Problems with Jealousy and Worrying

[Rutherford The Brave]

Now, You all know or should know for that matter how much I love and care for Noor. Yet, its been 2 years and when I see her getting off the bus with a friend of hers, all I can say to her is how much I don't want her walking with him. Noor is also set to leave for France on Monday so now I am worried about her leaving and returning safely, and if she might cheat on me. I just want to know if I'm possibly not over reacting or if it sounds like I don't trust her. I would really like to better myself in these situations.

[theOperaGhost]

It sounds like you are a bit paranoid. I doesn't sound like there is very much trust in your relationship, which is unhealthy. I think you need to work on trusting her more.

[Rutherford The Brave]

You see Jared, thats where I need help. What can I do, I mean its so difficult for me, I have suffered many heart breaking moments and trust crushing moments that its hard for me.

[Nihilus]

Just relaxe dude. As the first guy to answer the thread said you need to trust her. Trust her.

[byee]

Greg, only you know if there's adequate cause for your doubting her fidelity.

But, you have a child together, which creates a pretty strong bond, so in the absence of actual proof of her cheating or being unfaithful, it might be your own insecurity, which you seem to realize. Past experience, even though it's over, can sometimes influence present perceptions.

The best thing to do here is to talk with her openly about your insecurity and concerns. But, make sure you're doing it from your perspective, these are your concerns and feelings, they're not fact, so make sure it doesn't come out as an accusation, as that will lead to a fight.


What you're looking for is a reality check, a little reassurance from her about the importance and centrality of you in her life. When you get that, I think your other concerns will fade.

[theOperaGhost]

You see Jared, thats where I need help. What can I do, I mean its so difficult for me, I have suffered many heart breaking moments and trust crushing moments that its hard for me.

I see. Has she given any indications of being unfaithful to you? Do you have an overall lack of trust in all people or just in her? There is something causing this distrust and you need to find out what it is. PM me if you need help (or talk to me on skype or facebook or something).

[Tommie]

its natural to get like this.
the truth is she most likely wont cheat on you.
if she does.
well then blatantley she isnt the one for you