My friend fingers his butthole?

[DudeItsTyler]

I don't know why he told me, but I know he's serious.
Is it normal for a guy to finger his butthole?

[IAMWILL]

Well some people do anally masturbate but normally its something not shared with friends. It's all personal preference though, so its up to him what he wants to do.

[DudeItsTyler]

Does that mean he's gay?
I thought the same thing when he told me; that it shouldn't be shared with friends.
He said, "I know, but I really need to know if your okay with it."
I don't know why he cares about what I think.
That's why I think he might be gay.
He's had plenty of girlfriends, but has only had one kiss.
(He's 13.)
Watches lesbian porn a lot.

That's just stuff he's told me in the last week.
He seems really worried about what I think.

[TheFreeshooterII]

well i sometimes finger mine..... XD
it can be very nice .... lol

[guacamole24]

Does that mean he's gay?
I thought the same thing when he told me; that it shouldn't be shared with friends.
He said, "I know, but I really need to know if your okay with it."
I don't know why he cares about what I think.
That's why I think he might be gay.
He's had plenty of girlfriends, but has only had one kiss.
(He's 13.)
Watches lesbian porn a lot.

That's just stuff he's told me in the last week.
He seems really worried about what I think.


It's possible that he's gay, but he could just be really insecure about his sexuality.

[DrkZ90]

He is worriedabout your friendship, and could be really confused inside about what he likes and does, who knows? he might be gay and might be seeing your reaction... who knows?... the important thing is that you are okay with him, whatever he might be, it shouldn't be any different for you

[MisterAndrews]

i think hes just worried about what he does / his feelings and he wants closure from you that what hes doing is normal.

[nick]

Lots of guys try anal stimulation in one form or another. Its not necessarily a gay thing at all, its just another way of getting pleasure or increasing pleasure. Most, but not all, guys that do it will tell you that in increases the intensity of their orgasm if they are doing anal stimulation when jacking off.

I admit to doing it, with more than just fingers, from time to time, and its great for me.

[Kevi Coz]

It's not really that normal, but every guy tries it at least once. But if you want to do it, and tell your friend this too, put a condom on your two fingers. This will act as lubrication so that you don't rip anything in there. Your but doesnt have natural lubrication like a girl's vagina does

[BirdsandtheBees]

Yeah i tried once out of curiosity..didnt feel amazing but i liked it a little. since i have used a finger or two a few times but its not a regular thing i do.

I think he is insecure about his sexuality. maybe he has a dad/brother/other friend or relative who makes comments a lot about gay people in a derogatory way...maybe he feels insecure and needs to be told he's fine the way he is.

[LUCKY555]

i have done it before but it felt kind of weird............he might be gay or insucure or just reallyh open

[L]

tell him to come here! he seems to have a fair bit on his mind... it donsnt mean he's gay but it seems he may be wondering if he is.

[marktheman]

I know that a lot of guys do that. I never had the nerve to try it but if it feels good there's no reason why you shouldn't.

[Donkey]

Anal masturbation - normal. It doesn't mean he's gay. I'm sure plenty of straight guys do it.

[pontiacdriver]

Does that mean he's gay?
I thought the same thing when he told me; that it shouldn't be shared with friends.
He said, "I know, but I really need to know if your okay with it."
I don't know why he cares about what I think.
That's why I think he might be gay.
He's had plenty of girlfriends, but has only had one kiss.
(He's 13.)
Watches lesbian porn a lot.

That's just stuff he's told me in the last week.
He seems really worried about what I think.

Because a guy uses anal stimulation to masturbate does not mean he is gay. The reality is the prostate gland, which can be accessed through the anus, can give a guy a very good orgasm if properly stimulated. In short, anal masturbation does not equate homosexuality.

However, you raise a very interesting issue in that why did this fellow tell you about his masturbation habit, and why is he so interested in your approving what he does? There could be a chance he might want to masturbate with you and just be curious, but there is a chance he might genuinely have feelings for you and is trying to get your reaction to talking to sex with him. At 13 it is hard to say with certainty whether a person is gay, and he just might be exploring his sexuality. My view is that if you are very uncomfortable talking about sex with him, then tell him you value him as a friend but do not want to talk about sex with him. Your friend should respect that and leave you alone. If your friend should come out as gay, then be supportive of him while also making it clear that you want him to respect your sexuality as much as he wants you to respect his. Basically, you need to make it clear that you want to be his friend and not his jacking buddy/lover if that is not what you want.

[Jonathan M.]

im not real sure i wouldnt take it as far as bein gay while i wasbbreadin this all i thought bout doin it but first off i havent bought any condems yet and if i did i wouldnt wanna waste it on that once i get the chance to lol i mite try it one day though who no's?i wouldnt call it gay though its just hes prob insecure

[tbboltz92]

Anal masterbation can be very pleasurable. I've done it and iam not ashamed to admit. I think it's all a personal thing, for me I enjoy it because to me it's more pleasurable. It's really all about what he likes as an individual:)

[Silent]

Ive tried it but i don't notice a difference

[Θάνατος]

It's possible that he's gay, but he could just be really insecure about his sexuality.

