Dad

[bmoy1920]

My dad is chatting with people on chat rooms and is showing himself on webcam. What should I do?

[Requin]

Really? You are definatley sure about this?

Well to be honest I think you need to be cautious here. Sadly I don't have the time to do a proper answer...I'll be back though.

For now, I would keep a cool head about it, you are 100% sure about this, accusing someone and then finding out that it's wrong could turn nasty.
Also, this will be moved but I'm not sure where too...

[bmoy1920]

I am 100% sure...I have found out his username and have chatted with him as someone else.

[Requin]

Moving to Friends and Family.

[Skeln]

Hmm...well their are different reasons why he could be doing this. I don't know, I would just keep a cool head, like Requin said. What type of people does he chat with and is he married or what?

[byee]

Oh!............My!...............!

First, let me ask what kind if chat rooms and web camming is he doing. Please tell me it's innocent. If it is, then leave it alone. Respect his privacy.

If it's 'inappropriate' (as in 'sexual') AND/OR it involves nudity, or is otherwise illegal, I think you have to tell your mom. Not so much to snitch or get him in trouble, but to stop some behavior(s) that are clearly not wholesome nor healthy.

[bmoy1920]

Yes he is definitely doing things naked and sexual. I know that he is definitely showing the "boys" when everyone else is in bed. I don't really wont to tell mom because that could ruin marriage.

[Camazotz]

Yes he is definitely doing things naked and sexual. I know that he is definitely showing the "boys" when everyone else is in bed. I don't really wont to tell mom because that could ruin marriage.

It sounds like their marriage is already ruined if your dad has goes onto webcam sites. You have to tell somebody, if he's actually doing something wrong.

[byee]

It sounds like their marriage is already ruined if your dad has goes onto webcam sites. You have to tell somebody, if he's actually doing something wrong.

Ah, that Camazotz guy, another really smart one! Shhhh...he really does have the wisdom of someone the age on his avatar, I wouldn't be surprised to learn that distinguished gentleman is actually him.

OK, I agree here (obviously), if your dad is camming naked and chatting online there's a real problem there, he needs some help, so telling your mom will facilitate that.

Being naked online instead of with your wife is a pretty clear sign of some pretty serious problems. You're doing nothing more here than bringing them to the surface so they can be treated properly.

[AllThatIsLeft]

did i read showing "boys" ?
as in a grown male showing little boys his sexual stuff?

you should talk to your mother. It is not right.
and it has to be stopped.

[The Batman]

Telling your mom wouldn't be a good first thing to do. You need to talk to your dad about this first. Tell him how you feel about it and let him know that you will tell your mom if he doesn't stop.

[jack straw]

Telling your mom wouldn't be a good first thing to do. You need to talk to your dad about this first. Tell him how you feel about it and let him know that you will tell your mom if he doesn't stop.


I'm not sure if i'd tell Dad, unless he was the kind, forgiving type (although if he's showing his "boyz" to wierdo's on the web, I dont think he sound's like he's completely sane.) He might turn abusive; idk, just be smart about whatever you do.

[Stark]

You should tell your dad that you know what he's doing, and threaten him, that if he doesn't stop, that you will tel your mother. It may sound extreme, but it should work, and it's the only thing I could think of.

[pontiacdriver]

My dad is chatting with people on chat rooms and is showing himself on webcam. What should I do?

This is a really complicated situation, but if your Father is doing sexual stuff with people online, especially underage folks, then I promise you that what he is doing will come to the attention of someone pretty soon. I think it is far worse for your Father to be caught by law enforcement than by your telling your Mum. If your earlier reference "to the boys" is your Father exposing himself to underage boys, then you really have a serious problem. If telling your Mum is too hard, then I believe you should go to a trusted adult like a guidance couselor, a clergyperson, or a relative you know who will be impartial and fair. The fact of the matter is that your Father is being irresponsible here, and he has to deal with the consequences. As mentioned above, your parents' marriage already is in trouble if your Father is doing sex acts with random people online, and your Mother has right to know what is going on. In worst case scenerio, if your Father is meeting up with random people online and he contracts a STD and has sex with your Mum, then that is really bad for her. Basically, what your Father is doing has to stop, and I am so sorry that you are in this position.