problem with friend

[ezduzit323]

I have this friend who wants to masturbate with me but I don't want to masturbate with him. I mean I've done it with 2 other guys but I was okay with them. He just does stuff that makes me uncomfortable like keeps asking me to do stuff. I don't think the rules let me say what he asks of me but I'm getting tired of it but I don't want to go to his parents or anything.

the thing that sucks most is that when he's not bugging me about it, he's a pretty good friend? does anyone have advice on how I can get him to knock off asking me to masturbate with him without losing him as a friend?

13 by the way.

[clr9823]

We can imagine what he is asking you to do, but it would be in the rules to say "give him a blow job" etc (just no "gory" details or stories).

Well, he should accept that No means No. Tell him so there is no doubt, and if he continues, do you really want him as your friend? If it starts getting serious, If recommend going to one of your teachers right away..

[george]

I have this friend who wants to masturbate with me but I don't want to masturbate with him. I mean I've done it with 2 other guys but I was okay with them. He just does stuff that makes me uncomfortable like keeps asking me to do stuff. I don't think the rules let me say what he asks of me but I'm getting tired of it but I don't want to go to his parents or anything.

the thing that sucks most is that when he's not bugging me about it, he's a pretty good friend? does anyone have advice on how I can get him to knock off asking me to masturbate with him without losing him as a friend?

13 by the way.

Just flat out say that you don't want to. If he's really your friend, then he'll respect your answer and you guys can go on being friends.

[Spunky]

Well George said if he's a real friend he'll respect your answer and let it go. Umm I think the best bet would be like tell him I don't feel right doing it or it's agains my religion well that's if he doesn't know about the other guys you did it with.

[Skeln]

Ok, I asked the EXACT same question a few mnths ago. It was the exact same situation, I've done it with other friendsyet with this one, I just feel uncomfortable because he doesn't take it at my pace, he tries to rush me into things I don't like to do. Just say no to him, and if he doesn't listen, then is he really your friend? Even with my friend, when were not "doing stuff" together, he's perfectly fine and a great friend. So yeah, just say no. Really, just say the reason why you don't want to as well. Don't make up things, if you find it disgraceful then tell him. If you fele like he's using you then tell him. It's what I did, made things alot better.

[marty]

if he makes you uncomfortable, there is absolutely no reason for you to continue with what he wants. Simply tell him no. You may encounter some resistance on his part, but if you really don't want this to happen, and keep refusing, he will let up eventually. After this entire ordeal however, you should ask yourself, "is this really a friend, or was he only interested in me sexually?"

[pontiacdriver]

I have this friend who wants to masturbate with me but I don't want to masturbate with him. I mean I've done it with 2 other guys but I was okay with them. He just does stuff that makes me uncomfortable like keeps asking me to do stuff. I don't think the rules let me say what he asks of me but I'm getting tired of it but I don't want to go to his parents or anything.

the thing that sucks most is that when he's not bugging me about it, he's a pretty good friend? does anyone have advice on how I can get him to knock off asking me to masturbate with him without losing him as a friend?

13 by the way.

Your situation is super hard for two reasons: this guy is an otherwise good friend with you when he is not sexual; secondly, he might know that you masturbate with the other two guys. I think the first problem you are going to have is that if this guy knows you masturbate with the other guys he is genuniely wonder why you can do so with them and not with him. I am sure that you don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him that he is creepy in the bedroom, and you need to find a face saving way to let him know that you are not interested. I think the best solution to both problems above is to simply tell this guy that you really like him as a friend and that you value his friendship too much to make things complicated by sexuality. Tell him that you like being around him as a friend and that friends don't need to do sexual things with each other to stay close. You need to make it clear to him that you want to be his friend and that doing sexual things with him is off the table as you can say doing something sexual with him is like doing something with your own brother, for example. In short, you need to draw a line in the sand and say that you want to be his buddy and that being a buddy must not include being sexual. You need to tell him that if he really likes you as a friend he is going to respect your preferences and not push things. Much as you respect his needs and wishes you friend needs to do the same for you otherwise your relationship with him is not a true friendship.

[teendude_1991]

Just tell him you don't want to do anything like that and tell him to leave you alone about it. If he is a true friend he will respect your wishes.

[marktheman]

Just tell him you're not comfortable doing that stuff.
Like somebody said, if he knows you do it with the other guys it makes it more complicated. In that case tell him that you two are closer friends and you wouldn't feel right doing it with him. What somebody said about comparing it to doing it with your brother might be a good way to go.