but ... getting into stuff like this with .. her .. she has to tell her parents alone, because her parents will turn quite agressive for sure .. man 14 is a very young age, both to have sex and even more to have a baby :|

[brownsugga.xx]

Wow, well this is a very....different situation, well, if I were you, [I] would just go about it as like ' Hey, Mr/Mrs._____, how you doing ? Well, I know that you know me very well, and that me and your daughter have been friends for a really long time, so I want to tell you something that I know, you have the right to know, and that is _________________(whatever the case is )'


I hope that helped : ) All the best for you and and your friend, and I would take another test if I were you, and talk the whole situation over with whoever the father is.

[Aneklusmos]

I think the best thing for it is to just be there. Don't try to explain to her parents for her. Just be there to provide moral support. Hold her hand, make sure her parents don't flip out, things like that.

and wow 14.....

[Charleigh]

i was 7 when i had my firts kiss, im 14 and not a virgin...away from that bit coz im not a very good example for others but...just tell her that she should tell them herself because the parents could grow to hate you, you can tell them but just dont act as if your grassing her up, just tell them gently and break the news

HAVE FUN!

[Sapphire]

Does she want to keep it?

[Grey fox]

I think the best thing for it is to just be there. Don't try to explain to her parents for her. Just be there to provide moral support. Hold her hand, make sure her parents don't flip out, things like that.

and wow 14.....

Just be a good and supportive friend, it's a huge and scary thing that she has to tell her parents, and it sounds like you are the friend she trusts the most so she needs you for moral support.

The school I used to go to, loads of girls were getting pregnant at 12 /13.

How the parents will react depends on whether or not she wants to keep it. Being pregnant is hard work on your body, and a baby is expensive and will be dependant on her until the child is 18, by which time she will be 32, the age when most women tend to start having babies.

So it all depends. But whatever happens, be as morally supportive as possible to her and never let her feel like she has to face it all on her own. :)

[Sapphire]

Having a baby now will ruin her life.
She has to think very hard about this.

[Jennifer]

I got pregnant when i was 13, and decided to keep mine. Im in the hospital right now from having triplets on the 13th. Giving birth was the most painful thing ive ever experienced, and i had to do it three times in a row. Make sure she knows what she is getting into if she decides to keep it, if not get an abortion. im here if u got any questions.

[ErykaInspire.]

With all honesty, I think this is something she needs to do herself. If she's expecting a child, she has to start taking responsibilities. If she can't even confront her own parents about something so serious, how is she going to raise a baby? I think her parents will be supportive, how can they not? People make mistakes, remind her of that. Let her know that you support her 100%, and you'll be by her side when SHE tells her parents.
If she gets too scared to confront them, usher her parents into her room and say "She needs to talk to you about something serious. Don't jump to conclusions, this isn't easy for her. Please try to understand and don't be too upset."
They're guaranteed to be upset though, maybe even yell a little. But they'll still love her.

Although she's young, she shouldn't get the baby aborted, she should atleast give it up for adoption. It deserves a life at best.
If she does decide to keep it, support her and offer to come over and help her out a few days a week.
Be a good friend, and don't let her put herself down too much.

Let her stand on her own two feet, because pretty soon she'll be teaching someone else to stand on theirs.

[Sapphire]

Although she's young, she shouldn't get the baby aborted, she should atleast give it up for adoption. It deserves a life at best.How is carrying a baby to term despite the negative effect it can have on her education and social life the responsible way to deal with this?

[ErykaInspire.]

How is carrying a baby to term despite the negative effect it can have on her education and social life the responsible way to deal with this?

Wow, I wasn't trying to start a fight.
This was asking us for advice, meaning our opinions.
My little brother died and didn't deserve a chance. So i'm sorry for being touchy on abortion.
And if I wasn't mistaken, she put herself in this position.
I know for a fact that pregnancy will ruin her life.
I had a pregnancy scare when I was raped last year, she had sex at her own free will.
Me giving my advice, is giving her the option to choose and see from every perspective available.

[Sapphire]

Everyone knows about adoption and abortion and so I fail to see how asserting your pro-life attitude is you actually just trying to make her aware of all the options.

And it is perfectly legal to get an abortion after consensual sex so what's with the comment about her getting herself into this position? What has it actually bought to this topic?

[Grey fox]

Although she's young, she shouldn't get the baby aborted, she should atleast give it up for adoption. It deserves a life at best.


Giving a baby up for adoption after going through 9 months of bonding with it inside you, the hours of traumatising and painful labour, is the hardest thing any woman should ever have to go through. It is strongly against nature and insitncts to give up a baby, and I know that I certainly couldn't, and though i'm terrified of being infertile and being unable to have children when im older, I would much rather have an abortion then either try to be a parent when i'm still a child myself or have to give away a baby.

(I's also like to make the point that in this country at least, the care system leaves a lot to be desired, there is a lack of couples willing to adopt, and a child born from teenage parents is likely to become a parent when they themselves are a teenager. For example my friend, he mum had her when she was 18, she has about 7 younger brothers a sisters, all desperately poor and unhappy, and my friend has only just turned 18 and she already has 2 little boys, and none if any qualifications or job prospects. She's lucky the social welfare system gives out so much to teenage parents)

But it's up to her, really, at the end of the day. But whatever happens, and ESPECIALLY if she chooses to have the pregnancy terminated, she needs you for support.

[ErykaInspire.]

Everyone knows about adoption and abortion and so I fail to see how asserting your pro-life attitude is you actually just trying to make her aware of all the options.

And it is perfectly legal to get an abortion after consensual sex so what's with the comment about her getting herself into this position? What has it actually bought to this topic?

You're being pro-life too, so stop the bullshit and respect the fact that i'm trying to help.
ffs, this isn't a war; We're both giving our own opinions, so stop bashing mine.
I have my reasons, and i'm sure you have yours. So stick to giving help, not shoving others down their throats.

[Sapphire]

You're being pro-life too, so stop the bullshit and respect the fact that i'm trying to help.
ffs, this isn't a war; We're both giving our own opinions, so stop bashing mine.
I have my reasons, and i'm sure you have yours. So stick to giving help, not shoving others down their throats.
Lol, don't insult me like that. I'm pro-choice.

And don't lecture me. You are the one the brought your own personal views into this. All I've done is respond to you once you'd done this.
Maybe if you put aside your views and actually tried to focus on helping the person at hand it would be better all round...

[Zazu]

Please don't hijack the thread with an argument. If it's something you both wish to discuss, please do so via PM.

[Amyxoxo]

Well i got pregnant at 13 :/ i didnt know how to tell anyone but i did. I told my best mate first and well basically i told a teacher at school. They then told my mum, but that was the worst way to do it in my opinion, i think she needs to do it on her own, unless her parents and well...unoe then you should be there with her, but you shouldnt tell them. They will respect her more if she does it.
Amyxoxo

[SlappyTwinkle]

if i were you, i'd stay out of it. it's not your business, even though your friend kind of made it your business. and when your not a family member, and your getting into family matters, that can get really messy. the best thing you can do is just be there for her before and after she tells her parents.

[Aves]

I don't approve in abortion, but this is something that chick needs to do by herself.

[munzy5581]

just tell them

[Eclipsical]

just tell them

3 year old thread....I'm pretty sure there's a resolution to this issue.

[Abyssal Echo]

My friend told me that she just found out that she is going to hav a baby. But she has not told her parents yet. And she is only 14. She asked me if i would tell her parents with her. How should i go about this???:confused::confused:

I think it would be good for her to have you with her for emotional support....But she should tell her parents herself. Not you.