i suck with girls

[confused09]

hey girls i could use some help theres this girl in my spanish class who is so pretty and nice and well id like to ask her out but here are my problems:
1) i have really really really low self esteem.
2) ive never spoken to her and have no idea if she knows if i even exist.
3) im scared of rejection.
4) im shy i mean really shy.
5) i think im ugly but every friend i have whos a girl says im not but it never really helps.
so girls if u can give me some advice i would be so grateful that i would like idk owe you i guess. but plz help me plz!

[Oblivion]

Moved to Relationships and Dating

[byee]

I'm not a girl, but I am Sam, so I'll answer anyway! Tell me what you think.

Everything in your list is pretty much a universal, most guys feel that way (or at least, at some time). I've also got it on good authority that most girls struggle with most of those issues too. Which is a good thing, b/c that means that no one really knows what you feel or think or fear, it's very private and personal, so just act like you have those qualities, put your best foot forward, and you'll probably do much better than you think!

[AutumnDae]

hey girls i could use some help theres this girl in my spanish class who is so pretty and nice and well id like to ask her out but here are my problems:
1) i have really really really low self esteem.
2) ive never spoken to her and have no idea if she knows if i even exist.
3) im scared of rejection.
4) im shy i mean really shy.
5) i think im ugly but every friend i have whos a girl says im not but it never really helps.
so girls if u can give me some advice i would be so grateful that i would like idk owe you i guess. but plz help me plz!

If you've never spoken to the girl, get to know her! Just say hi, ask her how she is, after class one day. Become friends with her. Asking someone out is a lot easier if you've talked to them before, and you're friends!

[AllThatIsLeft]

i think the key to this answer.
is to get over your points.

You won't get far if you, yourself find the answers to those questions.


answering your question more straight forward. Autumn's got it.
Befriend her, say hi, and if she's as nice as you say, she'll go along with talking to you
just take it from there. don't be self-conscious just be yourself.

[IAMWILL]

This ones easy.

I think you need to address the fact that any good girlfriend or friend will not care what's "bad" (even though nothing is) about you. Therefore, you must not worry, fear is weakness. Like the other said, you need to get to know her. Almost everytime a girl will say "no" if they don't know the guy, and don't expect any exceptions. Maybe try to get into a class with her, get her # or IM and talk to her. Make sure you do this AFTER you say hi or such in person, it makes all the difference between creepy and adorable. Confidence comes with time, and if you talk to her, your confidence will build. You need to relax, stop worrying, and just pretend she's a friend. Girlfriends/boyfriends are just titles, logos. It doesn't really matter, as long as you feel comfortable.

[MaddyC]

hey girls i could use some help theres this girl in my spanish class who is so pretty and nice and well id like to ask her out but here are my problems:
1) i have really really really low self esteem.
2) ive never spoken to her and have no idea if she knows if i even exist.
3) im scared of rejection.
4) im shy i mean really shy.
5) i think im ugly but every friend i have whos a girl says im not but it never really helps.
so girls if u can give me some advice i would be so grateful that i would like idk owe you i guess. but plz help me plz!

right, ill help the best that i can!!
1) most people at some stage have really low self esteem at some point, so dont worry about this. I bet you are a really amazing and decent guy but you never give yourself credit for it
2) girls are rather awesome creatures as we do notice alot of people, even if it doesnt seem like it. Get to know her before you ask her out, like sit next to her in class or ask her in the hallways how she is or something ... a friendship will form before you know it and go from there
3) yahhh shyness generally doesnt help when it comes to the opposite sex ... but you just have to pluck up the courage, and talk to her. I know, i know "easier said than done" but you will thank the lord that you did talk to her, and anything worth having isnt easy to get :)
4) if all of your gal pals (haha sorry) think you are good looking ... trust them. you dont have to be the next zac efron to get a girlfriend! my boyfriend isnt exactly good looking, but i love him with all my heart never-the-less. so dont worry, i bet you are better looking than you may think

give it a shot! you will be kicking yourself later on if you dont, thinking about what could have been

GOOD LUCK!!!!

[confused09]

i know but like im really depressed imagine the normal feelings amplified by about 1000 i think about suicide damn near every day

[confused09]

i know i should talk to her but i mean she walks with friends in the hall and i dont get a chance to talk with her in class and i mena how can i walk up to her in the hall and say hey im Jake (not my real name) wouldnt that sound creepy even if i say it friendly i know ill studder or something. Im just really shy and i get nervous and i think im fat and ugly and stupid and everything.

[Ladysman]

just be funny mature good lisoner and b urself

[bagman]

i am bad with girls to. if you trust your spanish teacher i (mean like a friend) ask if they would partner you wit the girl for like a project. this will let you talk to her alone, let her know you exist, and show her your personality.

[scatman]

alright kid this is what you do


you said you have low self esteem fix that(cleaning your room and staying organized actually is proven to raise you self esteem) if someones telling you your not ugly like you think your most likely not. high self esteem=feeling better about your appearence dress nicer like you want to,

DONT BE AFRAID OF REJECTION i didnt know if my girl friend liked me before i asked her out, if she says no she says no, if someone gets the guts to ask you out even if they are "disgusting" would you be mean about it or nicely reject them with respect hmmm?


all together yeah go for it kid

[ebony15]

first of all, learn to gain your confidence.
you dont want to blab when you talk to a girl cuz you dont know what to say.
and just be yourself. If you have any sisters, you can ask them for advice ;) ..they are also girls you know...

[jack straw]

hey girls i could use some help theres this girl in my spanish class who is so pretty and nice and well id like to ask her out but here are my problems:
1) i have really really really low self esteem.
2) ive never spoken to her and have no idea if she knows if i even exist.
3) im scared of rejection.
4) im shy i mean really shy.
5) i think im ugly but every friend i have whos a girl says im not but it never really helps.
so girls if u can give me some advice i would be so grateful that i would like idk owe you i guess. but plz help me plz!

I'm the same way, I have very low self esteem at times, and I'm petrified of the thought of being rejected. But just be yourself, and everything will work out. *talk to her, and get to know her as a friend! once she's your friend, just causally ask her to a movie. It doesn't have to be a date, but it would give you a really good chance to get to know her better. If you feel that she likes you, ask her out. DONT rush it, if things move to quickly, it could lead to a misunderstanding...* Hey, I'm the shyist guy I know, I spend most of my time alone because I'm afraid of rejection. I'm also quite ugly, but i'm working on it. Dont worry, Everything will work out.

[confused09]

bagman thats Fucking brilliant ill try that ill ask her to do like random parters

[Tubbsyclone]

Ok u dont need 2 ask the teacher to do that. u r over complicating things. u just need her to notice you. there was a new girl at school and she was hot so what I did was I made a joke about how miley cyrus has a penis and now we're pretty good friends. just need to get her to notice you and she'll see the good things not the "bad" things about u

[ebony15]

if you've never done this thing before.. now is a good place to start.. ;) go for it..
and take your time bud.. ;)

[ILOVEYOU]

and anything worth having isnt easy to get :)

Thats Realllly Nice, i Completely Agree With You, and it made it confident, cuz i have kinda same problem as this guy, you made me wanna talk to her this time. Thank you. :)

[confused09]

i dont have friends to talk to in that class and i am the quiet kid the one in the back who only talks when spoken to and seems ether troubled or totally ignorant.

[WoW_GOD]

get to know her do NOT randomly ask her out, thats the worst thing to do, getting asked out by someone you've never talked to.

[ebony15]

get to know her do NOT randomly ask her out, thats the worst thing to do, getting asked out by someone you've never talked to.

So true so true. .:)