Help!

[The Joker]

Each time I like a girl, I am seriously afraid to ask her out, or even tell her that I like her. How do I gain the confidence to do this?

[IAMWILL]

What a great question!

Put simply, confidence develops with time. To build that confidence faster though and improve your chances of getting with this girl, you got to spend time together. Text her or aim her, get to know her, build trust between you two. If you can talk to her and have nice conversations, you'll feel a lot better when it comes to asking her out, because you will already be her friend.

[The Joker]

Thanks man, that helped me out a lot.

[byee]

What a great question!

Put simply, confidence develops with time. To build that confidence faster though and improve your chances of getting with this girl, you got to spend time together. Text her or aim her, get to know her, build trust between you two. If you can talk to her and have nice conversations, you'll feel a lot better when it comes to asking her out, because you will already be her friend.

Wow, yay Will! This is absolutely correct! (and well said, too!).

Guys freak themselves out unnecessarily by needing to define the realtionship too soon. Things don't start out that formally, they start out as a common denominator (remember them from math?). In this case, you guys are just people, one of whom happens to be a girl. Just get to know her as a person, spend some casual time with her just hanging out and making small talk. See what develops with time, don't rush it, and don't look to define it before it's ready to be defined.

Eventhough it might seem unclear as you begin and it seems like a good idea to seek that clariication by 'asking her out' or telling her you like her, your anxiety here is justified b/c you're aware on a deeper level that you don't yet have the familiarity with her to actually say these things to her. Tolerate the ambiguity, and get to know her, and the anxiety will disappear.

[The Joker]

I have another question. How much truth is there in the statement that girls prefer the meaner guys to the nice ones?

[byee]

I have another question. How much truth is there in the statement that girls prefer the meaner guys to the nice ones?


Well, I suppose every girl has her own preference, but in general, people are attracted to those who are warm, nurturing, emotionally available. 'Meanness' doesn't really fit into that, typically those who prefer 'meanness' to warmth aren't very healthy.

[NeverTooLate]

I have another question. How much truth is there in the statement that girls prefer the meaner guys to the nice ones?

depends on the girl some like nice guys and some like mean punks

[dyslexiaa]

I have another question. How much truth is there in the statement that girls prefer the meaner guys to the nice ones?

Girls like guys who are confident. In high school, a lot of the confident people are douchebags. If you can be nice and confident, it'll work out great; but it's a whole lot easier to be a complete ass and get girls.

[Beautiful Obsession]

well i have no confidence in myself wot so eva.

maybe giv her a text. just asking if shes ok?
then once you'v got texting after a few weeks just
say.. i like you alot.. or sumet like that?
if she turns u down dont be put off

good luck xxxx