m'kay so, not sure what to do.

[lucas.love]

[[Beware, small wall of text. Sowwy.]]

M'kay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for two months and a few days. And for the most part its been wonderful, up until a few weeks ago.

I started noticing all the apologizing first. He would apologize for almost everything that went wrong, even when it was no where near his fault. And even when i would tell him it wasn't, it seems like he doesn't beleive me and continues to apologize for awhile..
I don't like it, i mean i'm glad hes not a mean boyfriend or anything, but i feel like its me thats always the one doing something wrong to make him apologize to me. ((Even though i'm pretty sure its not, it still feels that way.)) And he should never have to. Its getting to the point now where it seems like he's so worried about making me happy, that hes not enjoying the relationship anymore. And i'm prolly the most low maintinence girl on earth, i don't need anything for Valentines or whatever, i just want to know that he loves me. I've tried talking to him about it, but he only says he just wants to make me happy. But i want to do the same for him, and it doesn't feel like i can because hes always saying sorry.

Theres a few other things to, hes getting kind of obsessive, i've never seen someone get so depressed over someone going home for the night, even though i'll see him the next day. Among other signs.

Don't get me wrong, i'm not complaining about the fact that he cares for me and cares about my feelings, but i'm worried about him. It's unhealthy for him to always saying sorry for things he didn't cause or can even control. And i'm just not sure what to do. Its making me stressed, and i'm not sure what it's going to do to him. I just wish the relationship would go back to the way it was at first. We had so much fun, so much in common. Now it just seems like hes trying too hard to make sure that he doesn't loose me, that its actually backfiring and causing a gap between us. And yes, i have tried to talk to him about it on numerous occasions.


What should i do..?

[IAMWILL]

Well, basically, he's doing one of three things.

1) He is acting this way to make you do something that he wants you to do
2) He has no self confidence
3) He is scared that if something bad happens without it being his fault, you two are going to break up. I'm going with number three.

What you need to do is have an epic great day with him. Go see a happy movie, cuddle up, kiss, just be super happy, then do whatever you do (maybe a little more intense i guess you could say to make him really really happy) to make sure when you leave, he's in a great mood and has a lot to look back and reflect upon.

Then, maybe in a day or so, sit him down and talk to him about it (make sure it's in a cheerful way). Just say something like "I know you apologize for everything bad, but just relax! It's almost never your fault, and I can take care of myself. I just want you to love me, and I don't care what happens!" Or something along those lines to make him feel better. He'll stop, don't worry to much ;)

[Tubbsyclone]

K so when your talking to him and he says I want to make you happy say that him appologizing for everything is really stressing u out and it would b better 4 your relationship if he would just relaze

[byee]

Your boyfriend sounds like he's a tad insecure here, he's afraid of losing you. So, he's overdoing it a bit. Tell him he doesn't need to worry, provide him with some reassurance about your feelings and intentions here, and he might chill a bit.