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Never_Forget
April 9th, 2009, 03:27 PM
I don't know if this is in the right forum... But...

So like, from when I was maybe around 6/7 until i was 10 I had a major problem with walking down my stairs. When I was walking down I always saw figures following me out of the corner of my eye, like a shadow with most detail taken from it. I always had to run down the stairs looking back, and since the figure was a shadow, it caused my fear of the dark (what kid DOESN'T fear dark?) to become irrational.
So one day, I was in my mums room, and I was going over to the other side to get something, and all of a sudden, the shadow figure is there again, but right in front of me, and blinding white. Needless to say, I screamed and ran and stayed downstairs for the rest of the day. This only escalated my fears. Then about a year later, I watched the movie 'Scream', at the age of 8.

For a few years now I've not been as scared as I used to be but now my fears have started picking up again. At night I hear noises while I'm still downstairs alone, I'm then downstairs for an extra hour. When I'm in bed or in the bathroom at night, I hear creaks and stuff (yes I KNOW it's the pipes and floorboards contracting and expanding) and after that I can hear footsteps. I have a fear of the dark, and I can't sleep unless I can see the door to the room I'm in, and that it's closed. When I'm in the kitchen at night on my own I can't stand in front of the windows, or look out of them. I can't sit in the conservatory at night with the blinds open the tiniest bit, and when I walk along halls or stairs at night I get the feeling I'm being watched. When trying to get to sleep I have thoughts like "they've killed my parents and they're coming for me next", even though I don't know who 'they' are. If I'm awake I have to open my eyes every few seconds to check nobody is there and I can't make a noise, I don't want 'them' to hear me.

Does anybody know how I can stop all of this? Not only does it terrify me almost every night, its downright annoying!

mexa
April 9th, 2009, 10:07 PM
I've feared the dark for a while now too, thanks to scream, the i know what you did summer thingy and many many other movies, i really try to stay away from zombies/terror or thrill movies so when im turning off the lights i usually just close my eyes and kinda run to bed with my eyes closed haha, i terrified of being alone at night too...OH! my bad im moving out of subject sorry. Well for how to stop it id say just think about happy places ^.^ i do that when i remember the pyramid head zombie from silent hill...*shudder*, also remember its just your imagination, you didnt write about living alone or about your family being around you...well except in the part you say you think "they" are gonna get you and your parents so remember that in the day when your family is around youre safe and so at night cause they'll always be there to protect you. I belive i read something about the death of fear increasing in puberty but i might be wrong. SO, remember think of happy places like hanging around with your friends telling jokes or something similar, its just your imagination playing tricks on you, happens to me too. Unless its ghosts which i highly doubt but who knows :S. Hope i helped.

OnlyByTheNight.
April 9th, 2009, 11:29 PM
The exact same thing happens to me all the time! Before i go to bed i always have to check the door is locked and all the stuff like that. I am VERY VERY paranoid! Has anyone any ideas how to help this?

Perseus
April 10th, 2009, 09:44 AM
Something that might be help you when you sleep is to listen to music. That could get your mind off of it and you wont hear stuff that would freak you out, most likely.
but, that might not always work though.

Never_Forget
April 10th, 2009, 05:05 PM
I DO listen to music....
Until about 3 am....
Then, when I'm crazy tired, I can fall asleep faster...

But it's things like banging outside, last night I had a bitch fit in bed, a bin lid was baging against a bin or something and it sounded like someone knocking on my door, I was like "Holyshitcicles!", the creepiest thing was it only seemed to happen when I listened to music, if I paused it the banging stopped. I even rang my own house to try and wake somebody up so they could go see what was happening... Nobody woke up though...

Marucho
April 11th, 2009, 12:26 PM
I have the exact same problem. I always see things especially like a line of white light and i just freeze like " :'O ". Many people are afraid of the dark. Its just your mind playing tricks on you. You could get a nightlight but then shadows would be more common so probably not the best thing to do. I guess the only thing i can think of is keep saying to yourself "theres nothing there" over and over when your scared and eventually it'll go into your subconscious. (sp) Good luck :D

byee
April 11th, 2009, 12:47 PM
This is something that might need some professional attention.

Little kids get scared a lot, the world is a new place for them, they have active imaginations, they're vulnerable, and they don't have a lot of well developed coping skills. Typically, though, kids outgrow these concerns. You haven't.

I think the best course of action here is to tell your folks the extent of your anxiety (which borders on panic at this point), and work with them on a plan to address this which might include speaking to a therapist. There, you can learn ways of coping with your fears so they don't interfere as much as they do now.

OnlyByTheNight.
April 11th, 2009, 02:21 PM
This is something that might need some professional attention.

Little kids get scared a lot, the world is a new place for them, they have active imaginations, they're vulnerable, and they don't have a lot of well developed coping skills. Typically, though, kids outgrow these concerns. You haven't.

I think the best course of action here is to tell your folks the extent of your anxiety (which borders on panic at this point), and work with them on a plan to address this which might include speaking to a therapist. There, you can learn ways of coping with your fears so they don't interfere as much as they do now.

I KNOW that this isnt my thread BUT I would just like to say that my dad does know but all he does is laugh at me for having to check that the door is locked 5 times before I go to bed! I guess he doesnt get it but Im terrified!

kika12
April 12th, 2009, 03:16 AM
i would say you have symptons of paranoid i really recommed that you go to a psychologist because this is not going to go away alone you have to go to a doctor and then maybe you are going to get some meds or Therapies.hre is a link about paranoid:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paranoia.

talk to your parents i really recommend that you go to a doctor you need proffesional help.please go to a doctor you deserve to feel better.