Friends Need Help

[SingASadSong4408]

one of my friends Jess was admitted into the hospital for cutting/attempted suicide. She's a seventh grader, and I'm freakishly worried about her. I went through a period of time when I was her age where I cut (its hard to explain. i never wanted to die, just, cutting helped the pain.) but one of my friends, I probably owe my life to him, helped me stop. then I found out about my best friend, nicole, who cut, and I started up again, but sparingly. I keep trying to convince both of these friends to stop, but I feel hypocritical because I do/did the same thing. I havent cut in two months, but both of my friends still do, and I just need to help them, but I dont know how to. please, any ideas? please.

[byee]

Perhaps you're really 'freakishly' worried about yourself here. Your friend Jess is in a place where she can be treated by professionals so she (hopefully) doesn't continue to harm herself. You, on the other hand, are left untreated, left to your own self destructive impluses. You're identifying with their self destructive impluses b/c you have the same ones, knowing they're doing this only reminds you that you're vulnerable, too.

The solution here is to get some profesional help for yourelf, tell some trusted adult what you're feeling and what you're doing to yourself. Likewise, if your other friends are doing the same things to themselves, they should be encouraged to do the same. That way, you can all identify with each others self restraint and self help, rather than self harm.

[SingASadSong4408]

hm.... reverse phsycology... you dont get that very much anymore, do you? ha. Im not quite sure if I agree with you, but I do apprectiate you writing back and responding. Also, its a nice refresher to see people who write in proper english, not 'omg stuf ttfn LOL OMJ!' type things. thank you! :D

[bunsy]

youve got to sort you out before you can sort your friends out. Sam is right - in every other one of his posts ive seen hes always right, listen to him and get yourself sorted too, but you are not 'vulnerable' you are only insecure and unsure about what you need to do to help others and you can fix this because you are caring.

once youve sorted yourself out, your friends will see you as a role model, you stopped why cant they?
bunsy x