Has Anyone Here Been Judged Because They Self-Harm?

[Reality]

This is one of the things that makes me both mad and ashamed of the fact I cut.

People associate cutting with "emo". Now, I have nothing against emo's - but I am not one, or at least I don't see myself as one, because I do love the colour black and I listen to artists who make songs I relate to e.g. Linkin Park and Eminem.

Many people, especially high school kids see self-harmers - especially ones who cut as "emo"'s or "attention whores". In the weeks I cut myself badly, there's been one kid who's called me "emo kid" and told me to "slit my wrists". I'm sure there's been plenty of gossip about me cutting, although I found out six other people in my year self-harm.

Does anyone here have familiar experiences? Maybe even worse?

[Truth]

Yup. Every kid in grade 7 knew i cut after about 3 guys found out, everyone called me 'emo'.

[MadManWithaBox]

yeah harshly. hate the word emo now,its riddiculous. ignorant people

[Triceratops]

These people are narrow-minded and behold such little knowledge and understanding of self-injury.

There have been endless amounts of times I've been called emo and a suicidal maniac. You will go through your life being judged, no matter what. Everyone gets placed into a stereotype somehow. It's best to just hold your head high and prove to them that you don't care, and make sure they are aware of that.

[katytruthteller]

i get that aswell but i used to be called a goth and emo and an attetion seeking lil bitch i was bullied bad because of my weight and my cuts and i cut because i was being bullied so they had no idea they were makin it alot worse for me

[BuryYourFlame]

i have never been called emo...mainly because the only people who know i have cut love me...so yeh...
i think it is horrible, all the people going around saying stuff like 'aaww, now he's gonna go slit his wrists'...they all just seem to think of it as a big joke...

[NightFighter]

Not in person, only one person knows about my self harming.... but on other sites people have been outragiously rude! People need to be educated about it before making assumptions and stereotyping. If they want to show their retardedness (lol) and lack of compassion to other humans who are suffering then fuck them to hell! :D
Aalright!

[MysticalBurrito]

Umm yeah Ive been called Emo a couple times because my scares are not going away so people notice them faster than they notice who i am as a person not a cutter
But when people do tease me I just brush it off thinking they dont know what ive been through!
they will never know the struggles i face when i want to cut someday Il be wearing these scars as a badge saying i beat this.......

[Beautiful Obsession]

yes defoo..
my best mates cousin calls herself an emo.. because she wears really gothic clothes.
but she doesnt self-harm, but my best mate and all my other friends always go up to her saying.. DONT SLIT YOUR WRISTS ect..

it really hurts just because shes an emo they automaticly think she self-harms, now can u imagen what they would be like if they found out i did.

x

[BlackenedSilver]

Everyone makes first look judgements without thinking, Some people are narrow minded and always stick to that one first judgement but others get to know the person first. Its the whole judge a book by it's cover thing. Lol.

Ive been judged before, by one of my friends most of the time. He dumped his girlfriend when she told him she cut. I stood up for her and shouted at him for dumping her when she needed him. And he just said "Whats your problem! Its not like you do it." I just went quiet and he realised then said "Why is everyone so Emo all of a sudden" and walked off.
I don't think he realises that it's a way of dealing with things. He just thinks its stupidity. :-/

[Triceratops]

Ive been judged before, by one of my friends most of the time. He dumped his girlfriend when she told him she cut. I stood up for her and shouted at him for dumping her when she needed him. And he just said "Whats your problem! Its not like you do it." I just went quiet and he realised then said "Why is everyone so Emo all of a sudden" and walked off.
I don't think he realises that it's a way of dealing with things. He just thinks its stupidity. :-/

If I knew this guy, I would smack him. :mad:
I hate people like him. I genuinely HATE them with a passion.

He needs the biggest wake-up call, ever.

[Beautiful Obsession]

i agreee:D x

[bennybronx]

My father caught me cutting, i cnt even describe the way i felt, it was that bad

[NightFighter]

Aww man :( Thats awful, did he try to get you help or was he just angry?

Im convinced my mother knows. Shes probably in denial though. I mean, its kinda suspicious never seeing your child without wristbands or armwarmers on. Oh and i used to love go swimming but i never go anymore. I think shes even seen my cuts but has just ignored it. If she doesnt know, i hope she never will know. If she does know, i hope she wont ignore it like she doesnt care...

[katytruthteller]

....

[Fiending_the_freedom]

people will always find something to judge you about, you just need to learn that there not important.

[chucknorrisrules]

Yep, mainly while I was in a partial day program at a mental hospital. Imagine how messed up that can be, you let yourself open to a bunch of people with other/similar problems, and they have nothing better to do but pick fun at you, that really hurt my trust and self-esteem which caused cutting. Irony...

[Zephyr]

I believe once on a Bipolar Teen group on MySpace, Probably 4 years ago, I mentioned it and they all started attacking me and calling me emo.

