Please Help!

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Lately the thought of cutting has occured to me and I have almost done in twice now...but luckily everytime I almost do it someone stops me. I don't know what to do anymore. I just keep getting closer and closer to doing it and I am afraid that I will not be able to stop myself next time...does anybody know any good ways to cope with the stress? or have any other alternatives instead of cutting?

[BeautifulSilence]

Is there anyway you could get rid of the tools you were going to cut with? That's usually the best if you haven't already started...

Suggestions:

Read a book.
Take a walk.
Watch a film.

I once managed to tie my hands to my legs so that I was stuck in my room (with music playing) until I'd calmed down...

Apart from just getting rid of everything you could use to cut, the best thing is just to do something that takes your mind off from it... I know it's not always easy, but if you can get yourself stuck into something that takes focus and concentration, you should forget about feeling the need to self harm.

Remember I'm available via PM and email when you need me.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I don't think I could get rid of everything that I would use to cut...then I would have to get rid of my razor for shaving...and I kind of don't want harry legs or armpits...lol...and I would also have to get rid of the kitchen knives...which I also can not get rid of...so that option is out....I just need to come up with a distraction I think

[BeautifulSilence]

Mmm. That's normally the case.

Try some really difficult puzzle, perhaps?

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I don't think something difficult will work for me...it will just make me more frustrated...puzzles always do that to me...I need to do something that isn't too difficult but still keeps my mind off of things.

[BeautifulSilence]

Calming music. Nice bubble bath... Erm. Got pets? Staring contest with pets?

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Yeah sometimes music helps...my kitty usually helps comfort me...some way though I need a way to release my feelings...I need a way to just let it all out because usually when I think about cutting I am feeling too much and I just need a way to let it all out.

[BeautifulSilence]

Cry. That's the best thing about giving up cutting for me... I can cry again. Before I would just bleed, because I just couldn't cry...

Theirs chemicals in your tears that help you to feel better. So, go to the privacy of your room and just let it all out. It can really help, once you get going.

:hug2:

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Crying does help but for me I just don't feel comfortable crying in front of other people...I have to share a room...so it's kind of hard...but I do cry when I am in the shower...or sometimes I will just run the shower so I can cry without someone hearing me. The problem is sometimes I can not wait to cry...and I don't feel like I can cry in front of certain people so I hold it back and that just doesn't help...

[byee]

What can you do? Since these self destructive urges seem irrestible to you and you're afraid that you might not be able to control them, then you need to tell your folks and get to a therapist who can 1) Work with you to learn why you need to do this in the first place, 2) Give you the tools to manage these urges when they arise.

Go tell your folks, let them get you to someone who will help you feel better.

[ThatDude93]

Listen to christian music, I know your Christian and listening to the music has helped me tremendously. It is calming, relaxing and you can really feel your troubles going away.

It has helped me a lot, I hope you take my advice.

God Bless

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I don't know how to tell my parents and I do not have the best relationship with them

[byee]

Tell another caring adult you trust. They will help you tell your folks.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

okay so lets say I tell my parents...will that really help anything?

[ThatDude93]

talk to your pastor, a teacher you like, a counselor at school even

[byee]

okay so lets say I tell my parents...will that really help anything?


The goal is fro you to get to someone who can help you feel better and not have these urges. So, the first step is to find someone who can get you there. Your folks, or some other adult will do just fine.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I have mentioned this to my youth pastor and we have talked a little when I thought it about the first time but we haven't really talked about it since...which I really should...I have told one of my other youth group leaders and she has been talking to me about it and she is praying for me...I have talked to a school counselor but he doesn't seem to help much...sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't...I just told a few of my old teachers who I talk with quite a bit but I have not heard a response back from them yet....I'm sure I will probably be getting one soon because they would totally not suspect that from me....they didn't even know about the first time...I don't know if I can tell my parents though...they have lost my trust awhile ago...I was going through a lot of stuff and I told my mom and she just went and talked about it with her friends behind my back even though I told her I wanted to keep it between me and her....so I don't feel like i can trust her anymore with anything...

[Triceratops]

There are many ways to distract yourself from cutting, and will make you NOT want to cut such as:

-Take a long walk
-Listen to music
-Read a good book
-Do some housework/chores
-Ask God to help you (seems you're a Christian :) go you!)
-Gardening
-Cooking/Bake a cake
-Watch an interesting TV show
-Talk to someone you trust
-Watch a movie with a bowl of popcorn :P
-Customize your clothes/bedroom
-Draw or paint or anything artistic
-Write a poem or story
-Exercise/Play a sport (releases endorphins, like cutting does, but a lot more safer)

I find trampolining helps me ALOT. That could work for you too :)

[Destiny&Desire]

Hey, I found this site which has loads of distraction methods on which are great for beating self-destructive urges; http://www.recoveryourlife.com/index.php?categoryid=60

There've already been a lot of great ideas posted (distraction methods, and speaking to someone you trust), so sorry if I'm just repeating what everyone else has said. If you don't want to discuss it with your parents (for whatever reason), the next best thing is just to keep discussing it with whoever else you can who you think will be able to help (counsellors, teachers, youth group leaders), because it's better to discuss a problem than bottle it up (a problem shared is a problem halved, right?).

Hope this helps
x x x

[Beautiful Obsession]

please dont start cutting now babee.. once you start, you cnt stop, and you will regret doing that very first cut because your whole body is full of scars that wont dissapear, your always covering up your body and you feel an outcast.. its really not worth it..

when your feeling stresssed punch you pillow, scream into your pillow, read a book, go only, watch a comedy, hav a sleep or chat to your mates etc..

and if u cant tell ur parents, tel a school teacher you get on with?
or a close friend you can trust?

Please dont cut bbe xxxxxxxxx

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Those are some good ideas...i'll give them a try!

[Beautiful Obsession]

good:) tell us how it goes:)

pm me if ya wanan x

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

okay I'll keep you updated...

[jess_undead]

www.selfharmony.com is a really great website, which has lots of info..check it out :) hope it helps.
xxx

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I checked out that website and it helped! Thanks! :)