I'm serously consitering telling

[ShatteredWings]

The truth.

I'm okay with myself, meaning i don't want to change anything (or, at least not sexuality related, if we're going to be technical here).
I'm NOT okay with having to hide it, especially with my parents.

I want to tell her, but .. i don't know if i should. i don't know what she'd do...

[Sapphire]

Try to get a better picture of how she feels about alternative sexualities. Then you can make a more informed choice and have an idea of what you will be dealing with

[Sceneboy612]

I am having this same problem right now (except my parents dont know it) and i think that i will tell someone who i know wont think of me differentially of me, and will stand with me through it all. Hiding the fact that you are gay/bi "i dont know what you are" really sucks, and if you want to tell someone, i suggest that you only tell her if she can understand it, and if you know she will treat you the same.....


And i hope that everything works out for you

[ShatteredWings]

i know she doens't really care what other people do in their house/bedroom

but i have to live with her for almost 4 more years... thefore 'my house my rules' is in full play


problem is... how much longer can i really hide it?
A year? Two?

[Sapphire]

;479075']i know she doens't really care what other people do in their house/bedroom

but i have to live with her for almost 4 more years... thefore 'my house my rules' is in full play
That wouldn't necessarily be the worst scenario.
You just get friendly with your gf (when/if you get one) in her house rather than yours. Doesn't sound like she would forbid you from having a gf round, just the getting all close and intimate bit which can be worked around.

[ShatteredWings]

im not dating anyone.
if i'm not with anyone, no one can prove anything.
yet....

i'm just TIRED of hearing my mom make these blatantly obsurd rude comments like she does with every other "group" that she disagrees with.
Apparently bisexual is a phase, all transgenderd kids are just confused, and being gay is something you SHOULD be ashamed of
and i'm really tired of it.

i'm tired of lying

[clr9823]

im not dating anyone.
if i'm not with anyone, no one can prove anything.
yet....

i'm just TIRED of hearing my mom make these blatantly obsurd rude comments like she does with every other "group" that she disagrees with.
Apparently bisexual is a phase, all transgenderd kids are just confused, and being gay is something you SHOULD be ashamed of
and i'm really tired of it.

i'm tired of lying

Yeah, well f*** her.
If she is intolerant (especially of other sexualities), try and keep it a secret until you are outside of her household, then it doesn't really matter what she thinks.

Keeping your sexuality a secret is hard sometimes, but the truth can be worse for you. I KNOW!!!

[FearForMySanity]

Sounds like your mom would not be the best person to tell. Do any of your friends know? If not, I would suggest telling a trusted friend first. That's what I've done. I would wait to tell your mom. It's hard, I know, but I can imagine that having a parent that disapproves of you like that wouldn't be fun. Sorry about your predicament!