13 year old brothers are the worst form of torture (Rant)

[AutumnDae]

I am going to slap my brother upside the head so hard he can't see straight. I'm not even kidding. He is the most annoying kid that I have ever met in my life. Not only does he take longer showers than I do, (Yes, that's annoying) he is rude to me, rude to my parents, and loud and annoying. I'm sitting in my room TRYING to study for my Earth Science, and he just decides to play music from the computer. Sure, go ahead, play music, I honestly don't care. But please, keep it as a reasonable volume. It was up almost as loud as it could go. And when I asked him politely to turn it down I got a nasty "Shut your door, stupid. You don't have to listen to this. Turn on your own music or something." Okay, fine. A.) My door was closed. B.) I don't like being called stupid. And C.) My own music was on. I just couldn't hear it.

Then he just decided to make loud noises, and when I asked him to stop because I was trying to watch tv. "Turn the tv up or something. I can do what I want." Now usually, I'm not one to tattle to my parents. I can usually ignore it and turn the tv up, or just contain my frustration, but lately I seriously can't. I've gotten my mom into it, and then he's rude to her. Today, she said "Forrest, turn the music down, please. She's trying to study." And he yells back at her "Mom, its not even that loud. She's just being a brat!"

Grrrrrrrrrr. Now he's bugging me to use the computer. He was on it ALL morning. The only reason he got off was because my dad made him go somewhere with him!

I am seriously to blow up at him pretty soon. We NEVER get along. He says stupid things, and I'm sometimes embarrassed to admit he's family at school.......

UGH! Rant over. Thanks :)

[Underground_Network]

Interesting. Makes me want a little brother... :cry2:

J/k... I was a little brother at one point, but I never really got to know my brother or sister (they were actually my half-brother and half-sister, so they weren't around that often; they stayed for a max of like one month if I was lucky). But yeah, thirteen year old boys (I was one just two years ago), can be a pain in the ass. Deal with your brother however you feel necessary Autumn; if he's interfering with things you need to get done, or even with things that you just want/that entertain you, then either get him back/bug him back, get your parents involved, or play mean tricks on him. ;)

I'm full of ideas if you need any. :P

Lulz. 0.o :)

[Aηdy]

Aw hun, I know he like annoys you all the time when we're on msn talking.

It's just something you have to live with though. And to the best of your ability don't react to him, because he's getting a thrill out of pissing you off. Eventually he'll realise what he's doing isn't bothering you, and eventually he'll grow up hopefully!

[Underground_Network]

Getting even can be fun though. ;)

But yeah, don't explode at him, and don't let your anger cause you to do something irrational. Deal with it as calmly as you can, get your parents involved if you have to, and teach him a lesson if need be (which doesn't imply killing him, but doing something bothersome or causing him some "emotional discomfort" might actual work in getting him to end his torment of you).

[Blue63]

Yeesh that doesn't sound good, I can imagine how that could be a bit of a pain.

I'm an only child, it can be REALLY boring at some points, silence, monotony, yeah its all in there. But I can imagine sometimes if you had a sibling how you would just need a break from them. I wish you the best of luck, as horrible as this sounds he needs to be taught a lesson. Play with his mind a little, give him a taste of his own medicine, tape record him so when he says "I don't say stuff like that" you have sweet sweet proof. Or there is always the fist of teaching! Just kidding, try and avoid that at all costs :P

[BuryYourFlame]

i have pretty much the exact same problem autumn...except there is one difference...(you didn't mention it...so i am going to assume it isn't a problem for you)...

you see...i am sooooo much stronger than my brother...the puny smidge doesn't even know how much...almost everyday i need to try so hard not to break his jaw, b/c i know i could if i wanted to.

also...my brother has ADD or ADHD...cant remember which...so on days when he doesn't have his tablet in the mornings...he is just unbearable...(mind you...this isn't often though). i.e. he does things...esp just to annoy me...he asks me stupid questions...so i tried doing what dad said and just ignoring him...and guess what...i got in trouble for not answering his stupid questions!

i will be interested in the responses to this thread :)

[Tiberius]

Now, I don't have this problem and never did since I'm the youngest :P but my sister and I just skipped the petty stuff and got down to beating the living shit out of each other. Anyways...I'd say that if he keeps pulling this shit then knock him around a bit and teach him whose boss. I don't think you'll get in trouble since it seems that your mother is on your side. He needs to learn the pecking order one way or another.

