What would you do? Please Help!

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Okay so my ex-boyfriend has called me two times within the last week and he has written me a few notes and a couple emails in the last week or two. I know he still loves me and I still love him. I am thinking about getting back together with him but I am not sure. I broke up with him a few monthes ago because I was dealing with too much... I was facing grief...and he had his problems..he was dealing with cutting and he had other family problems going on...but we are both better now...he has quit cutting and he has come closer to God...he has changed and you can really tell. He is making better choices and hanging out with better friends. I am doing better...I am still going to have painful days but things are better now than they were before. I still have a little to sort out but the grief things is mostly taken care of. So what do you think? I am praying about it...but I do want others opinions too.

[Roxy_]

I think u should date him for
a week or so and then see
how it goes and if it goes well
then keep dating

[Reality]

Give it another shot! You both want it.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I think it might be good for the both of us...
It just brings a smile to my face just thinking about it...and guess what he got me for christmas when we werer dating? He bought me this beautiful bracelet and he MADE by HAND this heart shaped box for me...and it has my name on it...It was the most beautiful thing..better than any store bought gift...it has been the greatest gift I have ever recieved...he writes the most amazing notes too...Guys usually don't like to write that much but he has written me some long long notes...he even wrote me a poem once...It was amazing...

[byee]

It's easy to understand why you'd want to get back together with someone you already had a relationship with. It's easy and convienent, and you already know each other. There's no problem with getting back together, but I think it's important to take into consideration why it was you broke up in the first place, and to have some real assurances that those reasons have been resolved. This is especially important if the issues are things like (his) 'self harm' and (your) grief, etc. Those are major personal issues which can interfere with a relationship, so it would be important that both of you resolved those things enough so they don't interfere again. Sometimes, this takes time, and that amount can be a bit longer than the lonliness of being apart. Just make sure he's resolved those issues, and you have too. It's one thing to support eachother and help eachother out when stressed, it's quite another to become dependent on eachother for your well being b/c of these other issues.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

There's so much to think about...thinking about whether we both have healed....and there's so much to consider....On top of this all he's my first love...he's the first one I have dated...the first guy I ever even told about my crappy life....There's so much to think about...like the qualities I want in a guy...and I really want to think things through before I make a big decision like this. I can't break his heart twice....it hurt too much the first time.Personally I think I would have rather have been dumped than have to be the one who did the dumping...