Really need help now

[rossafc92]

Sorry to bring up yet another thread on this, but this situation I'm in is just getting ridiculous. If you've been following me, I am in love with one of my best friends (previous threads here:http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=37701; http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=40754; http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=41418).

As you will be able to tell, the situation here is ever changing. Well as a carry on from my last thread about it (which said how she wasn't interested in the same way as I was and that she wasn't keen on a relationship right now), I'll bring you up to date with what has happened this weekend. On friday I was out with her and a couple of other friends and everything seemed fine, yet she was still giving me that vibe that she liked me. I tried to act as if we were just friends because obviously I had learnt through someone else earlier that week that she wanted to keep it that way.
On Saturday (the 11th), we were at another party, and the word was slipped around our group of friends that I liked her and that she apparently liked me. One of our friends in our group told me on friday that the girl I love told her that she liked me too. However, she has stated to someone else she does not.:what:
On Saturday, I was not able to enjoy the party because everyone seemed to be talking about how she liked me and how I liked her. I mainly sat and did nothing all night, and she seemed to be upset too (at the fact everyone now seems to know I think).
Anyway, I am finding this extrememly difficult to cope with. I'm finding it hard to speak to the girl I love, which is a disaster considering we're meant to be really close friends. Now that everyone knows, and that she knows that I know and that I know thats she knows etc, I'm finding contact with friends, her especially, extrememly awkward.
Please please help people. I really don't know how to handle this, because I don't want to ruin a friendship (feels like that is already happening tbh), yet I still want to be more than that with her.

Thanks once again people.

[byee]

Wait, I'm confused. Are you saying there's this girl who likes you openly and it's interferring with your chances with another girl you adore?

If that's the case, you need to be direct with both of them about your feelings and intentions. Be nice, say it in a way that doesn't sound like a rejection, and be done with it. it sounds like you need to take some control of all this, and put a stop to all the behind the back talking, as it's getting in the way.

[IAMWILL]

I think I get this, so I'll give it a shot.

Well during relationships or before them friends just do weird/generally annoying things, like this. Put them in your shoes. Just say like, "I get it, please stop telling me this. How would you like it if I annoyed you every second?" and they'll shutup for awhile.

Now as for your girls. You say you "absolutely love this girl and you're "meant to be together". If that was 100% true, none of this would have ever happened, because you would have shown by now that you only love one girl. You have a crush on her, and your letting her go by letting another girl that you apparently don't like as much into your world. Bottom line, if you want to be with the girl you love, end this bullshit with your other friends.

[rossafc92]

Sorry, I don't think I've made this clear enough, so I'll put it in simple terms...
"S" will be the girl I love.

I've known "S" for over a year now, and in the past 6 months have become really close friends with her. However, in those past 6 months I've developed feelings that make me want her to be more than just a friend. It has got to the stage where I love her, she being the only girl I think about etc etc. I was thinking, and most of the other friends in our group have been thinking that "S" likes me back too. However I've never been as sure as them because another friend (outside our 'group') asked her if she liked me, to which she replied "I don't think so". "S" also said that she did not want a boyfriend/relationship just now. The problem now is the confusion over the whole situation. "S" told one of her best friends and one of my best friends (we'll call her "M") that she ("S") liked me but her only problem was that we were "really good friends". "M" told me this on friday night. Last night (Saturday), we were at a party and "S" was almost completely avoiding me, and she amongst others were talking about the fact that she liked me. My best friend (we'll call him "C") knows that I love "S", so he tried to find out too. At first he thought "S" liked me back, but last night told me how "S" had been saying she didn't like me. "M" said this wasn't the case, and that "S" just wanted to remain good friends for the moment.
So, what do I make of this? I found it really awkward at the party last night, since I knew people were talking about this situation.
A week ago, only me and one other person knew about this, now everybody (practically) within our 'group' knows that I like "S" more than a friend. I don't know what I'm going to say to "S" next time I see her. I just wish I hadn't told people !!

Hope that makes things easier for you people to understand, and thanks for the help and please keep it coming. :)