Then my dad thinks that I do it for attention even though I never have done it for that reason.

Other than that, people have never made a big deal of it when they saw the scars or anything.

[PrincessSarey]

Yes, I have.
Over...and over...and over.

[BlackenedSilver]

If I knew this guy, I would smack him. :mad:
I hate people like him. I genuinely HATE them with a passion.

He needs the biggest wake-up call, ever.

Haha! That actually makes me want to introduce you to him :rolleyes:
I think he just dosen't understand why, Unknown things scare him. He loves to think he knows everyone of his friends inside out, But then this hit him and he didn't know what to say. Like I said everyone makes a snap judgement, he just said his outloud.

My father caught me cutting, i cnt even describe the way i felt, it was that bad

What happened when he caught you? Did he try to help or yell? :(

[-Silence]

No, can't say I have, because people at school didn't know.
I have heard the stereotype though.

[The Enigma]

I'm really scared of being judged because of my scars. I don't cut anymore but I'm ashamed I did. People at school makes jokes about slitting wrists and it's awkward to hear them as I've actually gone through that. I hope no one ever finds out.

[ShinigamiMaiden]

VERY common. I am VERY emo and even before i started self harming i got called wrist slitter and all kinds of crap. I have been beaten up because of the way i look. its very depressing.

[dizzydinosaur]

HA stereotypes make me laugh
I could easily fit into both chav and emo
I cut
I'm depressed
I come from London
I talk in a cockney accent
I'm violent
One of my best friends is emo
Another could so be a chav if she tried
It just makes me laugh that I can fit into two completely opposite stereotypes, both of which hate each other!

[Project Delta]

i have been judged, jokes have been made, its very / how can i put it/ offputting from being around a group, i dont do pe cause of the scars and CONSTANTLY people ask me why i dont do it, awkwardness.
But one person understands it and i love (not in a gay way) him to bits, but he doesnt help me try and stop which is a downer

(100th post YAY )

[Specter]

This is one of the things that makes me both mad and ashamed of the fact I cut.

People associate cutting with "emo". Now, I have nothing against emo's - but I am not one, or at least I don't see myself as one, because I do love the colour black and I listen to artists who make songs I relate to e.g. Linkin Park and Eminem.

Many people, especially high school kids see self-harmers - especially ones who cut as "emo"'s or "attention whores". In the weeks I cut myself badly, there's been one kid who's called me "emo kid" and told me to "slit my wrists". I'm sure there's been plenty of gossip about me cutting, although I found out six other people in my year self-harm.

Does anyone here have familiar experiences? Maybe even worse?

Will it’s true, most teenagers think that way, But can you blame them in their eyes they see someone mentally unstable. However we all know that life has pressure that some people may never experience, I hope you stop cutting because it’s not a healthy way to vent your pain.

I understand that life can be tuff but you must try to control your self.

[Miss Punk]

Somebody said something about people who cut being crazy and psychos today, and that really hurt.

[Char_x]

Ive never really been stereo typed as an emo cos for 1 im like the total opposite and 2, only a few close family members and friends know about it and they wudnt make fun of it apart from my sister. She can be so horribe sometimes like we was arguing once and she said "oh go cut urself emo". That was hurtful.

Its weird how people can just look at you and not kno anything about you but yet still stereo type you. Most the time i get stereo typed as a bimbo cos im blonde, love the colour pink, always have a manicure and recently finished a hairdressing course yet from this no one wud have a clue im a cutter cos most people just stereo type it as an emo thing. I just dont see the point.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I have been judged...my very own friends have judged me...and it's awful...I don't think most people in my class would ever stereotype me like that though...they would be completely shocked if I did such a thing because I just don't seem like the kind of person to do that. It hurt the other day my friends were joking around in the halls and not everyone knew that I cut and they were making jokes like why don't you just go cut yourself...and they pretended to cut with a scissors..and it was just really awkward...and i kind of wanted to say something to them about it. I wanted to tell them that it is not funny to joke about things like that because it is very serious...but I also didn't want to tell them all that I cut....

[BuryYourFlame]

i have heard the same things...sooo many times at my school...and the whole time having to pretend like i wasn't effected by what they said...so yeh...

but i havent been judged...cause the only people who know are my friends...

[Project Delta]

People who i told, are my so called friends but there is only one person in my schol who i class as a good friend.
but i have had to act as if the comments didnt hurt too, but its so annoying

[dstnyisurs]

Yeah. It pisses me off.
I mean, if anyone else calls me emo and jokes with the whole wrist-slitting thing, I will bitch them out. The only one I let make that comment is my friend Zach because we have a joke between us like that.
But whenever anyone else crosses the line and says that and makes jokes about that, they get bitched out. Point blank.
My friends know what comments not to make.

[ErykaInspire.]

