Could this work?

[Reaper]

So its been a while since I have posted here.. but I have come across another problem and I really need some help.

I got introduced to this girl through a friend, we only met briefly. We started talking online and over a while it became clear that we both had feelings for each other. Im not sure if this could be considered "valid" as I really only know her from msn and phone conversations, but I find myself looking forward to coming home to speak to her and thinking of her with anyone else makes me feel sick and she says the same.

The main problem however is she lives quite far away. Its about an hour ride by train, and about a 45 minute drive, and I dont yet have a car. I was going to go and see her today for the first time, but she does live out in the sticks her parents weren't in to pick me up from the station.

I really so badly want this to work and so does she. I feel she is out of my league, and I know a lot of guys probably want her, but she has told me that its only me she wants, but I really need to keep her interested. Could this work? If I had a car I would be able to see her at least once a week, but really is this enough? Has anyone else had experiences like this and have they worked out? What tips do you have

[Furby]

I share a similar situation at the same time as you mate, just do what i'm doing stick it out, talk on the phone internet, no matter what your doing try to talk to her.
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This is good advice that i hope you take don't throw away your friends for a female as blunt as that sounds, your true friends will be there forever...but your gf, wife, whatever the case, may not always.

[Gumleaf]

my theory on long distance/online/phone relationships is that they can work, but only if there is the promise that you get to spend regular time together or the amount of time you spend together increases in the future. if you don't have that, then the chances of them succeeding is unlikely because the longer you are together, the more you will want physical contact like hugs, kisses, etc. in this case i think it could be worth giving it a go. you will see eachother, even though not frequently, but still enough to get quality time together. i think it could work for you guys.

[Ladysman]

I had the same problem but didnt work oit for me do to complactions out of our control that made me sound smart lol

[Beautiful Obsession]

well, you both like each other so go for it ! seriously.. do.. just bcuz she lives 1 hr from you, your always talk online n always talk on the phone..as long as you seee her once every so often. it should work.. xx

[Donkey]

I'd say go for it. If you both want it, it should work well. If it doesn't work out, just finish it. But I really think this could work :)

[Aneklusmos]

Well Im in a long distance relationship where i only see my girlfriend 7 times a year. and then we chat on facebook and on the phone at least 4 times a week. it works out fine and i couldn't be happier. but a caution. i have heard quite a few idsaster stories with long distance relationships

[Jean Poutine]

They can work, but both parties need an insane amount of trust in each other, selflessness and dedication that is rarely seen in teens.

You could much probably have something with another girl that would resemble what you feel for the girl you like now, with much less hassle. I would love to convince you to let it go, that you probably don't want to cast your line so far - but if you're like me, you're just going to try and have a go at it anyway. So I'm not even going to bother. You're either beyond saving, or of remarkable altruism, one of which I can't do anything about, the other I wouldn't want to change.

I'm talking with my experiences there. You're not me but I'll try to explain why I believe you should totally go for it.

The girl I love lives 2 days away by train. Again, if you're like me, there'll be a moment where you long for her company so much that you won't really long for it anymore - and then, instead of an excruciably untolerate torture, it becomes, quite literally, sweet oblivion waiting for your 15 minutes of glory to fulfill themselves. It's like if you knew you're going to win the lotto quite soon, except you don't know exactly when. The trick is simply waiting for enlightenment, where you realise being butthurt about her not being there won't teleport her next to you. The challenge is to hold on until then, as it is quite human to want.

French people say "loin des yeux, loin du coeur" - far from the eyes, thus far from the heart. That does not have to be true. It requires more dedication to nurture love over a distance, yes, but it's not completely impossible. I've been nursing (yet) unrequited (but acknowledged and understood, that's enough for me in this moment in time), distanced love for about a year now. That's how certain I am that I'm putting all my eggs in the right basket, and that one day, my sacrifice will pay off, 'cause it will. Perhaps not really in the way I want it, but in a way it'll pay off, perhaps it has already.