What does doing anal stimulation have to do with being insecure about your sexuality.

Anal stimulation is a personal preference.

It is very pleasurable so don't judge your friends on what he finds pleasurable.

Your friends may be telling you this to test the waters and see how you react. He could be gay, bi or just curious and he is trying to see if you are too.

I hope I have answered your question here.

[optimashprime]

some people like it some dont i think it is abit strange but its probally normal

[Jman35]

stimulation sometimes is a turn on.

doesn't mean he's gay

[Antares]

I agree with the OP. Why would he be asking if he cared that he fingered himself.

I think that he is insecure about his sexuality and may be *thinking* that he is gay. HE may not necessarily be gay because there are so many different things going on that its hard to tell as a 13 year old.
I think that he is concerned that he is weird and want to make sure that you are his friend.
You shouldn't judge him because of this, if anything you should try to say that you don't care and don't feel comfortable talking about it beacuse if you start ignoring him because you think he may be like this all the time, then he will get depressed, yaddy yaddy ya.

So yea, but its normal for a guy to finger his butthole :P

[optimashprime]

I agree with the OP. Why would he be asking if he cared that he fingered himself.

I think that he is insecure about his sexuality and may be *thinking* that he is gay. HE may not necessarily be gay because there are so many different things going on that its hard to tell as a 13 year old.
I think that he is concerned that he is weird and want to make sure that you are his friend.
You shouldn't judge him because of this, if anything you should try to say that you don't care and don't feel comfortable talking about it beacuse if you start ignoring him because you think he may be like this all the time, then he will get depressed, yaddy yaddy ya.

So yea, but its normal for a guy to finger his butthole :P

yea john i agree with that
the best thing you can do is be a friend to him
talk to eachother and support eachother
maybe one day he will ask you to do something that you dont to do eg masterbate with him and hopefully because you helped him he will respect your wishes

[mathew911]

I do that sometimes too. Can give you pleasure so I take it as masterbating.

[optimashprime]

i think we all agree its normal

[Tenke-kun]

Does that mean he's gay?
I thought the same thing when he told me; that it shouldn't be shared with friends.
He said, "I know, but I really need to know if your okay with it."
I don't know why he cares about what I think.
That's why I think he might be gay.
He's had plenty of girlfriends, but has only had one kiss.
(He's 13.)
Watches lesbian porn a lot.

That's just stuff he's told me in the last week.
He seems really worried about what I think.

saying he's gay because he fingers his asshole is like saying hes gay just cause...i forgot wat i was going to say.
but none the less trying it is naural, every guy evenually has that "what if" period that "experimintaion" period. its all cool. its naural.

[CestDan]

I think that's a way to explore your sexuality, moreover, If it makes you feel good there's no problem with it.

[FalconSmash]

These posts are atrocious D=

Saying he might be gay just because he tries anal masturbation is a horrible thing, it's not like he's gone out and shagged anybody.

Point is - Anal Stimulation or Masturbation is VERY normal. A lot of guys try it, and myself included. I think only a few members actually put their personal beliefs aside when they answered this. Donkey gets +1 rep because of that.

He was mostly likely afraid you would reject his friendship if you found out any other way. This by no means should allow you to think he is gay. I mean, don't knock it until you try it. Every guy has a prostate, so I can't blame him for doing it.

[nick]

These posts are atrocious D=

Saying he might be gay just because he tries anal masturbation is a horrible thing, it's not like he's gone out and shagged anybody.

Point is - Anal Stimulation or Masturbation is VERY normal. A lot of guys try it, and myself included. I think only a few members actually put their personal beliefs aside when they answered this. Donkey gets +1 rep because of that.

He was mostly likely afraid you would reject his friendship if you found out any other way. This by no means should allow you to think he is gay. I mean, don't knock it until you try it. Every guy has a prostate, so I can't blame him for doing it.
FalconSmash I don't think you can have been reading most of the replies properly. Nearly everyone has said that its just a normal form of pleasure for many guys and is not a gay thing.

[FalconSmash]

I was just referring to the ones that said it wasn't normal, or that it could mean he is gay. I probably should have outlined that fact more clearly, looking back.

[xian]

no. only gay ones.

[nickisamazing]

ya i do it

[The Joker]

He probably feels weird that he does it, and believes that your a close enough friend that will comfort him. I haven't tried it out personally, but that's only because germs freak me out and I don't want to hurt myself.

[kyleyoungboy]

Yes it's normal i do it

[trouble]

its totally normal

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

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