Everyone in my school/community knows i'm a (ex)Cutter. I've been bashed on for it, but that's becase I allow people to look at me negativly. If you put on a positive attitude, people will judge you alot less.

[Sapphire]

I've had people repeatedly refer to be as being a maniac and emo. One of my ex's was even warned against going out with me because I'm apparently so completely emo.
people will always find something to judge you about, you just need to learn that there not important.
This is so very true.
The people who matter won't mind and the people who mind don't matter.

[triplethreat40]

i've been called emo kid anyway. but mostly it's goth kid, or drama kid *rolls eyes*, wich is hardly an insult in my opinion. so if you change your style a little you could divert the name calling to punk, skater, the above examples or something.
the emo kids at my school are really, really pathetic and so i'm not grouped in with them at least. if the name callers have seen emo kids, then what they are calling you is just a name, not accusing you of being.

[1_21Guns]

Not judged as such, but when a friend saw the marks on my arm, she instantly went into a rage of "WHY HAVE YOU DONE THAT" "STOP IT OR I'LL TELL YOUR MUM" and so on. Then she persisted to ask my every day if i'd caused any harm to myself, guess shes taken the once a self harmer always a self harmer approach =/

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

yeah that's how my friends have taken it too...they think because i have cut once that I can't stop from cutting myself again but I have made it almost a week or two...so HA proved them wrong!

[nachtspiegel]

I have, but I don't care what anyone thinks anymore.

[Eclipse]

Yeah,even after I stopped cutting. Every little cut near my wrist or on my inner forearm my friends see they are like "You cut yourself again?" and call me emo. One time me and my friend were playing ruler fight during class with those old school wooden rulers with the metal inside and she cut me with the corner of the ruler. And this girl who hates me called me "emo". I hate steryotypes. I get called a lesbian too because I think girls are hot and because I made out with one.

[closetcutter]

My friends don't even know I cut but they call me emo and then joke about how im going to go cut my wrists to feel better..... what they don't realize is that, i do that when they say those things. Not to mention they thought it would be funny to also call me a druggie. They think its funny but it just increases my cutting.

[katytruthteller]

i get tht 2 tat ppl dnt know i cut but they still call me emo nd things cuz of the way i look or summit and they dnt relise that its drivin me dwn into a harsh spiral

[derkderpderp]

Dude i get it all time,bc im in2 rock,and in my asian community it is seen as socially unacceptable,so i had 2 move,to escape it.school is still hell.but all i do is try to ignore them,but sadly it doesn't work for me bc i get it everyday at school.my advice to you is stay positive.byees!

[DinoRAWR]

I get that alot.
I havent told anyone I cut because, everytime I get annoyed someone says 'emo go chib your wrists' because they think i'm what could be classified as 'emo'.
Also, one of my (ex) closest friends told everyone she was doing it and she was going to committ suicide and it turns out it was an attention stunt. She admitted to one girl shed just been saying it for attention.
I'd be worried if I told people I do it, I'd get accused of being too 'emo' or someone would say its for attention.
I hate society.

[kt2369]

yea i get that alot. my best friend is starting to judge me now about this.

[Rosie]

i got abuse for self harm. and still do.
i haven't self harmed badly for a while until recently. but the fact of already being bullied due to being ginger. haha.
it just makes me think.
how would they feel in our situation? :/
the worse of it is they all talk. and they all b.itch. and say its for attention. :(
it just makes everything a whole lot worse

[SingASadSong4408]

Theres this girl, who I consider an aquaintence, who just doesnt understand that 'goth' 'emo' and 'cutter' are 3 VERY different words. She thinks all of those words mean people who worship the devil and slit their wrists and love black and listen to depressive music, and yes, while some of those may be true to some, ONE DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL. She always says that there's no point in being friends with an 'emo' person because, and I quote "they're all so depressed all the time, and wear black and all that crap. thats EW." I found that, first off, totally wrong, second, totally offensive, and third, a total piece of bull crap. I cut, and my cousin's bestie cut, and she was one of the most sickeningly preppy girls I knew. you can't stereotype things like that, you just... CANT.

[Pirate]

Ive been judged before, by one of my friends most of the time. He dumped his girlfriend when she told him she cut. I stood up for her and shouted at him for dumping her when she needed him. And he just said "Whats your problem! Its not like you do it." I just went quiet and he realised then said "Why is everyone so Emo all of a sudden" and walked off.
I don't think he realises that it's a way of dealing with things. He just thinks its stupidity.

My ex boyfriend was like that. He told me I was being stupid and it was just for attention. :/ I hated him for his lack of understanding, because he had no idea how I felt, or that I wasn't coping. In fact, he made me feel worse.

[Spin]

Yeah, my FRIEND has called me it a few times after she found out. It was wayy after though. When she first found out, she was shocked and kind of comforting. When she called me it, I don't think she meant any harm by it, she just doesn't know how to deal with having a friend that cuts.