Cindy

[Dragonite]

I have this friend (cindy) and we were really good friends untill she made me mad and I told her to shut up and I dont know how, but because of that it made her lose my trust. I dont talk to her as much, she tried talking to me the other day but I ignored her. And I have a huge crush on her is there any way to get her trust back or should i just forget about her?

[byee]

"Shut up" is harsh, it sounds angry and demanding. There are other (and better) ways of expressing your need there.

However, that said, when you say or do something that really offends or hurts another, it's best to sincerely apologize, show genuine remorse, and some awareness of the inappropriateness of your behavior. It allows you to put *whatever* behind you and move on.

[Dragonite]

i know its harsh i just couldnt controll my anger. but i dont know how to apologize, like i dont think saying im sorry is going to make her forgive me.

[Truth]

I've been told worse, actually.. alot worse by good freinds, and i forgave them. I don't see how she can lose trust in you for that.. That's pretty weird. Maybe try apologizing. It's alllll you can do =].

[byee]

I think it says a lot that it's easier for you to 'lose control' of your anger and say these things than it is for you to apologize in a sincere way that she'll believe.

Most reasonable people recognize our shared human falliablity, and that everyone makes mistakes and says and does things that aren't so OK. It's really the way they're handled that matters the most, as long as you're not habitually nasty. So, the sincere apology with regrets and awareness about the crumminess of your behavior and a willingness to control it in the future might be much more successful than you think.

[GiZzLe]

well first of all, shut up isn't that bad, it kinda depends on how u use it. maybe she is a little more sensitive than you thought. plus, when u ignore someone, they might get a little agitated or mad at u. so dont ignore her anymore if u want her to trust u.