Next move?

[clr9823]

Ok, where to begin. Right, I'm a 14 y/o bi-curious type male, and I fancy my best friend. I need to tell you a long story about us before I can ask the question, so please bear with me.
Well, I have fancied my (gay/bi) best friend for a little over six months. In the beggining it was just curiousness/horniness, but from then it has developed into something more (affection?). I don't think he had realised how I felt or about my orientation, even though we did mild things such as rubbing each others legs (and getting hard).
However, about 1 and a half months ago I did a double whammy, I came out to him and professed how I felt. Although he took it pretty well, he rejected me on the grounds that he didn't want to ruin our friendship.
We're still friends, and normally I would have dropped all hope of ever doing anything with him, but when I'm with him I get vibes that he does have feelings for me. I'm not sure, but it's just the way we laugh, chat and look into each others eyes. So I want to start having a relationship with him, but I don't want to push him at all, I want him to be as comfortable with it as I am.
So I was thinking maybe invite him to my house and see where things go...? Is this a good strategy? Even if you have no help to offer, some comforting would be nice cause it has been getting me pretty down lately.:(

[Dagenadriel]

If he doesn't want to, then don't push it.

[byee]

You akready have a relationship with him! Friendship counts, you know. You guys sound like you have a pretty tight bond now, whatever you call it. Don't let the absence of sex interfere with the emotional piece! Recognize that what you have seems pretty special.

I'd say you got your answer already, and it might be wise to respect it. Focus not so much on what you're missing (the sex) but rather what you have, the emotional piece. Enjoy it and see what happens, don't look so much to change it.

[Θάνατος]

Yeah don't push it with your friend he has already stated that he doesn't want to have your relationship ruin. I think if something is gong to happen it will happen but if you you pressure your friend you may lose him as a friend too then what will you do?

It is best to be friends for now.

[aid821]

i agree witht he majority, i think it's best to remain good buddies with him, if you push him, he may resent you and not want to be your friend. remember, freindship is better than no friendship. hope it all gets sorted out for you :)

[clr9823]

Don't let the absence of sex interfere with the emotional piece!


To be honest, I'd much rather an emotional relationship than a sexual one. Don't get me wrong, sexual would be good, but I feel much more emotionally attached to him and would be completely prepared to forgo a sexual relationship in favour of an emotional one. A man can dream...

Yeah don't push it with your friend he has already stated that he doesn't want to have your relationship ruin. I think if something is gong to happen it will happen but if you you pressure your friend you may lose him as a friend too then what will you do?

It is best to be friends for now.

Sorry if I didn't make this clear in my original post, but I really don't want to push him because I don't want to lose our friendship. But it would be nice if it could be something more than just friends.