Dating help

[JoshDude]

Warning: Long post, if you take the time to read it, thankyou very much!

-Ok, so I started a brand new school last year. I made friends relatively quickly including a girl whom I really like. At first we just talked alot in the classes we shared. Each day I would have at least 1 or 2 periods of class with her, and we would sit next to each other and talk.

A year has passed, and our relationship has become stronger. I now hang out with her not only in the classes we share, but also every lunchtime. We sit together and talk and have fun. (Up until this time, I never thought of her as 'more than a friend'), but I think I'm falling for her. Anyway, she places her head on my shoulder, and we hang out occasionally at parties together, where I can place my arm around her etc to see whether she likes me =). Also, some of her friends will joke about me and her 'going out', or 'perfect couple'. Whenever her friends suggest this, even if its jokingly, she never says "No!" or denies that it could happen. She never says anything in this situation.

So anyway, we talk alot on msn and txt. Just the other day she went home sick and sent a txt "I miss you". So I thought about this, and came to the conclusion that I want to ask her out soon. My school gets the next 2 weeks off, so I thought asking her at the end would give me enough time to work up the courage needed to do so. I also thought that if I could go out with her, and see her as much as possible she would be more likely to say yes.

Anyway, it seems like she doesnt really want to hang out with me much outside of school. I have asked her only once or twice before to come see a movie with me, but she had 'other things' to do. At first I thought that maybe she just isnt interested, or embarrassed to be seen with me in public with me. But all her friends are at my school, and she always wants to sit with me at school, even when all her friends are around her. There is always the possibility that she did have other things on, and my timing was bad, but who knows.

I think I have a chance with her, it's just I want to see her a few more times 1 on 1 before I ask the big question.

Anybody have any suggestions on how to hang out with her more 1 on 1? So we have time to chat and I can work up my courage?


Many, many thanks!

[IAMWILL]

It does sound like you have a great chance with her!

Okay, to break this down a little.....

When girls deny that you should go out when other boys or girls taunt you she is saying "Yes, please don't bother me about it" because it's embarrassing to her. If she didn't like you, she'd ignore them in a different mood.

She probably doesn't want to hang out with you outside of school for two reasons: one, she doesn't feel comfortable yet without her friends, or two, she's shy. Now I think she is mostly just shy, because almost all girls are like that when they like boys. To get a little one on one time with her, try to catch her alone sometime, maybe right after school, and just talk. Or possibly, if you know she's not busy, maybe ask if she wants to go to a movie with you and one of her friends. Kinda like a double date, to give her some support and things like that, girls need that type of stuff.

Doing these things and just talking to her, whether it's over AIM, texting, or talking, should build up your courage. Courage comes with time, and you seem to have a lot of time to build your courage up, because she does like you. Just be patient, and you'll know when to ask her out.

[ILOVEYOU]

dude, she likes you, so you dont have anything to worry about, just wait, be patient as Sbrocksdaworld said.
i say, wait until school is over, then ask her to meet her somewhere, or like "i need to see you", something like that, or even "long time no see, wanna hang outside" umm, you know her better, so ask anything she likes, just be patient, girls think a lot. Good Luck

[JoshDude]

Well I asked her to come over tomorrow (remembering we have 2 weeks off) and she said, "One day we will hang, not tomorrow though". Now, fair enough, but noticed the "One day". I don't know whether she means we will hang out 1 single day, or any 1 random day.

I don't know, it just seems she doesnt really want to hang out with me outside of school, even though she flirts a fair bit with me inside school.

[ILOVEYOU]

if i was you, i would say "you're busy?", or "let me know when you wanna hang", or even "why cant you come tomorrow?", anyway, you gotta choose, ask her isnt she ok with hanging with you outside of school or what..
honestly, she's the only one who can help your heart now, so, ask her, or tell her that you Love her. your call, Good luck