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[chucknorrisrules]

I met this great, beautiful girl at a program I was in for a couple weeks. We hit it off really well and became pretty good friends. Once the program was over, I got her number as a friend, nothing more. I called her up about a week later and told her that I really, REALLY liked her and asked if she wanted to go out on a date. She said yes, but when the day came, she had to babysit her nieces.

That didn't stop me, so I asked her out again, same thing happened. I know she's not lying to me, because I called her and I could hear her nieces, but that's not what I'm worried about...

I'm pretty sure that I love her, but now she has a boyfriend from her school. My heart's saying to tell her, because I do love her. But my brain's saying not to, because I don't want to ruin any relationship, whether it be with her boyfriend or between us as friends.

Advice? I really need it because it's really bugging me to the point where it's kicking up my Depression and Anxiety.

[IAMWILL]

Simple answer: always listen to your heart.

Of course though, I'll go into detail. Now, this is somewhat a copy of my life, so here goes me solving your problem and somewhat of mine. You made your first error by not revealing to her that you like her when you met, if you had done that, possibly none of this wouldve happened. In other words, you let her slip away. Just stay friends for now, teenage relationships don't often last long, and maybe you'll get the chance to be her girlfriend. I wouldn't tell her now though, because when she is in a relationship with another guy and you tell her this, it could either go Hollywood style great (about a 2% chance) or reality life terrible (the other 98%). play it safe is what you must do for now, and when the time comes around, which it will if you're persistent, go for it. You'll know when it's time too, your heart will tell you.

[byee]

Hey you have 2 member s of the IAM Tribe on this, does it get much better? LOL!

William the Great gets an A+ (as usual, here's a warm brownie, Will!). Let me add my wind. ('Windiness' is a major aspect of IAMness).

There's a saying that goes something like this: "Stick with someone long enough and they'll eventually be available". So eventhough your sweetie is currently in a relationship, odds are ot won't be forever. Just stay with her and be her firend, respect what she has, and enjoy what you've got with her.

Eventually, she'll come to her senses and make the right change here!

[chucknorrisrules]

Thanks for the advice and that was my first choice. It's been causing a real mental dilemma, but I was able to talk to someone about it and get their advice, they said the same thing. I'll make sure to keep in touch with her no matter how hopeless it seems. In the meantime, I plan to work out, lose weight, etc. to make sure that I don't miss my chance again. ;)

I was thinking of maybe also telling her that if her current relationship doesn't work out, I'd be there for her if she needed support or something more. Sound good? I would be there for her if she needed me no matter if we were a couple or not, but I'd still like to throw myself out there.

[chucknorrisrules]

Can someone help me out? I'm going to call her once you give me your advice.

[kangaskan240]

your hearts the smarter one.