too close

[markium]

i have problems letting people in and as soon as they get close i run a mile,

whats the best way round this???

[HPstoner]

Tie your shoe laces together...jk

For us to give you advice, you should probably tell us why you feel the need to "run".

[byee]

LOL @ Stoner!

I think he's essentially correct, though: What you want to do is NOT run, tolerate the feeling and see what comes up for you.

You need to figure out what's scary for you, and the best way to do that is to experience it, which you cannot do unless you stay in it for a while. You're fleeing b/c you feel vulnerable, and you have to do a reality check here and see if there's actually something in that particular relationship that makes you feel this, or if it's rooted somewhere in your past.

Then, when you have a better understanding of where that vulnerability comes from, you can address that directly, rather than fleeing from something that not only isn't the primary cause of your feelings, but also can be a pretty nice experience, too.

[markium]

well, i dont no, 1 min everything is good then the next i freek out and thow ths humungas wall arround me and lock every thing out, theen end up either pushing them away or just fucking up by not letting them in,

[Oblivion]

OP Banned. Locked.