One more to the list.

[AllThatIsLeft]

had another fight with my mom. and she still thinks i'm gonna obey.
everytime is getting worse, and i am really close to showing her just how much control she really has over me.

i'm not gonna do anything now.
i cant anyways. i'm broke.

i am about to snap tho..

i feel like a rebel without cause becuase i'm not explaining what happened, but if i do i'll just start screaming from the frustration.

to resume the end of the fight was.. "you're not going to your prom or any party, you are an irresposible child and think that you can get away with anything"

well it wasn't my fucken fault!!!

[byee]

Paula, it's unclear to me exactly what the issues here btw'n you and your mom are. Frankly, it just sounds like *whatever* it is has deteriorated into a control struggle. People often get involved in control struggles because they feel personally attacked, that *whatever* is going on is being directed at them personally, so they react defensively, and that feels controlling. That's not good.

I think it might be best to find some time to talk with your mom about those issues, without getting into a fight over control. This might be very hard to do if you've had a history of just not listening to eachother and assuming the other one is using bullying tactics because they just feel so threatened.

Try to calmly suggest a time to talk with mom, and discuss what your perceptions are without making any accusations. Try to talk with her in a way that goves her the info she needs to better understand you (not her), and work out a way to discuss whatever the issue is, without perceiving it as a personal attack and a control struggle. The goal should be having her understand you better and coming up with a diff way of resolving differences when they arise that don't involve control or bullying tactics.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Sam we have done that. Never worked. Never will.
She can't accept that everything she says is not my law.
I love her, and respect her, and obey when it is reasonable. Otherwise, i go into this mad state of frustration.

and everything together is kicking my ass.
and i honestly don't know what i might do within the next week. and i honestly dont care, because whatever it is, i wont regret it.
i am sick of being the ideal daughter, because i am not!

The whole issue was because there was some paper to be done for university, and today was the deadline but the website has been down, and is not my fucken fault. But she said that it was my fault for not checking before, for not trying harder, for doing other shit.

i dont know if she's realized this, but school is kicking my ass. i dont have time for EVERYTHING. and i was just in time, IT IS NOT MY FAULT.

I am in a very low mental state right now, i'm gonna shut down eventually, i can feel the copping reaching its limit.

i just dont have the strength, and i am honestly losing every sense of caring. i just want to forget, EVERYTHING.
i just want to shut my head to everything.
i dont know what will i do yet.
but i know it wont be good.
dont advise me against it.
because i honestly won't listen.
sorry.

[byee]

You and she need to come up with a way to talk WITH eachother, Paula, not AT eachother. Until and unless that happens, I suspect you'll both continue to be frustrated with the other. No one likes the way it feels to be ignored, and unless you guys can work these problems differently, it might continue to be pretty bad.

It's not about right or wrong, it's about working together, differently. You need to work together to change the tone of the way you talk with eachother so it's not so personal.

[AllThatIsLeft]

WE HAVE!
it didn't work.
and i know it will get only worse.
that's why i need to the get hell out of here.

[Sapphire]

:hug3:
Parents are awful to live with when you get older. It seems to be that they want things to carry on as they were when you were younger and you want to become your own person with a modicum of freedom. The two are a difficult combination.

Is it possible for you to move out in the not so distant future?
Your relationship with your mum will most probably improve when you aren't living under the same roof.

[AllThatIsLeft]

i dont know.. i cant move out alone.. it's just too expensive. and the people i am going to move out are not going to laterrr on.

hopefully i can manage something soon.

[byee]

Paula, moving out is a nice fantasy, but the reality is you're stuck with eachother for a while. At the very least, you should leave in a planful way, which increases the chances of success. You're not there yet, so you have to come up with a plan to deal with her, something different than just being angry with her and using that anger to disregard her and her wishes.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Sam dear. i am not into the whole planned life.. its not my style..
i just want to get on the road and travel,
i hate life, so i plan to make the best of it while i can.
i will settle later on in my life.
THAT"S my plan.

[BeautifulTragedy]

Damn, she took away PROM?! Isnt that a bummer.

But I can only pitty you for the simple fact that you didnt really say what the problem was....

[AllThatIsLeft]

yea i know.. i didn't explain.. i sound like a teenager raging about nothing. lol
Technically, For university i had to fill in this financial information online.
But the website was down for like 3 days.
NOT my fault.
then she's started yelling at me that i should of done it earlier, and that i was irresponsible for not doing it within the deadline.
i mean i was within the deadline, but the website was down.
then she's started giving me the "all i say goes, because i am your mother" crap. which i dont tolerate, and she knows i won't listen to her when she gives me the senseless crap. So she got pissed and told me i couldnt go to Prom.
Well, no matter, becuase i am going anyways, and she can't stop me.
she is NOT going to take away the most important party of highschool, that's like taking away honeymoons from marriages, you just don't do it.

What annoys me and frustrates me is that every time we argue is a little more intense.
so, now our disscussions get heated, and she's mad and i am absolutely frustrated and aggravated and enraged, and is always the factor that makes me break down becuase i am stressed 24/7.

[Sapphire]

Try getting out of the house for a walk when things are really tense. Clearing your head can really help when dealing with in-house disputes.