General help needed

[JasonRB]

I'm going out with this girl, and I am really good friends with her so its easier, but at the same time its kind of awkward. We've made out and had a pretty intimate moment, but idk I guess i just need to know what i should do. Over winter break we hung out a lot and being close was easy, but now that school is back I doubt I'll get to see her as much, and pda is still a little nervous for me, I don't want to be, but its only been the 2nd day of school and what should i do? Can't just make out with her in the hallways. Anyone have any suggestions? Also, I'm not sure how far to go with her intimately. I don't expect sex, but last time i stopped and asked her if it was ok for me to do certain stuff, which looking back i'm not sure how to feel about it, because i didn't want to offend her by going too far, but at the same time i feel like an idiot for somewhat ruining the moment. So much pressure on guys to make the first move, and that would be fine but i don't want to create an awkward moment if I go too far. Anyone who can help? thanks in advance

~ Jason

[Elokyn]

I'd say just talk to her about it...don't necessecarily ask if you can do certain things, but just ask how she generally feels about it. Just have a very open conversation about it so you know for sure.
Also, sometimes when you suggest things the other person is pressured to immediately say yes or no so make sure that she knows she can have all the time she needs. :) hope that helps.

[ScotsGirl]

I agree with Nykole, talking is always best. :D

I dont know how far you have gone physically, but maybe a while after you have talked you might want to take things slightly further, you could just try something and see what her reaction is.
And before anyone goes crazy at me :shock: , I dont mean, jump on top of her and wait to see how long she screams for! LOL! :P

I jsut mean, if you guys are making out or...w/e you do, you could very slowly move your hand towards where you want it to go...her chest?...like i said, i dont know how far you guys have gone.
But if you do this, it is very important to pay attention to her reaction, her breathing, her movement etc etc, because as Nykole said, sometimes someone can feel pressured to do something at the time, so even if she seems remotely uncomfortable jsut reassure her thats you are fine with it, and dont go any further. (That might be something you could talk to her about, make sure she knows she can tell you to stop if she doesnt want to go any further at any time, and that you are okay with that :D )You could even pull back for a second at the time, and ask her if its alright (sometimes you dont even have to talk, just ask her with your eyes...if that makes sense :? ...no? ok...yeah im jsut weird :oops: LOL! :P).

Anyway, if i were you, i would have that open conversation with her soon, if you are prepared to take things further then you should be ready and willing to be able to talk about it ;)
Have fun! :D

:D
xxx