Feelings for best friend

[SouthStreet Patrick]

I have these deep feelings about my best friend. I have this fantasy of making out with him and going further. I'm starting to avoid him because I feel this way. He doesn't understand why I'm avoiding him. I don't want to lose my friend, should I tell him how I feel?

[NeverTooLate]

hmm u cant be avoiding him cause then you'll lose him as a friend
i think u should tell him u like him

[Ender]

I know it will be hard, but i believe he needs to know, tell him u really dont want it to affect your friendship but u hav feelings for him.

Btw, it could be hormones/curiosity, and nothing to serious....or it could be true love.

[appel123]

yes you should

[Sceneboy612]

If you tell him, it will most likely be awkward between the two of you, and if he is a homophobe... you should not tell him, but if you do not tell him and continue to avoid him, you will lose him as a friend and as i found out can make you depressed. And since you have deep feelings for him, it will be even worse

[Blue63]

Well if your really close maybe he'll understand, maybe feel the same way, but who knows, it all may just be hormones like said above.

A great thing could come from taking things a step further or it could crush a lot of things.

It really is a hard decision, it's not something you can just decide like nothing. However maybe if you are in a non-threatening sexual situation with him maybe you will fulfill your desires or he will see some feelings for you to. It's not un-usual for guys to masturbate together, maybe bring that up, see his reaction, maybe try it. See how he reacts and how you do to.

Bottom line, don't avoid him, put the feelings inside (sounds horrible I know) and keep him as a friend or risk it and try and go a step further.

Hope I helped!

[HOLEinyoursoul]

Um, don't flat out tell him, that might get you onto a bad start. Invite him over and play truth or dare or something. Or maybe watch a little porn

[byee]

Hmmm....why are you avoiding him?

Having feelings for friends (of either gender) is normal. We like our friends, that's why they're our friends, and as we get to know them and enjoy them, those feelings can become quite strong. Add to that the normal sexually-crazed part of being a teenager, and you can also develop curiosity and fantasy for them, too. Puberty is a strange brew!

So, as long as you keep it in your head, it's really OK, it shouldn't interfere with your 'real' relationship with him, and you shouldn't avoid him! Afterall, you like him.

As for telling him, I think there's a real risk that will change the relationship, and not necessarily for the better. Unless you suspect that he's got the same feelings and urges that you do.

Don't assume that all those feelings you've got really means that you're gay, either, or that you necessarily want to actually act on them. It's just that strange brew, and it might be best to keep it all to yourself and enjoy it privately, without risk and without guilt.

[nick]

I agree pretty much with IAMSAM. I cant see anything good coming out of you telling him. The only way this would help is if he has the same feeling in reverse and has been wondering how to tell you, but the chances of that being the case are pretty low. In any other situation you would probably risk freaking him out, and you couldn't be sure that he wouldn't tell everyone else about it.

So my advice would be to keep it to yourself, act as normal around him as you ever had, after all nothing's really changed. By all means fantasize about him all you like when you're on your own and relieving the stress.... but I would leave it at that

[marktheman]

If you guys are really best friends then you should talk to him about how you feel. He should understand.
My best friend is like a brother to me. We are very close and even do some sexual things together. But I don't have the same feeling that you have for your friend. But, since we are best friends I know I can say anything to him and it won't hurt our friendship.
Hopefully your friend is like that.

[smokt0ut.]

i dont know if u telll him how u feel will work out all good but i had really strong feelings with my bestfriend and i always thought about him and i always hid my feelings i wanted to tell him but like u i didnt know how he would react ..
avoiding him is not the amswer ... u might lose him but just keep talking to him and just be nice to him..
by the way i lost my virginity to my best friend .=) i loved and still do.. but we kept it a secret but thats a whole diffrent story.

[Leprachaun]

I really don't think you should avoid him. But I'm not too sure what you should say to him. maybe just give him hints or something, I dunno.

[YourFriend]

Don't avoid him, either tell him your feelings or pretend normal, but I suggest the first one.

[DongBoiUSA]

I had the same issue. What I did was tell my friend I am gay. He said it is no big deal, but he's straight...so no cigar there. That was the end of it; however, I still have feelings for him. That's just something that I and you will have to deal with indefinitely.