[AllThatIsLeft]

GAHHHH.. okay at least you got the excuse he is younger.... my sister is older!!
my problem is like a mixture of autumn and declan... to NOT beat the living shit out of her. takes all my energy. i became pretty good at ignoring her, but i'm constantly getting in shit for not answering her.

SERIOUSLY. why the hell are sibling so god damned annoying.

try sleeping in the same room.

[Donkey]

I have an 8 year old sister...

... Who is a wannabe 13 year old sister...

[The Batman]

The life of a younger brother. I use to do shit like that on purpose Autumn so most of the time he is aswell. The best way to counter stuff like that is to do the opposite of what he thinks your gonna do. He think's you'll be loud and angry so be quiet and loving. The only way to fight the annoyance of a younger sibling is to send it right back 10x as hard. Try hugging and kissing him that will drive him insane and do it everytime he gets rude so he'll get the point.

[staying_alive]

Yes, i have a younger sister who drives me insane. But as for your situation, i think you need to knock him around a little bit, play some tricks on him, show him who's got the power. I do this with my younger cousins and it works great. You just gotta prove that you're the boss, and he'll stop. It seems to work like that with boys, not so much with girls (i know from experience.)

[AllThatIsLeft]

i think thomas has it down. little brothers HATE it. it'll be sweet and you cant get in trouble for it.

[AutumnDae]

Sam, hold him down. I'm going to beat him up. Seriously.

My dad just bought me a bracelet, and a Coach purse for.....well no apparent reason. Apparently Dad just felt like spoiling me. And Forrest got MAD. Like yelling, screaming, swearing at my dad mad. Dad just bought Forrest a bunch of stuff that he wanted, and did I complain that I didn't get anything then? Nope. So why should he? I swear. He's a drama queen. My dad grounded him today, thank goodness, for swearing and slamming doors.

But seriously. I can understand him getting mad IF he hadn't gotten stuff recently. But he got all his stuff less than a week ago! And now, when I get 2 presents (That I didn't even ask for. Dad offered to buy my bracelet without me even asking, and I mentioned once that I liked the purse in the store, and he got it for me today.) its a big issue.

Aren't girls supposed to be drama queens? Not boys?

[byee]

The offer was for you to move in with us, Auty. I'll have Jeeves come fetch you. And on the way out, he'll hold Forrest for you.

Your brother is jealous, remember 'sibling rivarly'? So, eventhough he got stuff, so did you. He focuses on what you got, as his older sister, rather than what he got. Mercifully and thankfully, you did not throw a temper tantrum. Please don't, i couldn't bear the image of that in my head.

Can I make a recommendation, as your Forrest seems to respond from his own sense of competitiveness? Either you or your dad should try explaining to him that you guy are not competiting for *stuff* from your folks, and that you both get your fair share. Point out to him that his hysteria suggests he believes otherwise, and ask him why he thinks this to be the case.

He likes you (Understandable!). I think a few minutes explaining things to him might go far, as would your interest in the things he got from your folks recently. Demonstrate an interest, i think he might experience your realtionship as less threatening and less competitive. Remember, affliitation is the opposite of competition, and you cannot feel both simulatneously. Manage it so he feels the former, not the latter.

[AutumnDae]

My dad explained that 'This is not a competition to see who can get more gifts. I bought you your things last week and now I got something for your sister.' And I don't even know what Forrest said to that. I walked into my room because I was getting mad.

And Sam, I highly doubt he likes me. Dirty looks and insults as I pass by? I don't think that means your like someone. I try my hardest to be nice, but honestly, I can't. I lose my patience so easily with him, and I don't know why. Every. Little. Thing. He. Does. Irritates me. And I feel the need to point out his flaws. Payback maybe? We've never gotten along.

Do you think that the reason we don't get along is because we are 2 years apart? Considering the fact that none of my other siblings are that close to me (or are that close to one another. Jamie+Kristine have 3 years, Kristine and I have 4, Forrest and Alex have 4) would that create our struggle to get along?

[theOperaGhost]

Closeness in age could be making it worse, but not necessarily. My sister and I were 5 and a half years apart and we never got along. We get along now, but we live only a few blocks apart and I don't even see her once a month (although now that the city is covered with snow and ice I may go to her house more often). I think we are both lucky that she moved out when I was 12 because more years living together would have certainly been worse than you and your brother.

