UN-expected... deja vu much??

[AllThatIsLeft]

My ex-bf and i are kind of getting close again O.o
nothing wrong with it, i just thought we had parted for good.
we are pretty different people, but we've been talking quite a bit lately.
i mean, it feels like a really good friendship.
and of that i'm glad of, he is a nice kid.
i just hope the spark doesnt restart, he's nice and all, but he just wouldn't understand how i am now. He liked me when i was the good girl, i am definitely not that girl anymore.

I wonder how things will turn out.

Any comments?

[BeautifulSilence]

Just let things flow along naturally. He might not have the intention of getting back with you and it would suck to let a good friendship die...

If you feel the spark again, then you might wanna just ask him where it's going. Explain to him that you've changed, he probably has too. I'm sure you're both mature enough to talk openly about things if you feel the need.

If you don't feel that it's necessary and he doesn't bring it up, then you'll be better off just staying friends. :)

[AllThatIsLeft]

yah that's what i thought.

I just thought we were like done for good.
strange to pick things up. but he's a great friend always been. so i guess there is an upside to it xD

[IAMWILL]

Oh the dreaded "returning ex" thing.

This stuff happens, and there really is no avoiding it. Maybe you'll start to feel attracted to each other again, you can't control emotions (you probably already know this stuff :P).

I don't find it strange at all, more of completely normal. Just let it play out, and see what happens. (And of course never deny anything simply because its not to your liking, you never know how it will end up!)

[AllThatIsLeft]

will keep that in mind. though i really dont want to :P

[Gumleaf]

there is nothing wrong with becoming close again with an ex. just as long as there are boundaries set that aren't crossed. you broke up for a reason and whether that reason is still present or not is irrelevant. you know what you want, just make sure he is on the same page as you by talking about it. there is nothing worse then that awkwardness when you both have different expectations from re-connecting.