Lastly, if it fails, for any reason, you will have developed emotional resilience that is quite useful in every day life. I know I'm emotionally tough as nails. Mentally weak, prone to breakdowns and ceaseless questioning, but emotionally tough. I fully believe the wait is what made me strong enough to persevere.

Not trying would be really fucking asinine, especially if she's only one hour away. Give it a shot man. You lose nothing by doing so, but you do gain the risk of being somewhat sad for a few moments. Sadness clears off. Do it. Go.

Challenge our ingrained instant gratification reflex. Show that there are still a few out there that appreciate patience as a virtue and waiting as a delicacy.

[Reaper]

Yeah, I spoke to her about it and she agreed we should give it a go. We are in a relationship now, Im going up next weekend to stay with her.

The only problem Im facing is I know she has a lot of guys interested in her. I know she speaks to one of them quite regularly. He lives further away from her than me, but I still feel threatened by him, because she didnt know he was into her until we were actually going out. Does she like him more than me? Stuff like that.

I trust her, its just Im very paranoid and its always on the back of my mind.

[Beautiful Obsession]

well im happy for u dat ur tgether.. but u'v only just been goin out and ur already threatin ova anuva guy.. i really think you should stop worrying or u will end up losin her. think bout it, she wouldnt go out wiv u if she liked someone else.
xxx

[Reaper]

I knoww, but I just cant help but worry. I guess thats who I am.
I expect the worse out of everything and I really dont know how I can help myself from doing this.

[MaddyC]

So its been a while since I have posted here.. but I have come across another problem and I really need some help.

I got introduced to this girl through a friend, we only met briefly. We started talking online and over a while it became clear that we both had feelings for each other. Im not sure if this could be considered "valid" as I really only know her from msn and phone conversations, but I find myself looking forward to coming home to speak to her and thinking of her with anyone else makes me feel sick and she says the same.

The main problem however is she lives quite far away. Its about an hour ride by train, and about a 45 minute drive, and I dont yet have a car. I was going to go and see her today for the first time, but she does live out in the sticks her parents weren't in to pick me up from the station.

I really so badly want this to work and so does she. I feel she is out of my league, and I know a lot of guys probably want her, but she has told me that its only me she wants, but I really need to keep her interested. Could this work? If I had a car I would be able to see her at least once a week, but really is this enough? Has anyone else had experiences like this and have they worked out? What tips do you have

WOOT this is my area of expertise my friend, and ill be glad to help :)
I live an hour away from the city of Sydney in Australia which is where I go to school and where all of my friends (and boyfriend) are.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year (it will be a year on the 1st of May) and we live an hour apart ... its hard as he is in year 11 and im in year 10 and the workload is getting harder for him, but we still find time out to see eachother atleast once a week.
If you really care for this girl, take the time out on the weekend to catch the train (seeing you dont have a car) and see her, or she could do the same. Trust me when I say, a girl loves someone who will travel to see her ... i know i do :)

It worked out fabulously for me and my boyfriend, and Im sure it will work out great for you and that dream girl you speak of.
If she says she only wants you ... trust her. She wont be lying about something like that. You arent out of her league, dont worry. She wants you and only you and I can see a relationship like that working out tremendously well :)

If you need any more advice or anything, or just want to talk, PM me and let me know

GOOD LUCKKKKK!!!
xxxx

[Reaper]

We got into a bit of an argument today, and I feel really bad for it. Its her birthday today and I stayed up till 12 to be the first to wish her a happy birthday. She was on msn about 11.30 when she suddenly went offline. I didnt hear anything for about an hour, but she came back on and was on the phone to the boy who likes her. She told me happily that he had rung her at 11.30 to make sure he was first to wish her a happy birthday, then they spoke for an hour. I said I didnt want to talk whilst she was on the phone, and then waited another hour for her to finish.
For some reason that just made me angry, I started getting sarcastic. I come round and apologised, but she soon vanished. Im still awake now at 3.30am and I cannot sleep.

I dont know why I let things like this bother me really... I trust her, its just the signs she is giving off.