How to Touch

[StJude217]

I was wondering if there is a girl you like.how could you impress her by
TOUCH? For instance:hugs,holding hands,arm around shoulder,help through crowd,etc.:what:

[theOperaGhost]

Holding hands is always a good thing...as well as a hug from time to time. If you're sitting (such as at a movie or something) I'd either hold hands or put my arm around her shoulder.

The amount of physical contact is always a bit awkward in first relationships and the beginning of new relationships. I think holding hands is always a pretty safe bet though.

[StJude217]

The thing is we're not dating yet but I like her and she likes me,but neither one of us has asked.so what are the options at this stage?

[theOperaGhost]

Do the two of you hang out or do anything together? The old standard is to ask her to a movie sometime. Take it slow, but not too slow. When you're at the movie pay attention to her to see like how she's looking at you or something. Also, if you ask her to a movie, kind of indicate it is a date somehow.

If you are comfortable and things seem to be going alright, you could wait until her hand is available (as in on the arm rest or someplace that you can take it without effort) and when that time comes, hold her hand.

[StJude217]

We hang out at school,but not really anywhere else.she came to my house once to watch movies but she brought her BFF with her.Her parents are real strict.Her dad is one of our teachers,and is always watching us.We are also different religion...kinda,I'm Baptist and she's catholic but she does not think that matters.Anything I could do at school to impress her and her dad?

[theOperaGhost]

Be respectful and kind at school. Really, that's how you impress people anywhere. I'm not sure if I can say much else. If you show people respect, they will like you (generally).

[StJude217]

Thanks for the help.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Jared is right.
Don't suck up. it's pretty obvious when you try too hard.
Just be respectful.

Simple one second touches do great to give a hint, unless you are the hug the world type.

[theOperaGhost]

Paula is right...and I was going to add this to my post, but got sidetracked. Do NOT suck up! Nobody likes suck-ups, but most people like respectful people.

[AutumnDae]

I was wondering if there is a girl you like.how could you impress her by
TOUCH? For instance:hugs,holding hands,arm around shoulder,help through crowd,etc.:what:

Impress her? I dunno. I'm not really 'impressed' by being touched. But seeing as you aren't dating, don't take it too far. I'm a fan of holding hands occasionally, but not all the time. Especially when not dating, then it's just a bit awkward.

When not dating, I suggest an arm around the shoulder, such as at school. I don't think that its going to far, and seeing as her dad is around, I don't think that's too much for around parents.

If you two are alone, at the movies, then holding hands is fine. While at the movies, I'm not a fan of the whole *Yawn and stretch and coyly put my arm around you* sort of thing.

Just go with what feels right, I say.