Your Opinion

[Adam88]

Hey hows everybody. This question really isn't a disaster or anything tragic, but I just wanted some peoples opinion on my friend. The other day I went to a wrestling show, and yes I will admit wrestling is my guilty pleasure when I am not working or going to school lol. Anyway, I and my friend were in the front row, and one of the wrestlers through his bandanna out of the ring, and where did it land? It unfortunatly landed outside the guardrail but landed in front of me. So I tried to reach down and grab it, but I couldn't, so my friend who is about the same hight as me, but has a longer reach and length saw it as well. I spotted it first and I simply said "you try", because I couldn't reach it. And what do you know he got. What annoyed me was that he saw me struggle to get but kept it anyway. You see I am not a cheap person, I am a typical geek who will spend money for an autograph, or rare comic, but he thinks its stupid. If something is free he will keep it. For example, if I, him, and his girlfriend go to a restaurant, and the check is $50 and over, he's the type to only give a $1 tip. In fact I even offered to buy the bandana from him, but he said "i"ll just keep it as a momento" The truth is that I do like him as a friend, because we agree a lot on things, and even have the same anger issues, and I am grateful to go to these social events with him. Its just that I am not going to argue about the bandanna with him, but feel that his flaw is being greedy and selfish. If I had a friend who spotted $20 dollars behind a fence, and they could not reach it, and I could. Its abvious I would give it to them, because I was only helping. So what does anyone think about this situation?

[byee]

Hiya Adam!

Remember the saying "Finders keepers"? Well, eventhough you saw it first and wanted it more, it was he who was able to reach it, and therefore it's his. So, eventhough you wanted it more and pointed it out to him and suggested he reach for it, and eventhough you'd give it to him if the situation was in reverse, he's under no obligation to do so.

What you can do is let him know how much that bandanna means to you and that you would very much like to work out some kind of deal with him to obtain it, or at least share it. Sometimes, friends will do things like that, esp. after the initial thrill of getting it wears off. but sometimes, they value it as much as you do, so they won't. Maybe he would let you visit with it, though, or otherwise share it.

[Adam88]

Yeah I guess I see what your saying SAM, perhaps I just have been more specific and said "can you get that for me" lol. Anyway, I suppose I have to think in a more Bhuddist sense, and not be attracted to mere material objects. Thanks anyway.

[byee]

There's a reason Buddhism isn't one of the top religions in the US, Adam, esp. in NY (where Im from, too, btw). J/K, J/K.

Try to work out some way of sharing it, so you have possession of it at least temporarily.

[Adam88]

lol, now thats funny. Anyway, I'll see what I can do. But what barthers me is that his mother actually bought him an autograph picture of a wrestler, and he got mad at her because she used "money" to get it. Or even the wrestler with the bandanna on he could not stand. I guess what barthers me is he'll take whatever is free, and could careless about the wrestler. Thanks anyway.