Even though he seems to be a huge brat to you, I'm sure that he still loves you. My sister and I would stand up for each other any time we needed to. It is kind of just the typical sibling thing. Some get along well, but to be honest, I don't think most do. Doesn't mean they don't love each other though.

[byee]

My dad explained that 'This is not a competition to see who can get more gifts. I bought you your things last week and now I got something for your sister.' And I don't even know what Forrest said to that. I walked into my room because I was getting mad.

And Sam, I highly doubt he likes me. Dirty looks and insults as I pass by? I don't think that means your like someone. I try my hardest to be nice, but honestly, I can't. I lose my patience so easily with him, and I don't know why. Every. Little. Thing. He. Does. Irritates me. And I feel the need to point out his flaws. Payback maybe? We've never gotten along.

Do you think that the reason we don't get along is because we are 2 years apart? Considering the fact that none of my other siblings are that close to me (or are that close to one another. Jamie+Kristine have 3 years, Kristine and I have 4, Forrest and Alex have 4) would that create our struggle to get along?


If you've never gotten along, then there's a history of that and as they say, history has a way of repeating itself.

But, being the older sib (and you will absolutely not like this, so brace yourself), you're the one who sets the tone for the relationship. That tone was set a while ago, and again, it sounds like it was a bad tone at that.

Little kids (esp. if it's a lil bro) look to their older sibs (esp. if it's a sister) for attention and nurturance, that's what they're after. If you can give him some of that, and keep your history of disliking him out of it, keep it to yourself, then he might start responding more favorably to you. Right now, he might be doing what he's doing b/c he's furious with you for rejecting and ignoring him. He doesn't see his side to it, as the younger bro, he feels entitled to that part of you he probably knows is there but don't share with him. It's not right, of course, for him to torment you for it, but he's just a kid (even if he's only -2 yrs), and he's a boy, too.

Just a thought, maybe if you managed your feelings about him differently and made an effort to show him some attention and niceness, he'd respond diff. It's hard to be angry with someone who's giving you their time and attention, afterall.

Just MNSHO.

[MisterAndrews]

Me and my sister are 4 years apart and she HATES me, with a vengance. But, she still loves me im sure, because she gets really upset if anything happens to me.

Like Sam said, set a good tone. If he's being nice, be nice back, if he's being nasty, don't be nasty back, be polite. Let him rant till he calms down, then regain control of the situation by putting your point across and trying to reach a compromise with him. An argument only works if there is resistance, so don't give him any... He can't argue with himself! And sometimes it's best to just leave the room. Show him some respect too, he thinks he's becoming a man so treat him like one if he acts like one.

Try this, its great. Think of something you have that he needs (i use my laptop charger, she broke hers.) When hes nice let him have it. When hes not, tell him he cant have it and tell him quite calmly why, and that he can have it when hes being nicer. It works pretty much instantly and it shows control, not immaturity.

[Nihilus]

My 12 year old brother is literally just like that but of course he is not that bad.

[IAMWILL]

Wow are you my sister? She's 15, I'm a 13 year old younger brother... And this is probably what she'd right... Except my names not Forrest, I don't do anything like this, and the only reason she gets mad at me is because when I outsmart her or win an argument she calls me "a little fucking retarded bitch".... Right..... Now considering it is completely illogical for me to explain this, here goes:

Some boys CRAVE attention, they just can't get enough, wether it's positive or negative. Obviously, your brother is one of those boys, and time is the only cure. Very, very, angrily and sadly. Considering everyone above explained this well, I'll just add what I didn't read. If you overwhelm him with attention, he'll lay off for awhile. Put him in your shoes, to be short.

[AutumnDae]

Thanks Will.

I will possibly try these ways.....when I'm not ready to kill him. I had an almost hour long screaming match with him last night, in which I used every swear word that I'm aware of.

So, when I'm ready to maybe talk to him again, then I might do these.

[Jean Poutine]

Break his legs.

Whenever my niece was annoying me I'd throw her to the ground and give her a good, tight armlock. She stopped real fast.

They say violence is not the answer and that's bullshit. The prospect of pain changes people around.

[bobtom]

Nevermind.

[rageingecho]

tell him if he dosnt stop annoying you your going to tell your parents why he's in the shower for so long (hes probably jacking off)
for some reason some families look down on that lol

[AllThatIsLeft]

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