Talking about masturbation with a friend?

[xbox360guy]

Well if you guys read my previous posts you would know that I have this insane fear of masturbation, I have come to the conclusion I am afraid of the orgasm, I was wondering if you think it would be a good idea to talk about this with my best friends. I personally think it would ruin our relationship because whenever I bring it up they seem to act funny, yet they always joke about sex... So I think they are afraid to talk about masturbation because they are embarrassed. I really don't think it would be a good idea, I don't know what to do.

It seems no one on the internet can convince me its okay so I thought maybe my friends can.

[TheFreeshooterII]

Tell me Your Problems Your Having Exactly

[xbox360guy]

Tell me Your Problems Your Having Exactly

The problem is I don't know if I should talk about it with a friend.

[Soccerbrother121]

Well it depends everyone would react differently, I think you would be more comfortable talking about it with people you don't know, that way you don't ruin any friendsheips, just to be sure.

[Donkey]

Dude, orgasm is one of the most natural things a human can do. When you were conceived, I'm sure there was an orgasm involved. Just about everyone does it. There is absolutely nothing to be worried about. Just give it a go. It's a gooood feeling :)

I don't suggest you talk about this to one of your friends, rather than just keeping it private and trying to sort it out yourself.

[TheFreeshooterII]

Yes an Orgasm Can at First be Really Scary but then youll Realize its the Most Sensational Thing You Can Have

[pontiacdriver]

Well if you guys read my previous posts you would know that I have this insane fear of masturbation, I have come to the conclusion I am afraid of the orgasm, I was wondering if you think it would be a good idea to talk about this with my best friends. I personally think it would ruin our relationship because whenever I bring it up they seem to act funny, yet they always joke about sex... So I think they are afraid to talk about masturbation because they are embarrassed. I really don't think it would be a good idea, I don't know what to do.

It seems no one on the internet can convince me its okay so I thought maybe my friends can.

Personally, I would not discuss masturbating with your friends especially since they seem to act funny when you bring it up. You know your friends best, and there is no sense in doing mutual masturbation with them if you know for a fact that would mess up your friendship with them. True, guys joke around about sex a lot, but all because they joke around about sex with you doesn't necessarily mean that they want to do sex acts with you.

As mentioned above, masturbating and getting an orgasm is very natural for guys. It can be scary to do something sexual especially if you are comfortable being a kid and feel like you are doing something adult. If that is the case, then know that we all have to grow up eventually and that sexuality is something all normal humans have. As long as you have positive sexuality and are responsible with your body, then masturbating is not a bad thing at all. If you have not done so, then visit www.jackinworld.com which offer an exhaustive list of techniques which you can follow.

[BirdsandtheBees]

If it's fear of an orgasm I'd like to know...is it the feeling or the ejaculation part that scares you?

Anyway, yeah I'm 13 and you know how it goes with friends, anything is a sex joke, but yeah even some of the most perverted (don't know if that's a good term to use, but anyway) guys I know joke about masutbration but don't really let on that they do it themselves.

There is one guy I know who let me know he masturbates, and we've even discussed the pros and cons of lube. It all depends on your friend.

[nick]

If your friends are embarassed to talk about it its best not to push it with them. Have you thought about trying out the vt chatroom, choose someone and ask for private chat with them. There are lots of good guys regularly there.

[marktheman]

It really depends on the friend. If he seems to be uncomfortable talking about it, then don't push it. If you have a best friend that you share secrets with, try to approach the subject with him, but be ready to drop it if you don't get a good reaction.
All I can tell you is that it's the greatest sensation in the world and once you start doing it you'll wonder why you ever had any fear about it.
If you want to talk about it, you can email me. I don't know if I can help, but I'll try.
Btw, I masturbate 3 times a day, so I'm pretty used to it.

[MisterAndrews]

Well i wouldnt talk to them about a fear of masturbation if i were you.... Some people might think that its a bit strange to be 'scared' of it. Mostly people talk about how good it is lol.

I would just give it one go.... just one. If you like it then problem solved, if you don't then you don't have to do it again. I'll be honest with you, it's slightly freaky at first. Like going on a rollercoaster for the first time, but you soon get used to it and it's great :)

Have you tried PMing some people on here? I'm sure there's loads of people who'd be willing to help, me being one of them :)

[Bobfrank543]

tell them what you are comfortable telling them