Help??

[Nick_nap]

Well, I think I'm gay.(OMG so not good)

I really don't get turned on by girls even though I think they are pretty and boobs are okay. I just can't picture myself having sex with them.

I do like boys. They turn me on and lately I sometimes I feel like I want to be with a boy.

The problem is that I really don't want to be gay. Gay is a sin and I'm christian. I absolutelly refuse to live a life like that; but deep inside I know that if given a chance(gay is not sin and is all good) I would. It really hurts because I wish that I liked girls.

Any advice what so ever? Am I really gay even if I don't want to? Is there a cure?

[MisterAndrews]

LOL there is no cure, it's not a disease :P

I have some advice:
Religion is there to make people happy, not stressed. So you're christian? OK, so am I :). Whats the Golden Rule? "Love one another as I have loved you". God loves you for who you are inside, not who you sleep with.

Try not to think about this much. You are only 14 and your emotions are all over the place. Don't stress if you think you like someone, forget gender and think of why you love the person. Don't try to fight your emotions, embrace them. Your emotions make you, you; and you need to be proud of who you are.

[nick]

Oh blimey, thats quite a question.

It sounds to me as if you probably are gay. You'll find that there are quite a number of gay and bi Christians on this forum, including me, and most of us dont consider its wrong, a sin, or anti-christian to be this way. After all its not our choice, if we believe in God then God made us this way.

The Christian church should be full of people who demonstrate the Christian message by showing love to the whole of humanity. Unfortunately there are a lot of bigotted people who use the church as a way to try and control people and make them feel guilty about perfectly normal things. Its those people who have got it wrong, you need to ignore them and learn to be happy with what you are.

Its not always easy being gay or bi, but it really isnt a lifestyle choice, so if that is your sexuality I hope you come to feel more comfortable about it. There's certainly no cure

[Dagenadriel]

That rule is in the same part of the bible that tells you not to eat pigs, not to shave your beard on Sunday, that you can sell your daughter into slavery and can't go to church if you have vision problems! I don't understand how Christians can pick-and-choose rules from the old testament, then completely ignore the main the theme of the new testament with all of their hate towards gays and the like. (the theme is love everyone, by the way!).

These people who preach their hate have forgotten what Christianity is all about. You have the right to live and love anyway you like. I hope that over time you become with who you are, you can't be anyone else!

[nick]

I don't understand how Christians can pick-and-choose rules from the old testament, then completely ignore the main the theme of the new testament with all of their hate towards gays and the like. (the theme is love everyone, by the way!).
Well obviously I agree with that, because it matches pretty much what I posted in my earlier reply, but unfortunately there are differences even in the New Testament, where St. Paul can be seen as having been a rather regrettable influence on subsequent events.

[Sugaree]

Hmm, you seem to be putting yourself in a corner here. You're Christian? So am I, but I'm not the "pick and choose" Christian as Geoff says some are. I don't find being gay a sin. God loves you for who you are inside. He doesn't care who you have sexual relations with, just as long as that is what you want. God didn't make the human race to only love a certain gender (i.e men only love women, women only love men). If it's what you feel is right, then that's what you think.

The Catholic Church has no right in telling people what they can and can't do. They don't have physical supierority over their followers. If you ask me, I see whatever the Vatican says as a recommendation and not a solid command.

There's no cure for being gay. It's not something that you catch. It's not like an air borne virus. It's something that people choose to be. You're only 14. You're thoughts and hormones are all over the place and you probably get confused about it a lot right? Don't stress, it will all even out.

[Sceneboy612]

being gay is not a sin... god made you for who you are, and if homosexuality was a sin, why would he have created you?

And there is no cure for being gay... it is an emotional/ sexual feeling. and if you deny it from yourself... all that it creates is depression and self hate, so it is much better to accept who you are as a person, and live life how you want to. Im not telling you that you have to tell people you are gay, but if you accept it about yourself, it will be alot easier for you in the long run. =]

[guacamole24]

LOL there is no cure, it's not a disease :P

I have some advice:
Religion is there to make people happy, not stressed. So you're christian? OK, so am I :). Whats the Golden Rule? "Love one another as I have loved you". God loves you for who you are inside, not who you sleep with.

Try not to think about this much. You are only 14 and your emotions are all over the place. Don't stress if you think you like someone, forget gender and think of why you love the person. Don't try to fight your emotions, embrace them. Your emotions make you, you; and you need to be proud of who you are.

That is very true. Even though I'm not much of a religious person, I believe that God wants you to be who you are, and be happy with it. No matter for a man or woman, love is important thing.

I'm also a young bi/gay (can't tell) teenager, and I have basically the same sexual preferences as you, it sounds like. I face being gay and trying to figure out how to tell people eventually every single day. And though it's hard for some to think of life as a gay person, you can't change who you are, and you have to be proud of it.