returning the favour

[MaddyC]

my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while now, it will be a year soon. i love him so much and he feels the same way, which is amazing in itself :)

the thing is though ... hes fingered me and eaten me out, but up until this point i havent "returned the favour" so to speak. its not that im scared to do it or anything, its more of an immense worry that i wont give him any pleasure...

there is alot more pressure on me now because when he gave me head, he gave me an incredible orgasm.

he hasnt pressured me into doing anything to him though, and i know he wouldnt because he just isnt like that.

but i want to do something for him ...

so i need your advice!
any tips on getting guys to ejaculate?
or any other thoughts or opinions really :)

thanks a heap!

[Gumleaf]

we can't go into details here other then stimulation to the penis will go a long way to getting him to orgasm. its against the rules here to say much more then that, but yeah, you can't really go wrong with penis stimulation.

[IAMWILL]

Yes, what Steph said, but also, don't worry! If he loves you, he won't care at all however you attempt to please him. Once again too, if he loves you, it will pleasure him no mater what you do :)

(And seeing as you're new, welcome to VT! I'm Will, and I love to help people!)

[NeverTooLate]

Yes, what Steph said, but also, don't worry! If he loves you, he won't care at all however you attempt to please him. Once again too, if he loves you, it will pleasure him no mater what you do :)

yep u stole the words out of my mouth.
if he loves u he wont care if u please him

[Oblivion]

Yes, what Steph said, but also, don't worry! If he loves you, he won't care at all however you attempt to please him. Once again too, if he loves you, it will pleasure him no mater what you do :)


Agreed, although that was Stephen not Steph lol :P
There isn't really a way to not pleasure him if you're touching his penis. Chances are, in teen years, he hasn't much more than his own hand for pleasure.
But like Will says, if he really loves you, he won't mind if you 'do it wrong'

[IAMWILL]

Okay I admit that I wasn't exactly looking at anything but the words of Stephens post when I read it, and the color blue caught my eye, but I just missed.

I just want to add that as long as you two are happy together and he doesn't push or force you to do anything you don't want to, physical relationships can become obselete. You don't need it, it's just there for pleasure.

[dmeek7]

trust me...im a guy i would know that it doesnt take much to make a guy ejaculate

[nick]

Actually, its not all about whether you make him ejaculate, there's more too pleasure than that. Believe me if you're prepared to give it a go you will give him pleasure. You should be open and tell him you're worried because you haven't done it before, he'll probably be pleased to hear that anyway. Encourage him to tell you if its OK and if he wants you to do anything different. Learn from each other and enjoy exploring.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Don't be scared.
If he knows you it is your first time, he knows that you you won't have this technique at it. But the thought counts, if he sees that you want to pleasure him, though you are not sure how, he will get pleasure from that because he loves you.

And there is nothing more comfortable than learning with someone you love. Because no matter how much you know, he is there to guide you and let you know it is okay.
Don't be shy, and experiment. Practice makes perfect.

[Ladysman]

Ya trust me he will like it