Clichéd problem - but please still help.

[WelshLad]

*Sigh* Here's the deal. I've been going out with this girl for 7 weeks.
For New Year's weekend, she went to Tenby (100 miles away) to spend it with her family, which i was upset about because of not spending our first new years eve together.

I ended up having a party for close friends but at midnight, me and my best girl friend ended up kissing at midnight. But that's not all my dears. I also said prior to this that she could sleep in my sister's old bed for the night.

When we went upstairs, we started talking on her bed about my relationship with my gf and how i was feeling it lost its spark. My friend told me that she had a crush on me about a week getting together with my gf. I thought i didn't feel the same at the time but over a few weeks i began to wonder if she is more than a friend.

We ended up kissing again in bed (that's all we did though). I felt horrible afterwards because of my gf.

I still do like my gf and at the beginning of our relationship, it was awesome. We were making out like 24/7 and spending loads of time with each other. Now, it feels like she doesnt like me as much as i thought she did and every time i go to kiss her, i feel she's slightly reluctant.

So, should I break up with her or talk to her about where the relationships going? Should I get together with my friend? Should I tell my gf about the kiss? I know some people say honesty's the best policy but I really don't wanna hurt her - she doesn't deserve that.

This problems been getting me stressed for the past few days and its affecting my school work (i have important exams nxt week).
I would really appreciate your help and advice guys and girls :)

[r0x0row3nd]

well... if u read my sig "i believe hate nor emotions of love should be kept in longer than they must" but i think u took it wrong way lol just kiddin but u did have a gf so... i think if u should talk to her see if she really does love u enough to keep a relationship going and if she breaks up with u 1st then ur lucky because u wont hurt her but u dont have to hurt her u just say its not working out im really srry i hope ur not upset somthing along the lines of that she shouldnt cry or anything but dont go with that other girl 2 soon then ur x will know u cheated on her cause u got a new gf so fast but if she really does like u just as much maybe more then u should stay with her love can be an addiction its not always love somtimes its just a desire some people dont relize that so i tried lol

[WelshLad]

I think it's a bit ironic that our song is Mr. Brightside by the Killers, which is about cheating and breaking up.

I still think there's a shot at making it work.

[r0x0row3nd]

there is but u do have to ttell the truth and get it off ur chest and maybe she wont care to much just say somthing like it was a huge mistake and i dont know wat i was thinking will u ever fogive me :( but then she slaps u and breaks up with u just kiddin lol

[WelshLad]

but she slaps hard though :(

[r0x0row3nd]

how would u know........ oh lol u got own3d she bitch slapped u??!! lol well i hope our advice helps gl

[WelshLad]

urgh well im still 50/50 on telling her. i'll talk to her 2moro anyway to see if we can put the spark back into our relationship.

[redcar]

i dont think u need to hell her whats happened.
sure it would do no good. it would only make thigns worse.

[redcar]

well if i was going out with a guy and it was over it would prob hurt me more if he kissed another guy.

[WelshLad]

I'd probably forgive her if i was convinced it wouldn't happen again but i don't know how she'd react.

[Trademarked]

i say, if you have a good relaitionship then tell her about the kiss.
my gf (haha now im gay) cheated on me loads of times and i hated her for that after we broke up.
because she didnt tell me during our relationship.
she wasnt honest.
be honest, thats the key

[r0x0row3nd]

i agree on telling her it would be shitty if she found out by som1 else u would have no hope at all for the relationship if that haooened but if YOU tell her it might end up being fine better than if she found out maybe by.....the friend u made out with u would ...... well..... u would get killed by ur conchence if u didnt tell her so u should tell her dont listen to the unexperianced people who said dont ive been through this shit TELL HER!!!

[beautifullytragic]

tell her, she deserves that...pm me and I'll tell you why...I'll tell you about something that happened to me not too long ago.

[ScotsGirl]

It is entirely your decision whether or not you choose to tell your gf about what happened. Either way though, just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.
If you choose to tell her, dont do it because you feel guilty or because someone else has told you they think you should, do it because you want to be honest, you want to talk things over, you want her to know how much of a mistake you think it is.
If you decide not to tell her, then make sure its not because you want to hide it from or or that youre scared of how she will react, do it because you dont want to hurt her uneccessarily, because you want to put the past behind you and really give the relationship a go, you know its a mistake and it wont happen again.

Before you do anything though, I suggest you think hard about what it is exactly that you are wanting, whether it is a relationship with your current girlfriend, whether you want to maybe have a break from dating and be single for a while or whether this girl you kissed is worth trying to have a relationship with.

Only you know how much each person means to you so only you can decide what to do.

I hope things turn out alright, and goodluck for your exams! :D

xxx

[WelshLad]

If you decide not to tell her, then make sure its not because you want to hide it from or or that youre scared of how she will react, do it because you dont want to hurt her uneccessarily, because you want to put the past behind you and really give the relationship a go, you know its a mistake and it wont happen again.


That's exactly why I don't wanna tell her. I don't think I need a break from dating - it's only been a month and a half. I still wanna go out with her. I talked to her the other day about the way she's been acting and she told me she didn't realise i felt like that and she does rly rly rly like me. I haven't seen her since though.

It's definately worth giving it a go coz we got loads in common and she means a lot to me. I can see this havin a future but not if she's gonna be acting the way she was.

But thanks a lot lynnie babe :D and every1 else.